BPD Support Thread

[Aurelia]

Thats purplish I guess

Lol the quiz is wrong. It's purple. :P

 

[Aurelia]

Every time I think I may have met someone I like, there always ends up being something that steers me away. Do I judge people too harshly? Are my standards too high? I really, honestly don't know.

 

[Aves]

Every time I think I may have met someone I like, there always ends up being something that steers me away. Do I judge people too harshly? Are my standards too high? I really, honestly don't know.

Do you think it might be a defence mechanism? I think I do it because I’m trying to protect myself. Also, I think my standards for myself are high so I end up projecting those unintentionally on other people.

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

Every time I think I may have met someone I like, there always ends up being something that steers me away. Do I judge people too harshly? Are my standards too high? I really, honestly don't know.

I don't know, a lot of people are actually annoying. lol

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

My mom asked why some celebrities have so many shows, and I said it's because they're rich and they can do what they want. If I was rich, I'd probably have like 25 shows, too. One could be BPD Things and I'd invite you all as panelists. lol

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

I could have a part of the show that's like "Is this a normal reaction to a situation, or a BPD overreaction?" and have "normal" people guess. lol

 

[Aves]

I don't know, a lot of people are actually annoying. lol

Very true a lot of the time I’m one of them, especially to myself.

 

[Aves]

My mom asked why some celebrities have so many shows, and I said it's because they're rich and they can do what they want. If I was rich, I'd probably have like 25 shows, too. One could be BPD Things and I'd invite you all as panelists. lol

I think that would be a very eye opening show…. and also chaotic, scary, sexy, traumatic, emotional, weird and many other things

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

I think that would be a very eye opening show…. and also chaotic, scary, sexy, traumatic, emotional, weird and many other things

It would be a lot of different things all at once...but it would definitely be fun.

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

I'm listening to St. Anger by Metallica after years...the lyrics remind me of BPD. "I'm madly in anger with you"...yep lol

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

I'm talking about stuff with @Gwyrdd, and the topic of abandonment came up. It seems second nature to us--cut someone else off before they do it to us. I can understand that much at least. But why do non BPD's ghost us? Can they not handle us? Did they never like us to begin with? Were they lying about everything? I like knowing answers to things, so that bothers me not to know for sure.

 

[Aves]

I'm talking about stuff with @Gwyrdd, and the topic of abandonment came up. It seems second nature to us--cut someone else off before they do it to us. I can understand that much at least. But why do non BPD's ghost us? Can they not handle us? Did they never like us to begin with? Were they lying about everything? I like knowing answers to things, so that bothers me not to know for sure.

Yeah I guess this bothers me too. I suppose it’s not happened to me for a long time though, I think it’s been a combination of I’ve let lucky with the people I’ve let in and I’ve also not allowed many people in for a very long time in order to protect myself from being ghosted again. In my teens, I had a boyfriend who just suddenly started to ignore me and I just couldn’t understand why which obviously kicked off all the usual bpd behaviour in me. I still don’t know why he did that and I guess I never will so I can understand why not having the answers is frustrating for you. Plus, I guess the answer will differ for every individual so that doesn’t help either lol.

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

Yeah I guess this bothers me too. I suppose it’s not happened to me for a long time though, I think it’s been a combination of I’ve let lucky with the people I’ve let in and I’ve also not allowed many people in for a very long time in order to protect myself from being ghosted again. In my teens, I had a boyfriend who just suddenly started to ignore me and I just couldn’t understand why which obviously kicked off all the usual bpd behaviour in me. I still don’t know why he did that and I guess I never will so I can understand why not having the answers is frustrating for you. Plus, I guess the answer will differ for every individual so that doesn’t help either lol.

Some people have done it multiple times, but I feel dumb because I let them.

 

[Aves]

Some people have done it multiple times, but I feel dumb because I let them.

Try and remember though that that’s on them though and not you. I get that’s really hard to do because I struggle with that.

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

Try and remember though that that’s on them though and not you. I get that’s really hard to do because I struggle with that.

I thought they were serious when they tried to make amends, I was wrong though. But I won't let it happen again.

 

[Aves]

I thought they were serious when they tried to make amends, I was wrong though. But I won't let it happen again.

It’s good that you have that awareness and mindset about it now, and it’s hard to do especially if it’s someone you’ve become attached to. There was another guy I was seeing who just kept standing me up and treating me like shit but because I’d become obsessed with him I just kept chasing him and getting more and more hurt. It took me a long time to shake that one off.

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

It’s good that you have that awareness and mindset about it now, and it’s hard to do especially if it’s someone you’ve become attached to. There was another guy I was seeing who just kept standing me up and treating me like shit but because I’d become obsessed with him I just kept chasing him and getting more and more hurt. It took me a long time to shake that one off.

If people repeatedly show me they're not interested in me, I'll stop pursuing them. I don't deserve that, no one does really.

 

[Aves]

I’m sat here mulling over why people do stuff like this and I guess some people are just arseholes

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

I’m sat here mulling over why people do stuff like this and I guess some people are just arseholes

Yeah, that seems to be the case. You're a lovely person and deserve to be treated as such, so screw those who don't see you that way.

 

[Aves]

If people repeatedly show me they're not interested in me, I'll stop pursuing them. I don't deserve that, no one does really.

Yeah you definitely don’t, you have a lot of love and care to give and if people aren’t willing to respect that then they don’t deserve you