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I was doing average at work, now I'm doing horribly, and I don't think I can get better. I can quit or get fired, but whatever happens, I can chalk it up to another list of failures. My entire life has been one huge fucking fail from beginning to end. Well, it hasn't ended yet, but it will one day, of course by my own hand. I was set off earlier tonight because one co-worker had so many birthday greetings, while when it was my birthday, not a single one of them said a word to me. I was tearing up at work but when walking home, but since I'm a damn ghost, no one notices me anyway. I can't wait until I become a ghost for real. Is this a petty complaint? Not sure, but I feel that pretty much anything I ever talk about is petty, so i won't subject anyone else to that shit.
Did others know it was your birthday when it was, @Witty_Sarcasm Regardless, sometimes people are more social on some days than on others.. and some people are indeed more popular than others. You always have the people you really trust and love to rely on. Did you mom tell you happy birthday? Did your sister? Did the people here? They did. Those are the people that you really care about and who really care about you, right? Those are the people who it matters if they told you. I get that you feel shitty about it at the moment but here's the thing ok? This is how I've handled what I allow to upset me and maybe this will mean something to you and maybe it wont:
WILL THIS MAKE A DIFFERENCE TO ME IN A YEAR? Nope. Well then maybe it's not worth worrying about much. It might be worth thinking about some today and maybe asking around about and getting advice on but I'm not stressing the fuck out about it. YES! Well then we need to get on this and figure something out. This is big shit!
WILL THIS MAKE A DIFFERENCE TO ME IN A MONTH? YES! Ponder on this and see what we're gonna do. Do I need to pay some bills differently maybe? Talk to someone or make different plans in some way? Change up on a case by case basis. NO! Well then have a beer and FUCK IT!
WILL THIS MAKE A DIFFERENCE TO ME IN A WEEK? Nope. Screw it. I don't have time to let this stuff affect me so heavily. I've got to let things go in life. If it's not going to be bothering me in a weeks time then I've just got to let it go. Write a letter if someone pissed you off, scream into your pillow, punch your bed until your tired, go for a run (it won't last long!). Do whatever it is that burns you out and then chill out cause shit gets tiring. You don't have time for this. YES! This is still gonna matter to me next week! But it's not gonna last for a month ... so I'm pretty angry or upset right now. This is a weird place to be for me personally. This is when I would likely come here and talk things out, someone might talk to their therapist or whoever their trusted person is. This isn't the time to drown in alcohol or drugs or whatever vice you've got (I'm making this general for whoever comes along later and reads this)
And last, and this is important!
WILL THIS MATTER TO ME IN 24 HOURS? YES! So ok you've got something to deal with there, Be mad. Be angry. Use your coping skills. Do whatever it is you need to do to deal with the situation at hand and figure out how severe the situation is. Use your rational thinking brain (if you can! <no sarcasm>) and try to be as reasonable as possible to see ahead at what the real life consequences are here. If this shit is going to be something you can sleep off then why the fuck are you crying about it now? Put on some music. Draw, paint, call a friend, get on here and post some raging freak fest, get in the chat, write something, go outside and scream at the stars, take a nap.
NO! This isn't actually going to affect me in 24 hours. I honestly find this to be the case quite often. When I can sit for a minute and think and be sane I realize that this shit ain't gonna be a concern later so why trip now. Why cry now? Why rage about this now? Why are you gonna cut on yourself? Why are you punching walls? Why are you drowning in a bottle tonight? Do do that line? Don't nod out with that spike in your arm. This shit isn't worth it. You're gonna be ok soon enough to do something else.
So there you go. For whoever cares to read it. For whoever finds it to be helpful at all. I started this for Witty and then realized it was taking up too much time and space to be centered so much on just her, though I feel like it's catered a little to her. We gotta not sweat the small things. If it's big, then we have to DEAL. You can't escape by sticking your head in the sand, I'm not saying that at all. But you can't freak the fk out on the little things either.
WILL THIS MAKE A DIFFERENCE TO ME IN A YEAR? Nope. Well then maybe it's not worth worrying about much. It might be worth thinking about some today and maybe asking around about and getting advice on but I'm not stressing the fuck out about it. YES! Well then we need to get on this and figure something out. This is big shit!
WILL THIS MAKE A DIFFERENCE TO ME IN A MONTH? YES! Ponder on this and see what we're gonna do. Do I need to pay some bills differently maybe? Talk to someone or make different plans in some way? Change up on a case by case basis. NO! Well then have a beer and FUCK IT!
WILL THIS MAKE A DIFFERENCE TO ME IN A WEEK? Nope. Screw it. I don't have time to let this stuff affect me so heavily. I've got to let things go in life. If it's not going to be bothering me in a weeks time then I've just got to let it go. Write a letter if someone pissed you off, scream into your pillow, punch your bed until your tired, go for a run (it won't last long!). Do whatever it is that burns you out and then chill out cause shit gets tiring. You don't have time for this. YES! This is still gonna matter to me next week! But it's not gonna last for a month ... so I'm pretty angry or upset right now. This is a weird place to be for me personally. This is when I would likely come here and talk things out, someone might talk to their therapist or whoever their trusted person is. This isn't the time to drown in alcohol or drugs or whatever vice you've got (I'm making this general for whoever comes along later and reads this)
And last, and this is important!
WILL THIS MATTER TO ME IN 24 HOURS? YES! So ok you've got something to deal with there, Be mad. Be angry. Use your coping skills. Do whatever it is you need to do to deal with the situation at hand and figure out how severe the situation is. Use your rational thinking brain (if you can! <no sarcasm>) and try to be as reasonable as possible to see ahead at what the real life consequences are here. If this shit is going to be something you can sleep off then why the fuck are you crying about it now? Put on some music. Draw, paint, call a friend, get on here and post some raging freak fest, get in the chat, write something, go outside and scream at the stars, take a nap.
NO! This isn't actually going to affect me in 24 hours. I honestly find this to be the case quite often. When I can sit for a minute and think and be sane I realize that this shit ain't gonna be a concern later so why trip now. Why cry now? Why rage about this now? Why are you gonna cut on yourself? Why are you punching walls? Why are you drowning in a bottle tonight? Do do that line? Don't nod out with that spike in your arm. This shit isn't worth it. You're gonna be ok soon enough to do something else.
So there you go. For whoever cares to read it. For whoever finds it to be helpful at all. I started this for Witty and then realized it was taking up too much time and space to be centered so much on just her, though I feel like it's catered a little to her. We gotta not sweat the small things. If it's big, then we have to DEAL. You can't escape by sticking your head in the sand, I'm not saying that at all. But you can't freak the fk out on the little things either.
Well I really like that advice, thank you 
But I'm in the drinking and being stupid mode, I just hope that damn demon doesn't come back. I got rid of him like 6 years ago....at least I hope I did. If that doesn't make sense, there's a big explanation to go with it. Yes I'm crazy but people know that already.
But I'm in the drinking and being stupid mode, I just hope that damn demon doesn't come back. I got rid of him like 6 years ago....at least I hope I did. If that doesn't make sense, there's a big explanation to go with it. Yes I'm crazy but people know that already.I know that people feel this way so I literally don't check my FB messages just for this reason (and I know that other people do the same to me! I just watched it happen tonight in fact!) Thing is, people have things going on in life and they want to give you a proper response. If they're driving when they see that message they can't respond.. or whatever is going on. It's just a thing. And then people really DO just space that you sent it sometimes too. I do it all the time! And it's not because you're not worth messaging, I literally forget that someone sent it (I think because now there's no notification for it any longer) Don't sweat your friend. You know you're buddies and thats what matters.
I'm sorry you're having a sad day, @TheChimeraMonster I hope that it improves. Do you want to talk about anything?