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I told my mom I feel like I can't deal with anything anymore, and she said she gets it. At least she can empathize with that feeling. She tells me I should talk to people how about it, but how when I feel like they won't understand where I am coming from? Where do I even start there? And it's too much for anyone to deal with, really. But I'll stop using this as a complaint thread and just leave it at that.
I posted on Facebook as well, and only one friend reached out to me. But her advice really helped.
Those aren't your people. It will feel easy and effortless once you find true people/friendships. Don't change for other people. Be yourself and the right people will love you.
She's right, and since I had barely any response when I was struggling, it makes me really reluctant to ever open up again. I will just keep things to myself from here on out.
Those aren't your people. It will feel easy and effortless once you find true people/friendships. Don't change for other people. Be yourself and the right people will love you.
She's right, and since I had barely any response when I was struggling, it makes me really reluctant to ever open up again. I will just keep things to myself from here on out.
I'm happy to know that I do make a positive impact, because I am kind and supportive to people in general, but sometimes they end up not liking me for whatever reason. Some think I am clingy or have too many problems or whatever, so I try to keep things to myself most of the time. But I'm glad that I can talk about my feelings here and there are people who won't think I sound crazy or stupid or anything like that. I worry about that too, I don't want to be alone at the end of my life because it is scary enough to go as it is.
I think we do understand things like appreciation better because we haven't experienced it as much maybe from people in our lives. I usually would just keep to myself and people didn't know I existed or they just ignored me...well I guess that was better than the people who did notice me and thought it was fun to pick on me. I did have a few friends though, but that's few and far between, even now. The people who do get to know me well enough seem to have a good opinion of me, so I don't feel completely useless.
Lol don't worry about going out on tangents, I tend to do that often enough.
I don't know why people wouldn't be interested in getting to know you better, because I think that you are someone who is definitely worth knowing. I'm glad that you will try not to be so hard on yourself, there's enough hard things in the world already without feeling you need to beat yourself up too.
I think we do understand things like appreciation better because we haven't experienced it as much maybe from people in our lives. I usually would just keep to myself and people didn't know I existed or they just ignored me...well I guess that was better than the people who did notice me and thought it was fun to pick on me. I did have a few friends though, but that's few and far between, even now. The people who do get to know me well enough seem to have a good opinion of me, so I don't feel completely useless.
Lol don't worry about going out on tangents, I tend to do that often enough.
I don't know why people wouldn't be interested in getting to know you better, because I think that you are someone who is definitely worth knowing. I'm glad that you will try not to be so hard on yourself, there's enough hard things in the world already without feeling you need to beat yourself up too.
To those who end up not liking you for some reason, well I’d say it is their loss. And aw well I don’t think you are clingy so I dunno why others would think that. Being caring, attentive and responsive to people is a good thing, and also far too rare, especially these days. I’m glad you feel like you can talk about your feelings here and no I don’t think anyone would ever think you sound crazy or stupid. Sorry you worry about being alone at the end of your life too, but hopefully that won’t end up being the case for us or for anyone else either You made quite an excellent point about us understanding the importance of appreciation more because of not having that as much in our lives. I never really made that connection before, but now that you’ve said it, yes, it absolutely fits! Aw I’m sorry you’d normally keep to yourself, maybe people noticed you more than it seemed though. You definitely always deserve to be noticed and appreciated though for sure
Sorry about those who picked on you, but I am glad you had some friends too, that is good. Sorry to hear it’s not many, same for me though so I can definitely relate to that. Ya I think I can say the same that the few people who have ever taken the time to get to know me have usually liked me so it helps me feel a bit better about myself and also things in general too
Lol ok thank you for the reassurance about it being ok to go off on tangents, and aw thank you for saying you think I’m someone worth getting to know, that definitely means a lot to me
I think the same about you too of course, absolutely 
And aw I know you’re right that there’s already enough hard things in life without making it harder by being too hard on myself.Glad you found that friends advice helpful Witty, not sure about who the “people” are who aren’t your people, but yup the advice is good that the right people will accept you as you are
And sorry you didn’t feel supported when you were struggling, not sure if it’s about here or elsewhere but please know I am always wanting to show as much support, compassion, understanding and reassurance as I can, and whether I’m actually here on SF replying/posting or not that I always care and am wanting you to be feeling happy I’m sorry to hear you are feeling reluctant to open up again and that you think it would be better to keep things to yourself. I hope you will reconsider though because opening up, sharing and not just keeping things bottled up is the much healthier thing to do imo. I believe it is usually better to express it, especially in a safe/accepting kind of place. For me, just the act of doing that often feels therapeutic in a lot of ways, whether anyone says something about it or not.
Just wanted to let you know that I don’t think you’re annoying at all so please try not to feel like you need to apologize ok?
Please feel free to vent here about things as much as you want, especially if doing so feels like it helps in even the smallest of ways. It is a big part of why I still try to do lotsa diary posts on here (when I have time) cos just “expressing it” in some way is quite helpful a lot of the time I understand about trying to not let things get to you easily, I think sometimes that can maybe be the “curse” part of being a deeply kind and caring person. The very nature of being that way means we care enough to want to try to make a connection with another person in a real, sincere kind of way. The words we say and the deeds we do, we don’t do them in a “light” or flippant/shallow kind of way. Some are able to appreciate that (and show/express appreciation) but some…well not so much.
It has often caused me a lot of pain and disappointment when I have reached out to various people over the years, and gotten so little “anything” back, like barely even any acknowledgment, a simple thank you, nothing! It has made me feel so worthless, rejected, mad and upset, and at those times I have considered “just not bothering to even try to help anymore” but I eventually end up realizing that I am just a naturally caring person who enjoys “trying to help” so I end up doing my best to feel good knowing I did my best to help, regardless of whether it was appreciated, or even acknowledged, at all. I hope I explained all this right/clearly, sorry if I didn’t.
Yup, you definitely do make a positive impact so I hope you will start to realize that about yourself more To those who end up not liking you for some reason, well I’d say it is their loss. And aw well I don’t think you are clingy so I dunno why others would think that. Being caring, attentive and responsive to people is a good thing, and also far too rare, especially these days. I’m glad you feel like you can talk about your feelings here and no I don’t think anyone would ever think you sound crazy or stupid. Sorry you worry about being alone at the end of your life too, but hopefully that won’t end up being the case for us or for anyone else either
You made quite an excellent point about us understanding the importance of appreciation more because of not having that as much in our lives. I never really made that connection before, but now that you’ve said it, yes, it absolutely fits! Aw I’m sorry you’d normally keep to yourself, maybe people noticed you more than it seemed though. You definitely always deserve to be noticed and appreciated though for sure
Sorry about those who picked on you, but I am glad you had some friends too, that is good. Sorry to hear it’s not many, same for me though so I can definitely relate to that. Ya I think I can say the same that the few people who have ever taken the time to get to know me have usually liked me so it helps me feel a bit better about myself and also things in general too
Lol ok thank you for the reassurance about it being ok to go off on tangents, and aw thank you for saying you think I’m someone worth getting to know, that definitely means a lot to me I think the same about you too of course, absolutely And aw I know you’re right that there’s already enough hard things in life without making it harder by being too hard on myself.
Glad you found that friends advice helpful Witty, not sure about who the “people” are who aren’t your people, but yup the advice is good that the right people will accept you as you are And sorry you didn’t feel supported when you were struggling, not sure if it’s about here or elsewhere but please know I am always wanting to show as much support, compassion, understanding and reassurance as I can, and whether I’m actually here on SF replying/posting or not that I always care and am wanting you to be feeling happy
I’m sorry to hear you are feeling reluctant to open up again and that you think it would be better to keep things to yourself. I hope you will reconsider though because opening up, sharing and not just keeping things bottled up is the much healthier thing to do imo. I believe it is usually better to express it, especially in a safe/accepting kind of place. For me, just the act of doing that often feels therapeutic in a lot of ways, whether anyone says something about it or not.
Just wanted to let you know that I don’t think you’re annoying at all so please try not to feel like you need to apologize ok? Please feel free to vent here about things as much as you want, especially if doing so feels like it helps in even the smallest of ways. It is a big part of why I still try to do lotsa diary posts on here (when I have time) cos just “expressing it” in some way is quite helpful a lot of the time
I understand about trying to not let things get to you easily, I think sometimes that can maybe be the “curse” part of being a deeply kind and caring person. The very nature of being that way means we care enough to want to try to make a connection with another person in a real, sincere kind of way. The words we say and the deeds we do, we don’t do them in a “light” or flippant/shallow kind of way. Some are able to appreciate that (and show/express appreciation) but some…well not so much.
It has often caused me a lot of pain and disappointment when I have reached out to various people over the years, and gotten so little “anything” back, like barely even any acknowledgment, a simple thank you, nothing! It has made me feel so worthless, rejected, mad and upset, and at those times I have considered “just not bothering to even try to help anymore” but I eventually end up realizing that I am just a naturally caring person who enjoys “trying to help” so I end up doing my best to feel good knowing I did my best to help, regardless of whether it was appreciated, or even acknowledged, at all. I hope I explained all this right/clearly, sorry if I didn’t.
To those who end up not liking you for some reason, well I’d say it is their loss. And aw well I don’t think you are clingy so I dunno why others would think that. Being caring, attentive and responsive to people is a good thing, and also far too rare, especially these days. I’m glad you feel like you can talk about your feelings here and no I don’t think anyone would ever think you sound crazy or stupid. Sorry you worry about being alone at the end of your life too, but hopefully that won’t end up being the case for us or for anyone else either You made quite an excellent point about us understanding the importance of appreciation more because of not having that as much in our lives. I never really made that connection before, but now that you’ve said it, yes, it absolutely fits! Aw I’m sorry you’d normally keep to yourself, maybe people noticed you more than it seemed though. You definitely always deserve to be noticed and appreciated though for sure
Sorry about those who picked on you, but I am glad you had some friends too, that is good. Sorry to hear it’s not many, same for me though so I can definitely relate to that. Ya I think I can say the same that the few people who have ever taken the time to get to know me have usually liked me so it helps me feel a bit better about myself and also things in general too
Lol ok thank you for the reassurance about it being ok to go off on tangents, and aw thank you for saying you think I’m someone worth getting to know, that definitely means a lot to me
I think the same about you too of course, absolutely And aw I know you’re right that there’s already enough hard things in life without making it harder by being too hard on myself.Glad you found that friends advice helpful Witty, not sure about who the “people” are who aren’t your people, but yup the advice is good that the right people will accept you as you are
And sorry you didn’t feel supported when you were struggling, not sure if it’s about here or elsewhere but please know I am always wanting to show as much support, compassion, understanding and reassurance as I can, and whether I’m actually here on SF replying/posting or not that I always care and am wanting you to be feeling happy I’m sorry to hear you are feeling reluctant to open up again and that you think it would be better to keep things to yourself. I hope you will reconsider though because opening up, sharing and not just keeping things bottled up is the much healthier thing to do imo. I believe it is usually better to express it, especially in a safe/accepting kind of place. For me, just the act of doing that often feels therapeutic in a lot of ways, whether anyone says something about it or not.
Just wanted to let you know that I don’t think you’re annoying at all so please try not to feel like you need to apologize ok?
Please feel free to vent here about things as much as you want, especially if doing so feels like it helps in even the smallest of ways. It is a big part of why I still try to do lotsa diary posts on here (when I have time) cos just “expressing it” in some way is quite helpful a lot of the time I understand about trying to not let things get to you easily, I think sometimes that can maybe be the “curse” part of being a deeply kind and caring person. The very nature of being that way means we care enough to want to try to make a connection with another person in a real, sincere kind of way. The words we say and the deeds we do, we don’t do them in a “light” or flippant/shallow kind of way. Some are able to appreciate that (and show/express appreciation) but some…well not so much.
It has often caused me a lot of pain and disappointment when I have reached out to various people over the years, and gotten so little “anything” back, like barely even any acknowledgment, a simple thank you, nothing! It has made me feel so worthless, rejected, mad and upset, and at those times I have considered “just not bothering to even try to help anymore” but I eventually end up realizing that I am just a naturally caring person who enjoys “trying to help” so I end up doing my best to feel good knowing I did my best to help, regardless of whether it was appreciated, or even acknowledged, at all. I hope I explained all this right/clearly, sorry if I didn’t.
I'm sorry to hear that people have been thankless to you, and I think it's important to let people know that they have helped and that their presence is important. I hope I make others feel that way because I try my best not to let the opposite happen. Sometimes I tend to go quiet or keep to myself, but I still greatly appreciate what people do for me, the support they show and just for listening, and it means a lot that you have done that for me.
Oh great, guess I should get my eyes checked after all. They are blurry at some points.
Beginning in the early to mid-40s, many adults may start to have problems seeing clearly at close distances, especially when reading and working on the computer.
Not to mention the mammograms that start next year...getting older is lots of fun
Beginning in the early to mid-40s, many adults may start to have problems seeing clearly at close distances, especially when reading and working on the computer.
Not to mention the mammograms that start next year...getting older is lots of fun
Sorry to hear people have sometimes gotten annoyed if you care/worry about them, but please know that is definitely not a way I would ever react to you caring/worrying. Ya people can be strange about that kind of stuff sometimes, my theory about it is that maybe deep down they feel undeserving of being cared about or worried about. But who knows. It is most likely all kinds of diff reasons depending on the person, but ya it definitely doesn’t make much sense to me and is not a way I’d ever be (getting annoyed about it like that I mean). I agree that it’s what a good friend should do, and I always feel worried if someone is away, going through something or for lots of other reasons too.
Ok about her meaning with people who haven’t shown support/understanding throughout your life. Aw I’m so glad you see me as being someone who cares about how you feel because yes I absolutely do You’re so welcome for being one of those people though, and thank you for being one of those people for me too, it definitely means the world to me
Thank you for saying you’re here for me too if I ever need someone to talk to, that definitely also means a lot to me and helps me feel cared about and less alone in general too Aw I’m really sorry to hear you spiralled though, I definitely understand about that happening sometimes though. I am really glad that you weren’t feeling that way as much last night though that is great to read for sure.
Thanks for your kind, compassionate understanding about people sometimes being thankless to me. Ya I try to be understanding that they probably just grew up around people who were also like that so they just never really learned to have “good manners” or even to at least value having them. I’m so glad I was raised to always say please and thank you, and also that it kinda comes a bit naturally to me to “want” to show gratitude/thankfulness to people when they say/do something nice to me. I agree with what you said that it’s important to let people know they helped and that they matter/are important. Aw yup you are definitely great about helping others feel like they are appreciated and important. I mean it can be “said” which is great, but it can also be “shown” and I think both are quite important. It has sometimes been hard for me with people if they only do “one” of those things but not both, I try to be understanding about that too though of course.
I understand about sometimes going quiet/keeping to yourself, I think I maybe do that sometimes too. It isn’t usually to do with a “reaction” about what someone else did though, usually it is just due to my own need to recharge myself a bit. There are times I need that more than others. When it’s hot as hell out then that can definitely be one of those times lol. Ya if it’s not obvious by now, I kinda hate summer lol. I thought of changing my descriptive name to that, but don’t wanna be negative lol :p Anyway oops went off on a bloody tangent again lol, anyway I’m glad that even if you withdraw a bit sometimes that you still feel grateful/appreciate efforts others make to show support or even just to listen. I know I’ve said it before, but wow I wish so much that a LOT more people would think that same kind of way about it for sure. It breaks my heart that something so simple cannot be done a lot more often. Anyway don’t wanna get negative here, the end is thankfully in sight at least (not “the end of my life” but “the end of the bloody heat” lol) so I need to be feeling good/happy/grateful and relieved about that
Ok about her meaning with people who haven’t shown support/understanding throughout your life. Aw I’m so glad you see me as being someone who cares about how you feel because yes I absolutely do
You’re so welcome for being one of those people though, and thank you for being one of those people for me too, it definitely means the world to me Thank you for saying you’re here for me too if I ever need someone to talk to, that definitely also means a lot to me and helps me feel cared about and less alone in general too
Aw I’m really sorry to hear you spiralled though, I definitely understand about that happening sometimes though. I am really glad that you weren’t feeling that way as much last night though that is great to read for sure.Thanks for your kind, compassionate understanding about people sometimes being thankless to me. Ya I try to be understanding that they probably just grew up around people who were also like that so they just never really learned to have “good manners” or even to at least value having them. I’m so glad I was raised to always say please and thank you, and also that it kinda comes a bit naturally to me to “want” to show gratitude/thankfulness to people when they say/do something nice to me. I agree with what you said that it’s important to let people know they helped and that they matter/are important. Aw yup you are definitely great about helping others feel like they are appreciated and important. I mean it can be “said” which is great, but it can also be “shown” and I think both are quite important. It has sometimes been hard for me with people if they only do “one” of those things but not both, I try to be understanding about that too though of course.
I understand about sometimes going quiet/keeping to yourself, I think I maybe do that sometimes too. It isn’t usually to do with a “reaction” about what someone else did though, usually it is just due to my own need to recharge myself a bit. There are times I need that more than others. When it’s hot as hell out then that can definitely be one of those times lol. Ya if it’s not obvious by now, I kinda hate summer lol. I thought of changing my descriptive name to that, but don’t wanna be negative lol :p Anyway oops went off on a bloody tangent again lol, anyway I’m glad that even if you withdraw a bit sometimes that you still feel grateful/appreciate efforts others make to show support or even just to listen. I know I’ve said it before, but wow I wish so much that a LOT more people would think that same kind of way about it for sure. It breaks my heart that something so simple cannot be done a lot more often. Anyway don’t wanna get negative here, the end is thankfully in sight at least (not “the end of my life” but “the end of the bloody heat” lol) so I need to be feeling good/happy/grateful and relieved about that