Greetings, Its been a long time since my last post. Im okay now, things still okay currently but there's some condition on my bestie and Im really concerned it bothers me a lot
Had this friend since middle school, she's rlly cherful and I often play at her house, our parents is close too. She has a older sibling that currently married and had kids.
I saw too many things, bcs slowly I learnt that her sibling's partner(Let me call X) is really unstable. She often being burdened on how her sibling's marriage is so toxic. Her sibling's accused for cheating although there's no proof(beside there's no time to cheat anw since they had 3 kids), X lied couple of times to her and her parent( I dont know the details but its pretty serious). Two times attempted suicide, and I think there's more and more but now things maybe lead into divorce now. One week ago they supposed to celebrate christmast together but they got a huge fight. Its really unpleasant to heard how X saying things like he's being threatened, scammed, abused physically but everything is a lie. They found out too that he lied abt many things about her that got her into a nasty gossip.
The problem is her siblings seems really not ready if things goes down for real, and X family is not well informed abt this. I read X text, its full of tantrums, suicide threat, victim blaming. I and my friend just though she really should get divorce bfr X going worse and ruin her family, but theyre confused and anxious not sure what would hppen next. My parents often help them like babysitting or just giving food(they're fine financially, its just how we communicate and maintain relationship), so they pretty much aware and warn me to stay away.
I dont want to just stay away and do nothing bcs she's one of my lifesaver. When I just on the bottom of insanity she talks to me. I want to give her an advice or stay together. Were supposed to plan our next holiday trip but now she looks really sad.
I though maybe I should just ask here. What kind of advice I should say like her sibling really need to divorce? I understand there's some kind of mental ilness that X had and I can relate, that the ideal is they should help him go to professional etc. But Her family now dont care abt him anymore nearly hate him for real bcs he caused so many trouble, X family ignore him too. I want my bestie looking bright again and happy.
Had this friend since middle school, she's rlly cherful and I often play at her house, our parents is close too. She has a older sibling that currently married and had kids.
I saw too many things, bcs slowly I learnt that her sibling's partner(Let me call X) is really unstable. She often being burdened on how her sibling's marriage is so toxic. Her sibling's accused for cheating although there's no proof(beside there's no time to cheat anw since they had 3 kids), X lied couple of times to her and her parent( I dont know the details but its pretty serious). Two times attempted suicide, and I think there's more and more but now things maybe lead into divorce now. One week ago they supposed to celebrate christmast together but they got a huge fight. Its really unpleasant to heard how X saying things like he's being threatened, scammed, abused physically but everything is a lie. They found out too that he lied abt many things about her that got her into a nasty gossip.
The problem is her siblings seems really not ready if things goes down for real, and X family is not well informed abt this. I read X text, its full of tantrums, suicide threat, victim blaming. I and my friend just though she really should get divorce bfr X going worse and ruin her family, but theyre confused and anxious not sure what would hppen next. My parents often help them like babysitting or just giving food(they're fine financially, its just how we communicate and maintain relationship), so they pretty much aware and warn me to stay away.
I dont want to just stay away and do nothing bcs she's one of my lifesaver. When I just on the bottom of insanity she talks to me. I want to give her an advice or stay together. Were supposed to plan our next holiday trip but now she looks really sad.
I though maybe I should just ask here. What kind of advice I should say like her sibling really need to divorce? I understand there's some kind of mental ilness that X had and I can relate, that the ideal is they should help him go to professional etc. But Her family now dont care abt him anymore nearly hate him for real bcs he caused so many trouble, X family ignore him too. I want my bestie looking bright again and happy.
