I had huge issues with sex when I was younger.I thought I was asexual for a long time.People kept telling me that things would work out but I really knew they wouldn't. I'm well over 30 now and still never ever come close. Sex never ever bothered me ,it was just having someone to share things and be with for the rest of my life that I always longed for. People really do treat you strange especially at work and I am sick of feeling I have committed a crime when I have been the one to suffer. Because of fear of ridicule you keep even more isolated and lonely.
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i'm a virgin
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“We've gone from being ashamed for having sex … to being ashamed for not having sex … Promiscuous people are not expected to justify their promiscuous behaviour. We take it for granted. It's all done in the name of fun. I don't see why the virgins of the world have to justify themselves.”
http://www.visiontv.ca/Programs/documentaries_bigv.html
I'm 17, and I'm also a "Virgin" though virgin sounds kinda odd, anyways, who cares, as stated before If you start having one night stands sex will lose meaning to you, and well I my opinion meaningless things suck.
http://www.visiontv.ca/Programs/documentaries_bigv.html
I'm 17, and I'm also a "Virgin" though virgin sounds kinda odd, anyways, who cares, as stated before If you start having one night stands sex will lose meaning to you, and well I my opinion meaningless things suck.
You know what buddy..I live in india where it's perfectly normal for people to remain virgin until their marriages. If you are not virgin, you are considered characterless and nobody is going to marry you.
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That's the way it CAN be for anyone. We dont all have to live up to social expectations, sometimes you just have to do what you feel is best. Sex is sex, god, I dunno why people blow it outta proportions and stress over it so much.
God I have more important things to worry about, hmm like living each day!
That's the way it CAN be for anyone. We dont all have to live up to social expectations, sometimes you just have to do what you feel is best. Sex is sex, god, I dunno why people blow it outta proportions and stress over it so much.
God I have more important things to worry about, hmm like living each day!
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there is nothing wrong with liking sex you prudes. morally corrupt? get off your high horse.
One thing is liking, the other one is strip it of all romantic value by treating your sexual partner as a thing. I hope I made my point, if not tell me and I'll explain it better today is late, I got to go to sleep, be careful.
Here's a tip:
What do you want in a partner/gf/bf?
All of you people who want to be approched, here's a tip: so do THEY. All those who want someone with a good sense of humor, who want someone who is kind and caring, not afraid to take risks, etc., etc. Other people want that too!!! So be the bigger person and go for it!
Most people HATE dating, HATE striking up a conversation with a stranger, HATE feeling like they are auditioning for a play...but the bottom line is, that's what you need to do! You are NOT a Princess (or Prince) locked up in a tower waiting for that one person to come and save you no matter what! SAVE YOURSELF! Be the kind of person you want in your own life and you WILL attract those types of people! You try to complicate things, but the bottom line is that it is quite simple. Look at yourself from the outside and change the things you can!
When you look at yourself (physically and emotionally) do you:
1.) Like your clothes? (if not, why would someone else like your clothes, and what kind of clothing do you think makes a person look good?)
2.) Like the way you behave in public? (If not, why would someone else like the way you behave, and what kind of behavior do you like in others?)
3.) Like your haircut? (See: above)
4.) Like your hobbies? (See: above)
The bottom line is this: If you hate yourself and everything about you, then why would someone else like those same qualities? And if they did, I can tell you right now, you will LOATHE them for everything they like about you that you yourself cannot accept about your own personality!
Think about the logic here. I may HATE the fact that I am lazy, so what the FUCK gives me the right to expect someone to love me for being lazy? NOTHING.
I'm not talking about things that cannot be changed here (appearance, personality, etc.), but I AM talking about things in your life that you actually have the ability to change.
The question is this: Would you date yourself? Would you fall in love with yourself? Why or why not?
What do you want in a partner/gf/bf?
All of you people who want to be approched, here's a tip: so do THEY. All those who want someone with a good sense of humor, who want someone who is kind and caring, not afraid to take risks, etc., etc. Other people want that too!!! So be the bigger person and go for it!
Most people HATE dating, HATE striking up a conversation with a stranger, HATE feeling like they are auditioning for a play...but the bottom line is, that's what you need to do! You are NOT a Princess (or Prince) locked up in a tower waiting for that one person to come and save you no matter what! SAVE YOURSELF! Be the kind of person you want in your own life and you WILL attract those types of people! You try to complicate things, but the bottom line is that it is quite simple. Look at yourself from the outside and change the things you can!
When you look at yourself (physically and emotionally) do you:
1.) Like your clothes? (if not, why would someone else like your clothes, and what kind of clothing do you think makes a person look good?)
2.) Like the way you behave in public? (If not, why would someone else like the way you behave, and what kind of behavior do you like in others?)
3.) Like your haircut? (See: above)
4.) Like your hobbies? (See: above)
The bottom line is this: If you hate yourself and everything about you, then why would someone else like those same qualities? And if they did, I can tell you right now, you will LOATHE them for everything they like about you that you yourself cannot accept about your own personality!
Think about the logic here. I may HATE the fact that I am lazy, so what the FUCK gives me the right to expect someone to love me for being lazy? NOTHING.
I'm not talking about things that cannot be changed here (appearance, personality, etc.), but I AM talking about things in your life that you actually have the ability to change.
The question is this: Would you date yourself? Would you fall in love with yourself? Why or why not?
That's good advice. The more I consider a relationship, the more possible it seems, but I don't know if I want that in my life right now. It's good stuff to consider though.
At the point I'm at right now I wouldn't date myself to be honest. There are some things I like about myself, and I realize no one will be perfect on earth, but there are a lot of things to change. After I get myself together maybe a relationship will be something I desire and contemplate. If not, there's no shame in singleness.
At the point I'm at right now I wouldn't date myself to be honest. There are some things I like about myself, and I realize no one will be perfect on earth, but there are a lot of things to change. After I get myself together maybe a relationship will be something I desire and contemplate. If not, there's no shame in singleness.
Hello, just thought I might add few insights. I know I may sound prude or misfit to criticize my own country's cultures. But as a 25 yr old man living in U.S., I think something is majorly wrong if you get made fun of and ridiculed for saving your virginity whether by choice and religion or not.
Sex is not something to be taken lightly and exploited as it is right here in U.S. Everything has become sexualized from commerical to TV hit drama "Desperate Housewives." And porn industry is $12 Billion industry nowadays just in U.S alone.
I strongly believe sex is not something just for pleasure. It should accompany true connection,love, and passion between partners to create fulfilling sex.
Although we might be virgins, I dont think we should be shameful if we are waiting for the right ones to truly love, truly be intimate, and to truly share a lot of common interests in create a hormony.
Sex is not something to be taken lightly and exploited as it is right here in U.S. Everything has become sexualized from commerical to TV hit drama "Desperate Housewives." And porn industry is $12 Billion industry nowadays just in U.S alone.
I strongly believe sex is not something just for pleasure. It should accompany true connection,love, and passion between partners to create fulfilling sex.
Although we might be virgins, I dont think we should be shameful if we are waiting for the right ones to truly love, truly be intimate, and to truly share a lot of common interests in create a hormony.
Anastasia's post is the truth, but it's a hard truth to accept when your problems are bigger than a haircut or whatever. I guess some people are just destined to be lonely til theyre dead.
That's good advice. The more I consider a relationship, the more possible it seems, but I don't know if I want that in my life right now. It's good stuff to consider though.
At the point I'm at right now I wouldn't date myself to be honest. There are some things I like about myself, and I realize no one will be perfect on earth, but there are a lot of things to change. After I get myself together maybe a relationship will be something I desire and contemplate. If not, there's no shame in singleness.
At the point I'm at right now I wouldn't date myself to be honest. There are some things I like about myself, and I realize no one will be perfect on earth, but there are a lot of things to change. After I get myself together maybe a relationship will be something I desire and contemplate. If not, there's no shame in singleness.
I over-simplified a lot there. It comes down to anything you can change about yourself that you don't like. Some people would like to be more well-read, or understand a certain subject better, or to be fit and healthy. Improving yourself to the best of your ability increases your confidence as well as your health, appearance, intelligence, etc. and people will be drawn to that. It shows personal pride and it tells others that you hold yourself to a very high standard, which can go a really long way.
what do you mean
If you let yourself really believe that it will come true, but if you work on whatever it is that you can that may have stopped you having a gf/bf something will happen eventually. It does suck waiting and being lonely, however.
what are you talking about? Its not a matter of being alone for a long time, its a matter of being alone for my whole life. Ive worked on making myself more attractive but it doesnt make any difference. 99.9% of people my age have been in a relationship by this point and I havent. at some point you have to accept that its never going to happen and i am at that point.
I meant that when you're feeling lonely, and haven't had a gf/bf for a long time, you start to believe you're just 'meant' to be alone, but it's not true.
If you let yourself really believe that it will come true, but if you work on whatever it is that you can that may have stopped you having a gf/bf something will happen eventually. It does suck waiting and being lonely, however.
If you let yourself really believe that it will come true, but if you work on whatever it is that you can that may have stopped you having a gf/bf something will happen eventually. It does suck waiting and being lonely, however.