Witty's funtime house

[JMG]

I just happen to be a good target for people to unleash their anger on, and it's happened throughout my life. Maybe because I kind of just sit back and take it, but it bothers me. I didn't have money to get anything for my nephew but it's nice that he thought of this. I'll give him my spare coins and can returns so that should give him some money at least :P

Sorry to hear that Witty, that’s definitely not right and you don’t deserve that. I know it can be a hard thing to do, but if you let people know when they are upsetting you, and that you will not tolerate being treated that way, then sometimes that will get the more “decent” (or at least, the ones with some shred of “decency potential”, lol) ones to not only smarten up and be nicer, but where they will actually respect you a lot more as well, which is always nice. In many ways people stay like children for their whole lives, and just like children, they often need to be shown (or given a stern reminder!) what the correct/acceptable behavior is. Hope this helps in some way, and yes it is more than understandable that it bothers you, no one has any right to treat you disrespectfully like that.

Aw well I’m sure you woulda gotten something for your nephew if you could’ve. Little boys can be kinda hard to buy for sometimes too. Does he like dinosaurs? Walmart has some cute dinosaur puzzles (if he likes puzzles) and also a cute game (not a “babyish” one though but a cute, fun looking one) and there’s usually lotsa figurines too.

Ya it’s fun to look in those toy aisles lol, I have probably done that a bit “too much” for an adult, I love all the minature “doll” stuff though lol, it’s just so cute! Ya it’s nice of him that he thought of that, and nice of you to think of giving him your spare coins and bottles to return, I’m sure he’ll appreciate that.

 

[MisterBGone]

 

[MisterBGone]

 

[MisterBGone]

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

Sorry to hear that Witty, that’s definitely not right and you don’t deserve that. I know it can be a hard thing to do, but if you let people know when they are upsetting you, and that you will not tolerate being treated that way, then sometimes that will get the more “decent” (or at least, the ones with some shred of “decency potential”, lol) ones to not only smarten up and be nicer, but where they will actually respect you a lot more as well, which is always nice. In many ways people stay like children for their whole lives, and just like children, they often need to be shown (or given a stern reminder!) what the correct/acceptable behavior is. Hope this helps in some way, and yes it is more than understandable that it bothers you, no one has any right to treat you disrespectfully like that.

Aw well I’m sure you woulda gotten something for your nephew if you could’ve. Little boys can be kinda hard to buy for sometimes too. Does he like dinosaurs? Walmart has some cute dinosaur puzzles (if he likes puzzles) and also a cute game (not a “babyish” one though but a cute, fun looking one) and there’s usually lotsa figurines too.

Ya it’s fun to look in those toy aisles lol, I have probably done that a bit “too much” for an adult, I love all the minature “doll” stuff though lol, it’s just so cute! Ya it’s nice of him that he thought of that, and nice of you to think of giving him your spare coins and bottles to return, I’m sure he’ll appreciate that.

I try to let them know, sometimes they still don't care though or think I am overreacting or whatever. So I guess it's easier to shut down sometimes and keep my feelings to myself. I think he might like dinosaurs, I know a few things that he likes so I'll have to think about it. His birthday is coming up soon so I'll buy something for that. I like looking in the toy aisles too because there are cool things there.

 

[MisterBGone]

Have you tried asking him?

 

[MisterBGone]

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

Have you tried asking him?

Yeah, I'll ask him and see what he would want, although I wouldn't want to spoil the surprise.

 

[MisterBGone]

 

[MisterBGone]

Yeah, I'll ask him and see what he would want, although I wouldn't want to spoil the surprise.

Sometimes at that age, I don't think they mind..

 

[JMG]

I try to let them know, sometimes they still don't care though or think I am overreacting or whatever. So I guess it's easier to shut down sometimes and keep my feelings to myself. I think he might like dinosaurs, I know a few things that he likes so I'll have to think about it. His birthday is coming up soon so I'll buy something for that. I like looking in the toy aisles too because there are cool things there.

Ok, that’s good that you try to let them know, sorry to hear they sometimes don’t care or think you’re “overreacting”. I hate when people try to pull that crap cos you feel how you feel and it’s not for them to decide the degree that you should react about anything. I’m sorry that causes you to shut down and keep your feelings to yourself.

For me when I express how I feel to someone (especially when feeling upset in some way with them) I do it mostly for me overall. So that I can know I at least “let them know” I’m not ok with how they treated me. To say nothing only becomes more and more intolerable, for me anyway. Just not worth the grief it puts me through.

That’s cool that he might like dinosaurs, ya it’s weird cos as a kid, teen and even some of my adult life I kinda found them a bit “boring” but in the last year I’ve found them to be really cool and interesting, no idea why it just “changed” like that, but ya I love them now lol.

Ohh ok about his bday coming up soon then, the lack of Xmas gifts makes more sense now, it definitely gets expensive when Xmas and a bday are so close together like that. So glad my bday isn’t in December, I mean not such a big deal NOW of course, but as a kid I woulda really hated that a lot lol :p Awesome that you like looking in the toy aisles too and think there’s lotsa cool stuff there, it makes me so happy to know I’m not the only adult who feels that way, lol :p

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

Ok, that’s good that you try to let them know, sorry to hear they sometimes don’t care or think you’re “overreacting”. I hate when people try to pull that crap cos you feel how you feel and it’s not for them to decide the degree that you should react about anything. I’m sorry that causes you to shut down and keep your feelings to yourself.

For me when I express how I feel to someone (especially when feeling upset in some way with them) I do it mostly for me overall. So that I can know I at least “let them know” I’m not ok with how they treated me. To say nothing only becomes more and more intolerable, for me anyway. Just not worth the grief it puts me through.

That’s cool that he might like dinosaurs, ya it’s weird cos as a kid, teen and even some of my adult life I kinda found them a bit “boring” but in the last year I’ve found them to be really cool and interesting, no idea why it just “changed” like that, but ya I love them now lol.

Ohh ok about his bday coming up soon then, the lack of Xmas gifts makes more sense now, it definitely gets expensive when Xmas and a bday are so close together like that. So glad my bday isn’t in December, I mean not such a big deal NOW of course, but as a kid I woulda really hated that a lot lol :p Awesome that you like looking in the toy aisles too and think there’s lotsa cool stuff there, it makes me so happy to know I’m not the only adult who feels that way, lol :p

Especially since I make sure that I don't hurt people and I feel bad if I do...that's what makes it worse when people don't care. Well I guess he likes things that boys like such as cars and...yeah I need to find out more lol. His birthday is on Valentine's Day so it must still be weird to be born on a holiday. It seems like birthdays tend to get swept under the rug then.

 

[JMG]

Especially since I make sure that I don't hurt people and I feel bad if I do...that's what makes it worse when people don't care. Well I guess he likes things that boys like such as cars and...yeah I need to find out more lol. His birthday is on Valentine's Day so it must still be weird to be born on a holiday. It seems like birthdays tend to get swept under the rug then.

Yup, for sure. Cool about him liking cars, and also about his bday being on Vday. I wouldn’t mind if that was my bday, but ya wouldn’t like for there to be a higher risk of it being “forgotten” by people if they were focused on whatever the official occasion was.

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

I like the tail categories for Cymric cats: rumpy, rumpy riser, stumpy, and longies

 

[MisterBGone]

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

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But I still like it :P

 

[MisterBGone]

 

[pooky]

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[Witty_Sarcasm]

I've just been thinking over things again, and that can be dangerous at times. I knew since I was young that I wanted to get married and have a family of my own. When I was younger, I was sure it would happen in my 20's. Then I hit my 30's and figured I still had time. Now I'm almost 40 and no closer to my goals than I was 20 years ago. I can still have kids, sure, but there is a higher risk of birth defects and lots of other issues. Not to say I still wouldn't love my kids if they had things going on, but I wouldn't want them to have a hard life. And it's also damn hard to find anyone to settle down with, as I have only been hurt no matter how much I've tried. And I'm thinking about the fact that I have no savings to speak of. I guess part of that was not thinking I would actually live this long. Which is still young by most standards, but factoring that I've been suicidal since i was a kid, I really didn't think I would make it this far in life. So if I don't have any significant savings by the time I'm in my 60's, I'll be pretty broke. If I even make it that far, that is. It often feels like the odds are continually being stacked against me and it makes me feel very hopeless.

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

Also thinking I'll never make it at college if I have to take a math class, or even more than one. I never even passed basic algebra in high school and anything beyond about elementary/middle school math tends to confuse me. How can I get a degree in anything like that? At least I'm good at writing and music because that won't have anything to do with math, thank god. But that still feels like a pipe dream in and of itself.