Guys wonder why so many women are attracted to assholes. Here's the thing, we're not. But we're also not attracted to effeminate men and cowards either. It just so happens that the ones who aren't cowards act like assholes sometimes, and the ones who are, are usually more compassionate. What a lot of us really look for is someone who isn't overly sensitive, isn't a coward, but is still compassionate, and isn't a total asshole. Is that possible? No? Didn't think so.