BPD Support Thread

[Witty_Sarcasm]

Geez, I really hope this tickle goes away soon because it's making me gag. Maybe it's Covid all over again. haha

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

Yeah I'm sure he will immediately set me apart from the thousands of other females doing the same lol.

Once he sees how awesome you are though, it should work.

 

[Aurelia]

And males for that matter, haha.

 

[Aves]

Well, I have a round shaped face, so I'd look terrible with short hair lol. But props to you for being able to pull it off.

Haha maybe I didn’t and I was deluded lol but I know I liked it better than it long. My face is pretty round too but I think it might be more like a heart shape. I actually had it cut again at the beginning of the year and then didn’t like it as much so I guess I’ll stick with it to just above my shoulders.

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

My face is round but that's probably just because I'm so fat. lol

 

[Aurelia]

Question for you guys...

Do you believe its okay to try to change people into what we like when we first start dating them?

Or is it kind of immoral?

 

[Gwyrdd]

I think addiction is a large part of my problems with Tommy. I do love him. But I also rely too much on him to keep me sane. And now he feels like a drug. Which makes me feel like I'm using him. Which I guess I am. But the withdrawal from his absence makes me just as bad of a person as alcohol withdrawal does.

 

[Aurelia]

My face is round but that's probably just because I'm so fat. lol

NO self-defeating comments. Don't make me break out the dominatrix costume.

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

NO self-defeating comments. Don't make me break out the dominatrix costume.

Now I want to say bad things so I can see this. lol

 

[Gwyrdd]

Question for you guys...

Do you believe its okay to try to change people into what we like when we first start dating them?

Or is it kind of immoral?

I think its ok to let people know if something bothers you. But as a broken person who doesn't want to have to change for someone. I wouldnt do it to them either

 

[Aurelia]

I think addiction is a large part of my problems with Tommy. I do love him. But I also rely too much on him to keep me sane. And now he feels like a drug. Which makes me feel like I'm using him. Which I guess I am. But the withdrawal from his absence makes me just as bad of a person as alcohol withdrawal does.

Our romantic partners basically ARE like drugs to us, unfortunately. We don't know who we are without someone else.

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

I wouldn't change for anyone because I'm such a delight.
No, I'm just kidding, haha. But I wouldn't try to change them. Either we mesh or we don't.

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

Our romantic partners basically ARE like drugs to us, unfortunately. We don't know who we are without someone else.

And it's weird for me because I'm always single. So I really don't know who I am.

 

[Aurelia]

I think its ok to let people know if something bothers you. But as a broken person who doesn't want to have to change for someone. I wouldnt do it to them either

Well, I wouldn't want it done to me either. BUT...lol. what if their actual qualities kind of suck, though? At least, some of them...

 

[Aurelia]

And it's weird for me because I'm always single. So I really don't know who I am.

Yeah, but you're overly attached to your mom, C. It's essentially the same thing.

 

[Gwyrdd]

Well, I wouldn't want it done to me either. BUT...lol. what if their actual qualities kind of suck, though? At least, some of them...

Then I wouldn't be with them lol. I can either handle bad traits or I bounce.

 

[Aurelia]

Then I wouldn't be with them lol. I can either handle bad traits or I bounce.

Even with some of the good ones that you do like?

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

What are dealbreakers for you guys? Like in a relationship?

 

[Aves]

I think addiction is a large part of my problems with Tommy. I do love him. But I also rely too much on him to keep me sane. And now he feels like a drug. Which makes me feel like I'm using him. Which I guess I am. But the withdrawal from his absence makes me just as bad of a person as alcohol withdrawal does.

I feel that, I feel so emotionally dependent on my husband. I love him but I don’t know if I can always tell which is which. I wonder sometimes if he’s getting as much from me as I’m getting from him

 

[Gwyrdd]

Even with some of the good ones that you do like?

Unfortunately, most if the time yeah. Tommy is the exception. But since Frank (the abusive ex) I was so choosy, and most of the time just fucked and chucked. But I've been discarding men left and right the last 4 years.