I am sorry you are feeling this way about yourself.
When we are depressed or have had some bumps in the road, we tend to see only things that confirm the bad we think we are.
I am positive that in your life, there are many times and ways the negatives you have noted have been contradicted by people who really do mean the good things they say.
If we feel we are beginning from a low spot, the only way to build is better, so even a negative is not so bad.
People’s idea of “pretty” differs from person to person. Most of us have fairly regular features, and we are not ugly and maybe not super pretty. But a smile, kind eyees, a good outlook about other people…those go a long way to making others see us as attractive and pretty.
Smart? You are smart enough to think and speak what is on your mind as you have done here. I think you are smarter than you you are giving yourself credit for.
Failing…most of what we do in life is learned and skills. Those take practice and we learn by the mistakes we make.
To blame…sometimes we are, but I have never met anyone who is to blame for everything wrong in their life. We are also sometimes responsible for the good things.
A mess…wow, I think we’ve all felt like a mess and not very good about it at times. Sometimes a mess means only that there are some details we might want to look at and change.
Proud…Be proud that you are able to think and speak your mind. Many people have no idea of the thins that are upsetting them. You have been able to tell us. That is an accomplishment in itself!
A person…I cannot find a reason for anyone at all to be sorry for being a person. You are a good person.
Sorry you were born…Sad, frustrated, wishing that others didn’t judge you and you didn’t feel bad? I get that. However, you have a life that you could use to make it into something you want it to be. Maybe it won’t be super easy, but it is do-able.
Dealing with you is not a problem for me, so please do not be sorry that I must deal with you. We all come with our past and our baggage and our crap…if you don’t let it get in your way, it sure won’t get in anyone else’s.
I think there are ways you might deal with all these things you are sorry for. You could start by listing a few of your good qualities. I know you have them. You can share them if you want, or not. But I hope you will think of a few of your good points to start.
Please be kind and gentle with yourself. You are a person and you deserve kindness and caring. From yourself, and from others. Be safe!