Boyfriend is leaving me and I don't know what to do

[Teagm]

I thought we were in love and we'd be together forever and all that crap but he's come out of nowhere and said he's not happy and it's completely destroyed me. He says he loves me still. I cried and begged and now we are having a week break for us both to think then we are going to talk about what we are gonna do. I feel like I just postponed the inevitable and this week has been so hard I can't eat and haven't been able to go to work because I keep fainting he's stressing me out so much but I love him and can't let him go.

It would just be nice to hear other people's opinions or something because I'm so lost on what to do here like I just can't let him go I love him so much and never want anyone else

 

[drinty]

Hiya, welcome to SF. Sorry to hear you're hurting right now, this is a good place to let everything out without judgement. It's never easy going through relationship stuff. Sending you hugs.

 

[A guy with feelings]

It was a strange, complicated breakup that originally qualified me to be here. LONG, twisted story but short version is yes, I've been there. And yes it hurts like crazy! Loss of appetite, can't sleep, cry if the wind blows, cry if it doesn't. Hollow hole in the chest, can't look up, shuffling walk. Yup.

But it honestly DOES get better! It doesn't feel right now like it can ever get better but I promised it does.

Stick around here. Read other posts, write you on. Scream, cry, cuss, break imaginary stuff (lol), vent to us here. The folks on this site were (and ARE) an amazing help to me in getting better.

Massive hugs to you.

 

[Thauoy]

Hugs

 

[Baicha]

If he doesn't love you like he should then theres nothing you can do but let him go. I know it's hard, I know it hurts - A LOT - me and my husband of 36 years split up earlier this year. Like you I thought we were doing ok, then out of the blue he told me it wasn't working for him, I cried and begged and we spent 6 months trying to put the marriage back together - that 6 months was horrendous (brought me here) totally emptied my emotional 'tank'. He picked over everything I had ever done that hurt him - things I had long forgotten, things that I'd said or done in jest became weapons for him to use against me, questioned my every past move, questioned my motives and feelings then after 6 months, again when I thought maybe, just maybe we were starting to get somewhere he told me to get out, just leave. I was devastated, broken, after 36 years discarded like an unwanted toy. That was 6 months ago.
We are going through the horrendous process of a divorce I dont want and it still hurts. There are fresh tears at every solicitors meeting, every solicitors letter brings fresh pain and more tears, but there are some days (not many yet, but still) that are better, days when I can offer the world a smile. I've got through trying to believe that if he doesn't want me, then I'm worth more than that, I've held on for my mother, my kids, - my youngest is 12 and I think she needs her mum. Not allowing myself to suicide has been the hardest thing I think I've ever done, I've come so close so many times - but I try and get through a minute at a time, find some way to distract myself to get through the next minute. Being here helps, typing my story, responding to other messages, going to chat, all help get through the minutes.
There are lot of people here who are here because of break ups, they've managed to persuade me that IF I can get through there will be a life for me after the divorce.
I'm in the UK, I went and spoke to my doctor, he's given me anti-depressants and sleeping pills which have helped, I'm also now in counselling which offers an outlet to 'validate' my feelings.
Sending Huge HUGS, keep talking, keep posting, there is a life for you without him - you deserve to be with someone who loves you.

 

[Pash69]

Hi Teagm, I'm so sorry your going through this right now, I know each persons pain is different but I've recently been through this with my daughter, and speaking as a father it's horrific seeing someone you love in so much pain and being absolutely powerless to do anything about it, (anything legal anyway).
All I can tell you is it's going to take time it took my daughter 8 months (you might be different) to move on, you have to realise this is not your fault, you fell in love and who knows after his "break" he may come back to you and it'll be like nothing has happened. I would imagine at the moment your asking yourself if it's you, it's not!! You are the injured party in this scenario and in time you'll be tougher because of it, no one deserves to have their heart messed with and that's what this boy is doing.
May I ask have you got good girl friends you can turn too, don't get me wrong family is great, this site is brilliant, but my daughter found it easier to speak to her mates than me.
I hope your going to be OK, it's tough what your going through but I promise that this will eventually get easier. be safe.