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Life goes up and down

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cvb2377

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It’s funny how for a couple months I feel ok. Depression and suicidal thoughts are there but their on the back burner and things are ok! then I’ll start having fun or go somewhere exciting that I’ve been looking forward to (Like for the past three days I’ve been going to a comic con) Then I wake up the next morning after it’s over and feel empty. empty because I have no friends. Empty because I saw so many people with friends at comic con leaving, together and happy to return home and continue to be together and happy. Also empty because I have to return to my boring lonely life in my room of my mothers house, with no way to meet people or go places because my mental health stops me from going anywhere alone, from driving and from working. I guess I forget I’m lonely until a time comes where I’m having fun and wish I could share it with someone. I kinda feel like since I live in Detroit there’s no one like me and very few exciting events to attend. It feels small and isolated. Hell I feel like most the people attending the comic con were not from around here so that solidifies my belief that I’m the odd one out! I wish I could move way to a place less depressing, maybe I’d feel better
 
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What's stopping you from going out alone and meeting people? Sometimes the only way to move forwards is far outside of our comfort zone and seems impossible, but by pushing ourselves a little bit further each time we can get there eventually.
 
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Do you have meetup in your area? Perhaps you can go with your cousin to one?

Have you tried any apps stating that you are just looking for friends?
 

cvb2377

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Do you have meetup in your area? Perhaps you can go with your cousin to one?

Have you tried any apps stating that you are just looking for friends?
What’s meet up? And can you give me any suggestions for apps to find friends? I’d very much appreciate it. It could be a life changer for me
 

cvb2377

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What's stopping you from going out alone and meeting people? Sometimes the only way to move forwards is far outside of our comfort zone and seems impossible, but by pushing ourselves a little bit further each time we can get there eventually.
I just don’t know where and how to meet people. Especially like minded people. ( as in nerds/geeks) if there was some sort of group meeting of people looking for friends close to where I live, then you bet your ass I’d try to catch a Uber and try to come out of my shell. I’d love to try to push through my social anxiety to have fun but I don’t see any opportunities to do so. The most I’ve done was walk half a mile to a library by myself
 
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Well that's a start right? So aim to make that walk to the library again, then aim for another milestone pushing yourself a bit more each time. On your walk make a goal of smiling at people. Then the next day say hello to at least one random person and so on, you'll never know who you'll meet or what it can lead to. Even if you don't find anyone this way you're still improving yourself and pushing the anxiety boundaries.
 
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What’s meet up? And can you give me any suggestions for apps to find friends? I’d very much appreciate it. It could be a life changer for me
meetup.com is a site that fosters IRL meetups in groups as the name suggest. I believe the options/venues vary so you can give it a try to see what's available in your locale.

For Apps you can try googling "apps like Tinder for meeting friends". Or you could possibly just use Tinder and specify on your page "looking for friends only" and a few of your interests to see if anyone with shared interests nearby pops up.

It's possible to make new friends. Be safe. :)
 
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