I think I'm going to die.

[alice202]

So now I have nowhere to live in a month. My landlord is making a big deal about my "dangerous dog". They are claiming that there have been numerous incidents involving him biting people and animals. I don't even know exactly what they are referring to. If somebody talks about me, its gospel truth- and they have never ever asked to hear my side of ANYHING. Its like I don't even exist. Now my dog is banned from the dog park (where we go 3x per day) and banned from approaching people. There are some neighbors he absolutely loves- and they love him- and we are not supposed to approach them. They are trying to control me every time I go outside.

I really really hate these people. They are deliberately abusing me. If they feel like sending me a hostile email, they do it. Its ALWAYS A ONE WAY CONVERSATION. And they can make me homeless if I don't obey.

My life is shit.

 

[seabird]

Sorry I didn't see your update until now @alice202 . That's a lot of extra stress to go through, being accepted at an apartment, excited and happy, and then having it taken away. While the dread is understandable since they're basically an enemy at this point, but could you ask them for 4 months so you can keep searching? Could you ask at the local counci if there's a rescource for legal assistance? Since you have a good record of paying your rent, maybe an pro bono attorney couuld help get an apartment to give you a rental contract.

 

[alice202]

Sorry I didn't see your update until now @alice202 . That's a lot of extra stress to go through, being accepted at an apartment, excited and happy, and then having it taken away. While the dread is understandable since they're basically an enemy at this point, but could you ask them for 4 months so you can keep searching? Could you ask at the local counci if there's a rescource for legal assistance? Since you have a good record of paying your rent, maybe an pro bono attorney couuld help get an apartment to give you a rental contract.

I don't think any apartment will give me a lease until the bankruptcy is discharged. Its supposed to happen 60-90 days after your meeting with creditors. Mine was June1 so 60-90 is Aug 1 or Sep 1. This morning I wrote to my landlord's legal department and explained the situation. If they say NO extension- then they can try to evict me- but is it worth it when I am trying to leave anyway? Also- if it goes to court I can tell the judge that I could not get an apartment because of the bankruptcy- which is a legal obstacle. So I am guessing it would go my way.

I feel like I am the worst person on earth. I'm not, but they are just beating me down.

The only upside to all this is that it gives me more time to pack up my apartment and downisize. I am just afraid that no apartment will be available when I am finally ready.

Thanks for your support Seabird.

 

[alice202]

Lots of drama today. I took my dog to the dog park (from which we have been banned) and while we were sitting there the lady whose dog my dog got in a fight with last week came by and started yelling at me. She acted like she was in charge of enforcing rules against my dog- and told me my dog should have a muzzle on and shouldn't be in the park and so on. I tried to talk to her but she was yelling so much that I gave up. Appararently the guy who set the rules told her I am getting kicked out.

So I came home and wrote the guy an email telling him not to bully me and that his rules were not helpful. I hope I didn't make things worse. But I just feel so beaten down right now. I don't want my dog to hurt anyone and I work so hard on his behavior. Even when nothing has happened people are beating me down. It just stresses me out so much.

 

[may71]

Hugs Alice

 

[alice202]

Hugs Alice

thank you mr. may

 

[alice202]

So I had written to the legal person to say that I cannot find an apartment because the bankruptcy is not discharged yet. They replied and said no- it goes against "policy". These people are a**holls. I called the suicide hotline. I got some ideas. But I dread the month of July. They want me out by July 31. I feel desperate.

 

[seabird]

You could try finding out who is going to be the judge on your case. Then by writing or calling this judge , you might get some help if you succinctly describe your dilemma and ask for the bankruptcy to be discharged soon, so you can proactively prevent your own homelessness. Sometimes being a squeaky wheel you get the grease.

 

[alice202]

You could try finding out who is going to be the judge on your case. Then by writing or calling this judge , you might get some help if you succinctly describe your dilemma and ask for the bankruptcy to be discharged soon, so you can proactively prevent your own homelessness. Sometimes being a squeaky wheel you get the grease.

Thank you Seabird. I was thinking the same thing. Somehow its bizarre to think that a judge would be more helpful than a landlord... but its worth a try.

 

[alice202]

I called the bankruptcy court and was told that the dates are set by law. My creditors have until July 31 to raise an issue - so it wont be discharged before then. I'm scared. I am scared that a sheriff will come to my door, take me out, and lock it behind me. I will lose everything. They are not going to care at all if they make me homeless.

The landlord has the worst ratings I've ever seen. One tenant posted that this landlord threatened to evict them over patio furniture. Basically, this landlord is a bully. They are being sued left and right- but they still treat people like crap.

 

[seabird]

I hope and send encouragement that you can get help coming up with a plan B and C. Try all the agencies you can find in your city, and, within your county too.

Perhaps rent a storage unit ahead of time so you can start moving your most precious belongings there.

 

[alice202]

Thanks seabird. I did look into getting a storage locker but they never called me back. Maybe nothing is availble.

I was so tired from crying last night that I woke up exhausted.

I emailed the center on disability and aging and told them my situation.

There is another apartment that is processing my application but I have a feeling they will reject me for the same reason.

Somebody told me that if I don't have an active lease (which I don't) it will be more difficult to evict me. But the fact that I have a solid legal reason why I can't move out yet will probably work in my favor. Its just so scary to think about.

I'm going to try to focus on packing, because at least that is within my control.

The guy I sent the email to about my dog (he told me we couldn't go in the dog park any more) didn't answer me. The dog and I spent about 20 minutes total in there today. He loves rolling in the grass and I love watching him.

 

[Gard]

Thanks seabird. I did look into getting a storage locker but they never called me back. Maybe nothing is availble.

I was so tired from crying last night that I woke up exhausted.

I emailed the center on disability and aging and told them my situation.

There is another apartment that is processing my application but I have a feeling they will reject me for the same reason.

Somebody told me that if I don't have an active lease (which I don't) it will be more difficult to evict me. But the fact that I have a solid legal reason why I can't move out yet will probably work in my favor. Its just so scary to think about.

I'm going to try to focus on packing, because at least that is within my control.

The guy I sent the email to about my dog (he told me we couldn't go in the dog park any more) didn't answer me. The dog and I spent about 20 minutes total in there today. He loves rolling in the grass and I love watching him.

When I was a child, we had pets—mostly cats. In general, I love pets and get along well with them.
Since 2014, I’ve been living in rented apartments. And I’ve often felt lonely. I wanted to get a cat or a dog. However, I knew that many landlords might refuse to rent to me because of pets, since pets tend to damage furniture, carpets, and other things.
Besides, I’ve heard many times that the landlord had turned down a married couple with a child and a dog before me, but let me move in because I didn’t have a dog. Even though that couple was more reliable, from a certain social standpoint. Well, that’s what they think, but it’s not actually true.
Anyway, I wouldn’t want to be faced with the choice: my life or my dog’s life. Damn, that’s an unfair choice. That’s why I never got a dog. And I hope the choice is much less dramatic than choosing between lives.
I hope your dog gives you something of equal value to what you give it. It’s just that if the two of you end up on the street, it’s unlikely either of you will like it.

 

[alice202]

When I was a child, we had pets—mostly cats. In general, I love pets and get along well with them.
Since 2014, I’ve been living in rented apartments. And I’ve often felt lonely. I wanted to get a cat or a dog. However, I knew that many landlords might refuse to rent to me because of pets, since pets tend to damage furniture, carpets, and other things.
Besides, I’ve heard many times that the landlord had turned down a married couple with a child and a dog before me, but let me move in because I didn’t have a dog. Even though that couple was more reliable, from a certain social standpoint. Well, that’s what they think, but it’s not actually true.
Anyway, I wouldn’t want to be faced with the choice: my life or my dog’s life. Damn, that’s an unfair choice. That’s why I never got a dog. And I hope the choice is much less dramatic than choosing between lives.
I hope your dog gives you something of equal value to what you give it. It’s just that if the two of you end up on the street, it’s unlikely either of you will like it.

Thanks Gard. My dog is registered as an ESA- Emotional Support Animal. I don't have to pay rent on him and no landlord can refuse to rent to me. This is huge. I have always had dogs, usually large dogs. I can remember doing an apartment search about 10 years ago and there were only 5 apartments in the city that accepted large dogs. Now I don't have to worry about that. The dogs that damage apartments are usually puppies. My dog does not chew or relieve himself inside-- so he does zero damage.

The first time I heard that they wanted me to get rid of him there was a notice saying that they wanted documentation from my vet that he was gone. Its like they thought he should be put to sleep after one bite. I think that is absolutely appalling. Its cruel. And it reveals what kind of people they are.

I would never put him down while he is a totally healthy dog and I enjoy living with him. I would re-home him if I found somebody who I thought could handle him - and that means someone who understands the breed. He is a purebred aussie and his parents actually herd cows. The nipping happens because its part of his instincts.

When I have boarded him he stops eating and gets depressed. I don't think he could easily attach to a new owner.

So I am still committed to him. In this case I love the dog and I really, really hate the apartment management- so I want to leave.

Alice

 

[Gard]

Thanks Gard. My dog is registered as an ESA- Emotional Support Animal. I don't have to pay rent on him and no landlord can refuse to rent to me. This is huge. I have always had dogs, usually large dogs. I can remember doing an apartment search about 10 years ago and there were only 5 apartments in the city that accepted large dogs. Now I don't have to worry about that. The dogs that damage apartments are usually puppies. My dog does not chew or relieve himself inside-- so he does zero damage.

The first time I heard that they wanted me to get rid of him there was a notice saying that they wanted documentation from my vet that he was gone. Its like they thought he should be put to sleep after one bite. I think that is absolutely appalling. Its cruel. And it reveals what kind of people they are.

I would never put him down while he is a totally healthy dog and I enjoy living with him. I would re-home him if I found somebody who I thought could handle him - and that means someone who understands the breed. He is a purebred aussie and his parents actually herd cows. The nipping happens because its part of his instincts.

When I have boarded him he stops eating and gets depressed. I don't think he could easily attach to a new owner.

So I am still committed to him. In this case I love the dog and I really, really hate the apartment management- so I want to leave.

Alice

It sounds like a dog would be comfortable living in the countryside. Have you thought about getting a house in the countryside instead of an apartment?
Landlords can refuse to rent an apartment to you without giving a reason—even if you’re allowed to have a dog.

 

[alice202]

It sounds like a dog would be comfortable living in the countryside. Have you thought about getting a house in the countryside instead of an apartment?
Landlords can refuse to rent an apartment to you without giving a reason—even if you’re allowed to have a dog.

A house in the country would be ideal- but I can barely afford to rent an apartment.

 

[alice202]

Landlords can refuse to rent an apartment to you without giving a reason—even if you’re allowed to have a dog.

Don't you think I know that?

I'm being evicted.

It seems you are giving advice without even reading my post. Its not helpful.

 

[Gard]

My dog is registered as an ESA- Emotional Support Animal. I don't have to pay rent on him and no landlord can refuse to rent to me.

Landlords can refuse to rent an apartment to you without giving a reason—even if you’re allowed to have a dog.

It seems you are giving advice without even reading my post. Its not helpful.

Okay, I'm not helpful to you. I'll find something helpful to do for myself. I won't waste your time and mine. Good luck.

 

[alice202]

I'm sorry to keep posting. I am so full of anxiety and stress. I had sent an email to the person who told me that my dog and I were banned from the dog park. Instead of answering me he forwarded it to the female manager - the one who thought my dog should be euthanized. I made the point that my dog could not possbly harm anyone when he is alone in the park with me, and 99% of the time that's how it is. I said that they were being punitive and unfair. Well, nobody cares what I think or say. They just make up laws and you are supposed to obey like a good soldier. I told her she was hostile and hateful for telling me to euthanize my dog and she just said she wasn't interested in my personal feelings.

It felt like I was talking to my narcississtic sister.

My dog is used to going to the park 3x a day and he pulls me in that direction. I have pulled him the other way and I can see that he is confused. I guess he'll get used to it.

I feel on edge. I will face eviction in 5 weeks. I can get legal help then, but I can't do anything now. I'm trying to pack.

I don't enjoy anything.

 

[alice202]

Oh damn. I just got a rejection from the other housing I applied to. I think its because of the bankruptcy. I am beginning to think I will have no other option but suicide.