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BPD Support Thread
- Thread starter Aurelia
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Ask this bitch to either specify what she means so you can fix it (IF she's even correct in her evaluation) or otherwise shut the fuck up. Because like I said, she's just talking shit at this point without any actual evidence of what she's saying. If there really are errors, I'd want to know so that I could fix them. And if not, no need to get upset anyway over some random bitch who could just be talking a bunch of nonsense.
I have no qualms with people who struggle with addiction. I have had my fair share and I have helped many people in rehabs, etc. It's the hardest shit to kick and I know it. He's clean now and I am happy for him in that regard, but his core personality has never changed, which I didn't realize until I experienced him sober for a while (years). He's just a dick and mean-spirited, has no regard for me or my life. He never even listens to me in regular conversation like I'm a piece of shit. This was before I told him I was trans.
Now he wants me to stay away from his family, but I can understand because maybe I am a piece of shit. I have never stopped being angry at him for pretty much never protecting me. But I am not angry at his children. Just him. Yet I have been so kind. And so patient, almost beyond what I am capable of. Now I am just done. Without any family now, I feel like I've been sucked into a black hole. I do feel comfortable here though. I'll admit that.
Now he wants me to stay away from his family, but I can understand because maybe I am a piece of shit. I have never stopped being angry at him for pretty much never protecting me. But I am not angry at his children. Just him. Yet I have been so kind. And so patient, almost beyond what I am capable of. Now I am just done. Without any family now, I feel like I've been sucked into a black hole. I do feel comfortable here though. I'll admit that.
Besides, truly intelligent people do still make mistakes, but the difference is, if they do, they want to know about them and do better next time. They have a student mentality and realize that they can't know everything. It's literally impossible. That's what I always try to do, is keep learning, and because of that, if someone points out something I'm doing wrong, I take it as a learning opportunity and instantly want to know what and why (but again, she hasn't even told you what you allegedly did wrong, so this is basically irrelevant in this case). And if you're the same, no need to feel bad or be insecure about it because ignorant people are the ones who lack curiosity.
That's definitely possible. Sometimes people are just dicks whether they're on drugs or not. Not everyone suddenly changes when they become sober. It's a shame, though, that there are still so many intolerant people out there. Gender and sexuality, I think, both fall on a spectrum. There's no "male/female" and "gay/straight". We've been taught to label ourselves as one or the other, but reality is, that's not the case. And this is due to generations of misinformation and brainwashing...so it's going to take a while before humanity is truly accepting of this as a whole.
My son is an animator and pretty good at what he does. Someone in his comments said they hoped he'd die of cancer. He just laughed because it was so dumb, so over the top. But yeah, people do hate some creative stuff but it doesn't mean it matters. I paint and put my stuff out there and I've been really down - it's the apathy, the lack of likes that sometimes gets me when I put so much into it. I've stopped creating anything not for weeks but years. Then I get the urge again and keep going. You know what you should do - check the reviews of some album that you think is absolutely amazing, or a favourite book. I do that sometimes. I'll look up reviews on Dark Side of the Moon or something like that and check the one stars!
Anyway, this person sounds like a nitpicker. Picking faults takes no effort. Maybe it was jealousy, maybe she thinks people shouldn't get too pleased with themselves and she loves to bring them down, or shoot them before they've even got up. Some people are just nasty.
Anyway, this person sounds like a nitpicker. Picking faults takes no effort. Maybe it was jealousy, maybe she thinks people shouldn't get too pleased with themselves and she loves to bring them down, or shoot them before they've even got up. Some people are just nasty.
They really are. Unfortunately it's the nature of doing something creative - that creation needs to go out into the world for others, it just does. Whether you are extrovert or a hermit, you create things and show them. For the sensitive ones that can be really difficult. When you show what you are making - writing, singing, painting, making films or whatever - people sit back and judge. Some love it, some hate it, some are 'meh whatever'. You just have to keep doing it. Being creative is a total journey, you never arrive, but you do keep getting better. Just keep at it Witty! 
Sometimes, you do have to consider the source. Sometimes, not. I'm an artist for a living and it does come with putting yourself out there for a ton of rejection. It can suck, but that is part of this job (if you want it to be your job). A little part of dealing with that rejection is knowing who you are and deciding what kind of crit you're willing to consider and from whom.
This is maybe advice that you didn't want to know, or advice that can help/ease you. I've been doing this for decades. I've received so much rejection and criticism it is amazing that I go on. But I have and I do well anyway. If you love it, you do it anyway.
I also write, but I admit I am way more sensitive to that criticism than I am about my art. I've hardly built up a thick skin for it. It's been really hard and I've probably quit writing over a dozen times. Never quit art though. Don't know why?
I've only been published in a couple tiny places. Then I self-published a memoir and wish I never had. The comments on Amazon made me want to die, even though the majority were nice. Just those few bad ones killed me. That's all it takes! So I think I know how you feel.
If those people that commented were idiots, yeah, consider the source! Assholes. Trolls will be trolls. Remember what they are.
This is maybe advice that you didn't want to know, or advice that can help/ease you. I've been doing this for decades. I've received so much rejection and criticism it is amazing that I go on. But I have and I do well anyway. If you love it, you do it anyway.
I also write, but I admit I am way more sensitive to that criticism than I am about my art. I've hardly built up a thick skin for it. It's been really hard and I've probably quit writing over a dozen times. Never quit art though. Don't know why?
I've only been published in a couple tiny places. Then I self-published a memoir and wish I never had. The comments on Amazon made me want to die, even though the majority were nice. Just those few bad ones killed me. That's all it takes! So I think I know how you feel.
If those people that commented were idiots, yeah, consider the source! Assholes. Trolls will be trolls. Remember what they are.