Loneliness is literally killing me...

[painfully]

I have to say again that imo the knockbacks you are receiving are something to do with you going full disclosure too soon, especially if you are conveying your belief that a single person can fulfil ALL your needs for love, acceptance, attention etc etc . That's a VERY tall order and imo unrealistic as there are probably very few women who can truly meet that expectation fully and I think most would be daunted at the prospect. I know I would be! I wouldn't feel capable. It would require a level of devotion and saintliness few have.

I m being honest and it's just my opinion , but the free flag I would see is " possessiveness and all the trouble that could cause

You cannot hide deal breakers. Its dishonest and it doesnt make any sense cause the moment you show them it will break whatever relationship there is. And also, i need to feel accepted to feel comfortable, so if I try to hide I feel bad and not comfortable. I literally cannot lie.

All you are telling me are ways of lying and not showing my true self so I can be accepted...

All other guys are wanted, but not me... Those guys dont have my shitty traits... Im not wanted...

 

[Inastorm]

You answered my question regarding what can you bring to a relationship really well. However, the qualities you bring i think are things that form further down the line or even those qualities a husband should bring. Very few women are going to be interested in those things from the start. I agree with Lara C and it needs to be fun at the beginning.

i also think starting off making friends in a better idea, rather than trying to jump straight into a relationship.

 

[Lara_C]

I dont believe you and it doesnt make me feel less lonely. And you would be one of the women who dont want me either...

I thought you would say that, but I meant it. And I'm already spoken for anyway!

 

[Lara_C]

All you are telling me are ways of lying and not showing my true self so I can be accepted...

All other guys are wanted, but not me... Those guys dont have my shitty traits... Im not wanted...

I'm telling you you don't know yourself because you are certainly not unloveable, you just think you are, and this makes you act in a way that confirms you even more in this negative belief. I know you think this is a completely preposterous idea, but you have reserves of strength and other good qualities you might not be fully aware of yet. People can and do change from their present way of being and grow towards wholeness or self acceptance and self love . Pain can lead to change if we stop clinging on to dysfunctional beliefs and actions. A good therapist or counsellor can make this process less painful because they can guide you from their own experience and knowledge

 

[painfully]

I'm telling you you don't know yourself because you are certainly not unloveable

You dont know this and I have plenty of rejections to know this.

I just saw a profile of a girl in reddit that has an open relationship with a guy because she wants the guy but the guy doesnt want her and wants to fuck other girls... and i just want to cry... the lengths which girls will go to be with a guy...

also read another post about a girl being with a guy taht treats her bad and she is making all kinds of explanations and shit and giving all the second chances in the fucking world...

but me? NOTHING. NOTHING AT ALL. IM FUCKING TRASH. immediately discarded. always

 

[Lara_C]

You dont know this and I have plenty of rejections to know this.

I don't perceive you the way you perceive yourself and all those rejections were from people who you didn't give the chance to get to know your lighter, fun,, playful qualities before hitting them with the heavy , serious stuff . They saw a dark cloud with thunder and lightning flashes instead of sunshine, clear sky, fun and laughter, and ran away.

also read another post about a girl being with a guy taht treats her bad and she is making all kinds of explanations and shit and giving all the second chances in the fucking world

Do you message women like that? Do you want a relationship with someone like that? It sounds like very hard work , especially as you need so much yourself . She needs a therapist more than a partner atm imo. She lacks self respect , sadly.

IM FUCKING TRASH

I know that's what you think and shouting it just shows me how intensely you believe it, not that it's true

 

[Lara_C]

I have also noticed that you express quite alot of anger towards women which I have to say would alarm women you hope to date. At this point I'm saying again that imo you would be helped better by taking a break from the dating game and talking to a counsellor or therapist before continuing

 

[painfully]

Its not that I want someone like those I mentioned. But it hurts seeing how attached they get or how much are they willing to do to be with someone... But with me, nobody would do any effort at all... Just leave me at first bad thing...

You keep saying Im not unlovable while at the same time handling me a list of t hings that I should change... Basically you are telling me that Im unlovable UNLESS...