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Jim's Café, Celebrate Thanksgiving with us! - November 28th, Thursday

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1964dodge

Has a monkey as a friend
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#64
Same old just different day. Trying to get my dad to get hip surgery but he is stubborn. Trying to help everyone but as they say "No good deed goes unpunished"
we do sometimes get "punished" for our good deeds but in our heart we know that we've done the right thing. and if you are right in your heart you are a happy person. and I've got a horrible suggestion that may help.

when i wanted my wife to get her license i started complaining every time i drove her someplace. i got her friends at work to co-operate and say how much of a burden she was which killed them but it worked she finally tried, she wanted her license she just needed a push.

if you do things now for your father that you won't have to do after the surgery say so. don't be disrespectful just say things like i have to help you with this but i wouldn't have to if you had the surgery. i know it will hurt you a lot to keep doing this but if it pushes him into neccessary surgery it's worth it. obviously after a couple of months stop if it doesn't work and if it does work tell him why you did it after the surgery. it's mean but it could help him...mike...*console*hug*shake
 

MarvelFan

Vanity of Vanities
#65
we do sometimes get "punished" for our good deeds but in our heart we know that we've done the right thing. and if you are right in your heart you are a happy person. and I've got a horrible suggestion that may help.

when i wanted my wife to get her license i started complaining every time i drove her someplace. i got her friends at work to co-operate and say how much of a burden she was which killed them but it worked she finally tried, she wanted her license she just needed a push.

if you do things now for your father that you won't have to do after the surgery say so. don't be disrespectful just say things like i have to help you with this but i wouldn't have to if you had the surgery. i know it will hurt you a lot to keep doing this but if it pushes him into neccessary surgery it's worth it. obviously after a couple of months stop if it doesn't work and if it does work tell him why you did it after the surgery. it's mean but it could help him...mike...*console*hug*shake
I am trying with that but it is hard to say that but I am actually trying that now I say to him I can't take care of you and your parents forever, if it wasn't for me you would not be able to even take out your own trash but I don't try to be to mean because he gets angry quick. But as you said I do remind him that even though I love him I am not going to wipe his ass at 63 years old because he is too afraid to have his hip fixed.
 

Iusedtobehappy

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#67
Thanks better late than never I had a frozen pizza for Thanksgiving maybe Christmas will be better and I will make me and my grandparents a ham =(
I'm hoping it will be better for all of us. It was lonely, I had 2 dollar hamburgers from McDonalds and a diet Coke but I was thinking of everyone here who is in the same boat as me 😊.... I figured my Thanksgiving dinner only cost $3 😀
 

1964dodge

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I'm hoping it will be better for all of us. It was lonely, I had 2 dollar hamburgers from McDonalds and a diet Coke but I was thinking of everyone here who is in the same boat as me 😊.... I figured my Thanksgiving dinner only cost $3 😀
*console*hug
 
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