How Are You Feeling Right Now?

[Witty_Sarcasm]

Yes, exactly! I'm thinking what you may want, or need to do... When the time comes, (of course!) is to move to a different location - if you can. And try & start anew. Get a fresh make-over on your life. Change your environment, and your surroundings, and see if that too, doesn't change your results, or stop thwarting your forward progress on things, therefore yielding itself to - better outcomes. If nothing else comes from it: it will remove you from their equation. And they, yours! @wityy

I mean I feel obliged in a way to help out. My mom is sick and doesn't have anyone else to take care of her. She can't afford to go into any kind of assisted living place. Then I also need to help my family friend because she has health issues as well. Then there's my nephew, and I don't want him to go astray...so there's a lot going on. I just need a break though at times.

 

[MisterBGone]

When the time comes, (of course!)

My mom is sick and doesn't have anyone else to take care of her.

it wouldn't let me reverse the order of these when I went & swtiched pages, so hpoefully it (still makes sense, as theyre in "erverse-order!"_ ;D)

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

it wouldn't let me reverse the order of these when I went & swtiched pages, so hpoefully it (still makes sense, as theyre in "erverse-order!"_ ;D)

I'm not sure why I bother to help them though. I mean it's kind of a lost cause, like I just watched my mom throwing up in the trashcan and she still won't stop drinking. Literally nothing will make her stop at this point.

And she will blame anything but alcohol on the fact that her body is slowly shutting down. She's still in denial and it's sad to watch.

I watched my grandma slowly waste away and my grandpa died in front of me...I guess I wouldn't expect anything less than my mom to go the same way. Sorry, just feeling overwhelmed at this point.

 

[Baywasp]

Lately just been too tired to care all that much.

 

[MisterBGone]

like I just watched my mom throwing up in the trashcan and she still won't stop drinking. Literally nothing will make her stop at this point.

Well, consider her "Gone," maybe~ Already: (for all intents & purposes). . . so, that-way! When it actually happens--you won't maybe be so taken a'back? Or I dunno! I suppose it's easy for me to say; &... You're right - no thing will stop her, until her heart stops (for her).

Sorry, just feeling overwhelmed at this point.

Well, this is why I've suggest TRY-NG, to divvy up some of the responsibilties a little bit: or to at least give your-self a break--every once in a while (it's okay, to say "No.") because, you've got to look at it like this/& taek into consideration, the following. . .& that is you only have so much energy to give. Or spend. Kind of like a 'Pay-chek.' And so, if you go & "waste," all of it on otehrs... then you wil have nothing lef over tor yourself - in the end. Which will ineveitably lead towards an eveentauly 'collapes,' or BREAK-DOWN.

Unless you're looing for ward to the Fugue state, taht wait s ahead? ;D Ha! Cuz that might sound kinda like some fun?

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

Well, consider her "Gone," maybe~ Already: (for all intents & purposes). . . so, that-way! When it actually happens--you won't maybe be so taken a'back? Or I dunno! I suppose it's easy for me to say; &... You're right - no thing will stop her, until her heart stops (for her).


Well, this is why I've suggest TRY-NG, to divvy up some of the responsibilties a little bit: or to at least give your-self a break--every once in a while (it's okay, to say "No.") because, you've got to look at it like this/& taek into consideration, the following. . .& that is you only have so much energy to give. Or spend. Kind of like a 'Pay-chek.' And so, if you go & "waste," all of it on otehrs... then you wil have nothing lef over tor yourself - in the end. Which will ineveitably lead towards an eveentauly 'collapes,' or BREAK-DOWN.

Unless you're looing for ward to the Fugue state, taht wait s ahead? ;D Ha! Cuz that might sound kinda like some fun?

Now they're worried about me sleeping too long and that I won't be able to help enough. Fuck, I'm only one person. Collapse might be good in a way because at least I will be able to rest.

 

[MisterBGone]

Well, at some point, and this is just my take on it: You've got to put your foot down, and put yourself first~!*

 

[MisterBGone]

Becuase if you were to come & clean my house for me, then why should I ever have to bother with doing it?

 

[MisterBGone]

*Snap! Snapp!! Come-quick..

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

Becuase if you were to come & clean my house for me, then why should I ever have to bother with doing it?

The place turns into a dump otherwise, and they won't do anything about it. And since no one else is willing to help them, that seems to all be put on my shoulders. So I guess I feel bad if I don't do it.

 

[MisterBGone]

Lately just been too tired to care all that much.

Hope you can get some restful sleep Baywasp!

 

[MisterBGone]

The place turns into a dump otherwise, and they won't do anything about it. And since no one else is willing to help them, that seems to all be put on my shoulders. So I guess I feel bad if I don't do it.

Maybe you can just focus on one of the three, per week? I don't know. . .

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

Maybe you can just focus on one of the three, per week? I don't know. . .

It's just that the house is like a borderline hoarding situation. You get rid of stuff and then she buys more to supplant it. And neither of them really do much to pick up after themselves. She doesn't want my nephew to go back to live with my sister but it's like ok....you need to actually keep your house clean then, and not have people cleaning it on a regular basis only to go back to the same mess.

 

[MisterBGone]

I don't suppose it's possible for your nephew to come & live with you?

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

I don't suppose it's possible for your nephew to come & live with you?

That would be nice, but we only live in a one bedroom apartment and it's already at max capacity with two of us here. Plus neither of us drive, our money is dwindling, and my mom has a drinking problem. But my sister does just fine with him so I don't see why he can't live there. Or I could just do my best out at my family friend's house...they have a dumpster out there now to get rid of all the junk. I just hope she is willing to do that because I don't know what else to do otherwise.

I have said before though I would have no problem with taking him in if we lived in a larger place and had enough for three people to live on. We don't even have enough for one person at this point. And he has behavioral issues that can be difficult to handle, but I hope something can be worked out.

 

[MisterBGone]

That would be nice, but we only live in a one bedroom apartment and it's already at max capacity with two of us here. Plus neither of us drive, our money is dwindling, and my mom has a drinking problem. But my sister does just fine with him so I don't see why he can't live there. Or I could just do my best out at my family friend's house...they have a dumpster out there now to get rid of all the junk. I just hope she is willing to do that because I don't know what else to do otherwise.

Understood.

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

Understood.

I just edited a bit right when you quoted, sorry about that

 

[AmberMarie]

Frustrated! the Only apartment i can afford is a tiny place where the floorboards come up as u walk and it has a mini fridge in a so-called kitchen smaller than the bathroom... which isn't saying much. Either that or a 4 bedroom that you have your own room n bathroom n share a common room n kitchen with total strangers... like a dorm room of sorts... and on top of it all, both places are in the two worst parts of Denver and will be over an hour commute to n from work! Makes me wonder why i bother! (and i can't have my cat with me at either place) Maybe this should be in petty complaints instead...

 

[MisterBGone]

Sure. @wit~ no prob, then! ( ;

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

Sure. @wit~ no prob, then! ( ;

Because you know I always think of more things to add to explain myself, and can't stop talking