How Are You Feeling Right Now?

[Lady Wolfshead]

@Lane, I do think it would be reasonable to bring these things up with your kids. Maybe try not to pick up their messes and wait for them to do it? Must be hard. I'm so lucky my husband actually does chores without me having to nag him.

 

[Windhover]

hugs @1Lefty . I hope you're able to gain a little love and support from us on SF, though I'm acknowledging it is completely different and far from what you experineced with your wife. You're one of the poeple who lifts others all the time.

 

[HappyKitty]

Hope the salon experience serves to relax you a little. Enjoy yourself.

Ya I dont understand why Im panicking so much, probably because of my mum and manager😂😂 The salon gives head massage too, I wanna pamper myself with that next like massage alone. Should do once in a month. 😺

Also a walk to the beach is nice too, Im glad my house is near that.😺

 

[Windhover]

Ya I dont understand why Im panicking so much, probably because of my mum and manager😂😂 The salon gives head massage too, I wanna pamper myself with that next like massage alone. Should do once in a month. 😺

Also a walk to the beach is nice too, Im glad my house is near that.😺

It's a nice thing that salons have added that option for the head massage during the hiair appointment. I realised I miss that since moving lol. What a good combination of salon and beach walk @HappyKitty . Hope it was a soothing day.

 

[HappyKitty]

It's a nice thing that salons have added that option for the head massage during the hiair appointment. I realised I miss that since moving lol. What a good combination of salon and beach walk @HappyKitty . Hope it was a soothing day.

i actually take one self care activity a day at a time. micromanaging is my thing. breaking down and allocating time to make time for myself always helps when things are hectic, kinda finding place to breathe if I felt like I cant breathe while doing things. 🤗

You can find budget salon/massage things too😺

but gotta freak out first😂

 

[Bergerac]

Ya I dont understand why Im panicking so much, probably because of my mum and manager😂😂 The salon gives head massage too, I wanna pamper myself with that next like massage alone. Should do once in a month. 😺

Also a walk to the beach is nice too, Im glad my house is near that.😺

A head massage is one of the things that relaxes me the most. Sorry you're feeling stress from your Mum and manager. And, I would love to hear more about your new home, and how you're getting on in it. Clearly, the location is very nice.

 

[HappyKitty]

A head massage is one of the things that relaxes me the most. Sorry you're feeling stress from your Mum and manager. And, I would love to hear more about your new home, and how you're getting on in it. Clearly, the location is very nice.

sure thing.bringing the kitties for a stroll out tmrw before my psychology apt and having lunch w cussie too😺

 

[Bergerac]

sure thing.bringing the kitties for a stroll out tmrw before my psychology apt and having lunch w cussie too😺

Sounds lovely. Have a great time, and enjoy yourself. Good luck with the psychology appointment.

 

[HappyKitty]

Adulting ugh. I lowkey just wanna remain a spoiled child and just be my parents shadow forever. Aim low and avoid disappointments. 😂

 

[Aurelia]

Dawn is so beautiful

 

[Lane]

@Lane, I do think it would be reasonable to bring these things up with your kids. Maybe try not to pick up their messes and wait for them to do it? Must be hard. I'm so lucky my husband actually does chores without me having to nag him.

Thank you for the advice. I'm going to try bcz right now there's been a cutting board in the sink for a few days and some glasses. I have to get the nerve up, silly right? Your hubby sounds like a keeper! 😊

 

[1Lefty]

Thanks
@KM76710, @Lane, @Searchingforhope, @Astrid78, @Lady Wolfshead, @seabird,

your responses are meaningful, and what I need

the support I get from this place helps, it really is sort of a home for me,
a nice place to observe the holidays, and whatever they bring

peace

 

[MisterBGone]

Thanks
@KM76710, @Lane, @Searchingforhope, @Astrid78, @Lady Wolfshead, @seabird,

your responses are meaningful, and what I need

the support I get from this place helps, it really is sort of a home for me,
a nice place to observe the holidays, and whatever they bring

peace

I would invite you over for for the upcoming holiday & festivities. But most people don't tolerate TV dinners, no matter how authentic they may seem to replicate the "real thing," to me~

 

[1Lefty]

@MisterBGone , yours is another "voice" that I'm grateful for

several years (before and after my wife), TV dinners and a packaged dessert were my celebratory meals,
(and still sometimes my choice)
so, I'll be over, with a couple of bottles of sparkling fruit juice, and a pan of stuffing

peace

 

[MisterBGone]

and a pan of stuffing

You mean . . . You can actually 'eat,' that stuff~ ? *wink

 

[Lady Wolfshead]

Thank you for the advice. I'm going to try bcz right now there's been a cutting board in the sink for a few days and some glasses. I have to get the nerve up, silly right? Your hubby sounds like a keeper! 😊

Weirdly your story made me think of a childcare book I read back when I was a Nanny. I mean, it was for little kids and teenagers but I think some of the techniques would work for an adult. It said to make observations rather than to "nag" - like just saying there's been something in the sink for a few days. No blame, just observation. Let them come up with the solution. Also, if they have trouble cleaning (I did in my 20s), it may be helpful for them to set a timer for 10 to 15 minutes and do all the cleaning they can within that time frame. Put some music on and just go for it. It's amazing what you can get done in a short time - I heard this for people with depression and I've done it. I do it for other things too like making myself write.

 

[Lady Wolfshead]

Adulting ugh. I lowkey just wanna remain a spoiled child and just be my parents shadow forever. Aim low and avoid disappointments. 😂

This is understandable and I think we can all relate - especially those of us with physical and mental health problems Just do what you can and try not to beat yourself up.

 

[Windhover]

it was a bad night with violent nightmares

 

[MisterBGone]

Sorry @seabird . . .

 

[AvidFan]

it was a bad night with violent nightmares

Hugs @seabird