Well, I wouldn't say there's anyone who has no interest in anything other than sex. Everyone has other interests. But there's a fundamental honesty in the statement that the typical man's mind is ALWAYS "in the gutter" so to speak. I don't care what they say or how they say it, most men are thinking about sex most of the time. I'm a man. I've been around other males all my life. I know. A "wholesome" man is the equivalent of an honest politician. They don't exist.
Now of course many men want love and companionship and all of that. But at the center of it all, there is sex. I know some people won't agree and think it isn't so but at 34, I've never known a male who wasn't obsessed with sex in some way or another.
And if it is? Some people need that. I will say that personally, I can do without a sex partner forever. But some people need a real person. I don't know why but if that's something that is within them, it's a pretty real problem for them and there's probably not much anyone else can say that they haven't thought of. I do think the OP was just looking for someone to hear his problems. And probably almost everyone here has their own problems. Don't they? None of us can snap our fingers and make our issues disappear or we wouldn't be here.
Thinking of women as "fuck toys" isn't the most admirable thing in the world but I'll tell you. Most men have probably thought of women or A woman that way at some point. I'm ashamed of it now but I have many years ago. The process of coming to realize that's the wrong way to look at it can take a while and a person has to come to that realization in their own way. Sometimes people get fantasy confused with reality. In a fantasy, you don't have to think about anyone's thoughts and feelings but your own. Because whoever the person is in the fantasy isn't a real person. So you're not hurting anyone to think of them that way or to imagine them being treated that way. It's when someone confuses a real person with a fantasy that problems emerge. Real people do have feelings. I haven't read many of the guy's posts so I don't know what context he made that particular statement in. But I can't and won't condemn him for it. I think (almost) everyone eventually comes around.
Now of course many men want love and companionship and all of that. But at the center of it all, there is sex. I know some people won't agree and think it isn't so but at 34, I've never known a male who wasn't obsessed with sex in some way or another.
And if it is? Some people need that. I will say that personally, I can do without a sex partner forever. But some people need a real person. I don't know why but if that's something that is within them, it's a pretty real problem for them and there's probably not much anyone else can say that they haven't thought of. I do think the OP was just looking for someone to hear his problems. And probably almost everyone here has their own problems. Don't they? None of us can snap our fingers and make our issues disappear or we wouldn't be here.
Thinking of women as "fuck toys" isn't the most admirable thing in the world but I'll tell you. Most men have probably thought of women or A woman that way at some point. I'm ashamed of it now but I have many years ago. The process of coming to realize that's the wrong way to look at it can take a while and a person has to come to that realization in their own way. Sometimes people get fantasy confused with reality. In a fantasy, you don't have to think about anyone's thoughts and feelings but your own. Because whoever the person is in the fantasy isn't a real person. So you're not hurting anyone to think of them that way or to imagine them being treated that way. It's when someone confuses a real person with a fantasy that problems emerge. Real people do have feelings. I haven't read many of the guy's posts so I don't know what context he made that particular statement in. But I can't and won't condemn him for it. I think (almost) everyone eventually comes around.
As Random said most seem to mature. But I am 20, and it has been as I described above since I was 15.
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