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I’m a bi/pan teen in an anti-LGBT environment.
- Thread starter BlueKoala
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Thank you so much!! I’m sure I’ll be able to get through this, it’s just kind of scary. But there are so many people that have gone through what I am going through and they are now living happily, and I’m sure that I’ll be fine, too. It’s just a little painful and nerve wrecking. 
I come from this kind of family and my father is a preacher. Your parents read fairly narcissistic from what you've said so far. You are completely correct about the way religion is used to spread and justify hate & condemnation and it's absolutely wrong. It's evil. Feel free to message if you want..if your parents are spewing "you are brainwashed by the left" you can pretty much guess they have been brainwashed by people who hate the left and you can ignore their thoughts on that. Many religious people simply use the bible and christianity to excuse their prejudices and embold them. I'm sorry for this. It destroyed me as well. Bunker down and make a plan to get out. You are lucky being young because safe houses for lgbqt exist for you. I didn't know about that when I was young or I would have gone probably.
Thank you. I’m not really sure if they’re narcissistic or not, but I do remember watching a video with a person who does have such parents and their parents shared an eerie amount of qualities with my own...maybe that’s the case with my own parents, but I’m not entirely sure. This gives me even more motivation to get out of this house, honestly. And you’re right, there are places that could take me in that help LGBT+ people who are in need — I’ll have to look into that, too. Thank you for your message. I’m sorry that you had to go through something similar...it’s scary how common these situations are.
Oh, it’s totally fine. To tell you the truth, I have wondered myself if they are narcissistic or not before, many, many times. I don’t necessarily want to say “yes, they definitely are narcissistic”, but honestly...just because they don’t show all of the signs doesn’t mean that they aren’t. I guess the only way I’ll figure it out is when I’m always from them for a long time, and I interact with other people more without their presence (when I’m away from them for a long enough time that I can see their behavior from another point of view).
I still deeply care about them, and it hurts me that this is how they behave/think. Although, I’m still extremely glad that I’m starting to question them and their morals now that I’m older. I don’t really voice those questions to them or have a normal conversation about how their behavior bothers me, because I know that they’d get mad and they might take away my electronics to ground me for months or something as punishment (I’m sure they’d view me questioning them as if I was “brainwashed” by the left. Yup. That’s their only argument that I’ve heard from them when I voice opinions that contradict theirs).That’s what they did when I was clearly depressed and in my most depressed state yet (in middle school), and honestly, I don’t see how taking away a person’s belongings that makes them happy (and actually distracts them from such horrible thoughts that depression causes) would help them in the slightest....it didn’t really help me. It just made me more stressed, but they think it helped me. My own mother even admitted to me that she could tell I was feeling extremely bad, but instead of asking me about it, she just called me lazy (as did my father) all throughout middle school. It also doesn’t help when they know I have a disorder which makes it hard for me to function without pills well, and makes tasks thrice as hard to do than someone who doesn’t have the disorder, they just keep calling me lazy when I’m trying my best but they just won’t accept it. It made me question whether I actually have the condition or not, or whether I’m really just as lazy as they tell me I am — to the point where up until recently, I agreed with them that I’m just a lazy person, when I’m reality I KNOW it’s not true, because I genuinely try my best.
Then they had the nerve to be surprised when I started valuing my scores over my mental health, when that’s literally all what they’ve been doing through my middle school years. Again, I can’t bring this up, since they’d just deny it and make up an excuse (or just say that I heavily misinterpreted things, saying things like “you should’ve came to us and told us” when I literally couldn’t since they yelled at me literally everyday for having bad grades and got angry when I made mistakes).
I’m really sorry for the wall of text — I just went off on a rant there. It just feels like a relief that I can finally voice my opinions about my parents at least somewhere now, instead of just keeping it all completely to myself.
I still deeply care about them, and it hurts me that this is how they behave/think. Although, I’m still extremely glad that I’m starting to question them and their morals now that I’m older. I don’t really voice those questions to them or have a normal conversation about how their behavior bothers me, because I know that they’d get mad and they might take away my electronics to ground me for months or something as punishment (I’m sure they’d view me questioning them as if I was “brainwashed” by the left. Yup. That’s their only argument that I’ve heard from them when I voice opinions that contradict theirs).That’s what they did when I was clearly depressed and in my most depressed state yet (in middle school), and honestly, I don’t see how taking away a person’s belongings that makes them happy (and actually distracts them from such horrible thoughts that depression causes) would help them in the slightest....it didn’t really help me. It just made me more stressed, but they think it helped me. My own mother even admitted to me that she could tell I was feeling extremely bad, but instead of asking me about it, she just called me lazy (as did my father) all throughout middle school. It also doesn’t help when they know I have a disorder which makes it hard for me to function without pills well, and makes tasks thrice as hard to do than someone who doesn’t have the disorder, they just keep calling me lazy when I’m trying my best but they just won’t accept it. It made me question whether I actually have the condition or not, or whether I’m really just as lazy as they tell me I am — to the point where up until recently, I agreed with them that I’m just a lazy person, when I’m reality I KNOW it’s not true, because I genuinely try my best.
Then they had the nerve to be surprised when I started valuing my scores over my mental health, when that’s literally all what they’ve been doing through my middle school years. Again, I can’t bring this up, since they’d just deny it and make up an excuse (or just say that I heavily misinterpreted things, saying things like “you should’ve came to us and told us” when I literally couldn’t since they yelled at me literally everyday for having bad grades and got angry when I made mistakes).
I’m really sorry for the wall of text — I just went off on a rant there. It just feels like a relief that I can finally voice my opinions about my parents at least somewhere now, instead of just keeping it all completely to myself.
I'm going to respond later. I got triggered reading you and now can't think to write. I got triggered because reading you is like stepping back in time twenty years. Holy shit you remind me of myself in this post.
Hey you are describing gaslighting. What is the condition, are they doctors? I'll write back more thorough tomorrow. I'm glad you wrote.
Hey you are describing gaslighting. What is the condition, are they doctors? I'll write back more thorough tomorrow. I'm glad you wrote.
Oh, I’m so sorry!! I didn’t mean to trigger you, I’m really sorry, I should’ve put a warning in my comment!! You don’t have to respond to me if you don’t want to, I understand if you don’t/won’t. I don’t want to upset you any further! I really don’t want to make anyone upset. I’d rather have other people take care of their mental well being, than respond to me. I mean that.
They aren’t doctors, but I was professionally diagnosed when I was a small child (I think I was around eight years old). I have ADHD, which when it even goes medicated makes me lose focus kind of easily (I might be on semi-weak dose of meds though, which would explain why I have trouble focusing even when I am medicated). It honestly is extremely hard to live with, making everyday chores extremely slow to do since I keep jumping from one thing to another, and I literally keep forgetting extremely important tasks that I need to do because the moment that thought to do it leaves my mind, the next moment I remember about it is an hour or so before the deadline.
They aren’t doctors, but I was professionally diagnosed when I was a small child (I think I was around eight years old). I have ADHD, which when it even goes medicated makes me lose focus kind of easily (I might be on semi-weak dose of meds though, which would explain why I have trouble focusing even when I am medicated). It honestly is extremely hard to live with, making everyday chores extremely slow to do since I keep jumping from one thing to another, and I literally keep forgetting extremely important tasks that I need to do because the moment that thought to do it leaves my mind, the next moment I remember about it is an hour or so before the deadline.
