I really don't know. I've been called cute long time ago, pretty. But that's about it. I'd rather have someone, someday, say I was a kind and compassionate generous person who tried her best in life.
We can't change much about what we look like in the present moment. At my age, trying to build muscle with my health problems is just about impossible.
I guess we all need to feel good about how we look in some way out of respect for ourselves. ]
It reminds me of a recent short talk with my older son. I've given up on my hair and had been wearing a wig. I told him I don't care. He said well, you do, you're wearing earrings. I was like, well that's to distract from my jowels. He said, there you go, you are trying to be attractive. I said I have to look in the mirror sometimes lol. He said, no you don't... I kind of chuckle at that. He was right. I'm not really dressing up or making sure I look as best I can for myself but because other people have to look at me and I would like to look attractive in some way. But for me, at 55, my body looks worse than a 90 year olds. But it's just a body.
An optometrist told me I had an assymetrical face. I know what that means, so I asked him what is assymetrical on my face. Oh, your one eye is higher than the other. Talk about silly, for the rest of the day I kept trying to figure out if he was truthful looking in the mirror. I realized it's not my eye, it's one ear is lower than the other so my glasses always look cockeyed.
I am compelled to post because of this quoted response. i offer no advice; only thoughts as they apply to me. maybe it will resonate with others.
yikes, where to begin? i do believe there is not a face on the planet that is symetrical. i know mine is way way off and has gotten more so over the years. (i'm 71 btw).
They say beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but it is also in the face of the transmitter. people transmit their deepest feelings. with feelings that are sad, the beholder sees the sadness then loves that person or hates that person accordingly. convey any other feeling, one extreme or another or anywhere in between and whatever that degree is, is how that person will convey something and that will greatly influence that they look to others. same goes for compassion and curelty. every feeling inside and the physical assymetry just makes the person more real and shining whatever it is that is going on in that person's 100%.
my mother looked sad. i guess she was sad inside. my father was most likely a narcissist yet he looked sad too. something more was obviously going on.
i had an uncle who had broken his jaw in the early 1900s. in those days it was not easy to get proper medical treatment and as a result he had to live with a deformed jaw for the rest of his life. it was only after his death that i found that out. but being a child born into an existing family, and he being so kind, i only ever knew him as looking nice. he was the relative i actually enjoyed seeing the most. i never even knew or saw his sadness. you knew what he wanted to convey and he did.
i only just recently realized that i had been brought up in a family that never used the word "love" toward those we loved. i am sure that that lack showed. now with this discovery i am trying to change that. i'm hoping that the love will show in my face. now that i know the importance of using the word, i can still make the change.
i also discovered that when i share what is going on in me, as something that i believe might resonate with someone else, half that time (at least), it is rejected as some kind of hostility. i'm hoping that now with my discovery that i actually can love, that the love will begin to shine through my otherwise cold exterior.
that is my take on how a person looks, as percieved by others as perceived by the self and as influence by facial assymetry. i have a feeling that a person can make their own appearance. as for one special physical attribute, i already posted it here i think. it is my grey naturally curling long hair! 👽
and my nose is long and straight but I have a small mouth, like a porcelain doll so it makes my face look kind of disproportionate but I like that because it’s unusual.
