Basically, I got really drunk when i went out with my boyfriend and his friends clubbing a few weeks ago, and i cried and told him that i hated myself and that i couldn't cope with everything anymore. Even worse, i was so drunk that i don't remember doing it. Then 4 days later after being really cold and rude to me, he broke up with me.
I didn't expect him to react that way at all. is that normal?
has anyone else experienced something similar?
Plus, at that point I hadn't seen a counsellor yet, and hadn't been diagnosed and didn't even tell him how long i'd felt this way. For all he knew i could have just been drunk crying, and it makes me sad that he didn't even want anything to do with me when he found out. And that he could break up with me in such a horrible way, considering he knew how much i was hurting already.
Additionally, he's been through some stuff himself when he was a child, which i won't go into because although this is confidential and anonymous, i did promise i would never tell anyone. But yeah, so i thought that maybe he might be more understanding than some people, but clearly not
i know that being depressed is obviously an issue, and because we hadn't been together very long, but he had told me he loved me, so i thought that would count for something?
I wouldn't break up with someone i am in love with because they are depressed without talking to them about it first, or before it became an issue, which i never would have let it do. i would never have made him feel like he needed to cheer me up, and i wouldn't have burdened him with my problems when i was feeling low.
I just wish we could have talked about it more.
Or that he said something like, "i can't support you through this, even though i love you," or "you;ve got to figure this out on your own, and get some professional help"
I didn't expect him to react that way at all. is that normal?
has anyone else experienced something similar?
Plus, at that point I hadn't seen a counsellor yet, and hadn't been diagnosed and didn't even tell him how long i'd felt this way. For all he knew i could have just been drunk crying, and it makes me sad that he didn't even want anything to do with me when he found out. And that he could break up with me in such a horrible way, considering he knew how much i was hurting already.
Additionally, he's been through some stuff himself when he was a child, which i won't go into because although this is confidential and anonymous, i did promise i would never tell anyone. But yeah, so i thought that maybe he might be more understanding than some people, but clearly not
i know that being depressed is obviously an issue, and because we hadn't been together very long, but he had told me he loved me, so i thought that would count for something?
I wouldn't break up with someone i am in love with because they are depressed without talking to them about it first, or before it became an issue, which i never would have let it do. i would never have made him feel like he needed to cheer me up, and i wouldn't have burdened him with my problems when i was feeling low.
I just wish we could have talked about it more.
Or that he said something like, "i can't support you through this, even though i love you," or "you;ve got to figure this out on your own, and get some professional help"
especially as that must have been really difficult for you to tell them, and for them to then react that way is terrible. but i guess it just shows that in the end they weren't worth it.