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How Are You Feeling Right Now?

LumberJack

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.... Not even left the house today, I might try to get a little night walk.
Same here but it's only 3:30 PM. I have not been getting out much, but I have had more dental/ etc type appointments than is usual this week. I thought about going up to higher elevation to get outdoors without immediately getting heatstroke (hyperbolically), but I then realized I don't have trail shoes. Went shopping online. Those are expensive. Going to check thrift stores but not while the sun is out, holy crap.
 

LumberJack

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I feel alright as long as I stay busy, but I have to kind of force myself to initiate an activity since motivation isn't really there. I pretty much cannot let my mind wander.
I am not sure whether this is a CBT concept or from somewhere else, but I have been advised by peers that, "motivation follows action." You'll rarely find motivation before you've physically started on something.

This is the principle that underlies the technique of setting a timer for 5-10 min, or even 3 if more is out of reach for you at that moment. You commit to doing something and nothing else until the timer goes off, and then decide from there whether to finish or if you're just not up for it.

In certain tasks, you could also start with a small number of objects, such as I'm going to put away at least 3 items that are not where they belong. When I've tried this, I almost get too much motivation and do more and more without taking breaks appropriately. Taking breaks is also necessary. Using the timer method has the same effect.

Just my own results with this technique, but that's also what others in my radius have reported after trying it. I have yet to hear from someone who got to the end of 10 minutes and still felt demotivated after that.
 

LumberJack

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I am in bed. Going to read my post apocalyptic book to soothe me to sleep 🤓
IIRC you have anxiety that makes it very hard for you to get any amount of sleep. I hope you're not reading The Stand by Stephen King. It's from a USA perspective and I devoured it when I was younger. Thing is, this story is eerily, almost preternaturally, echoed by the current political situation at the national level. I am at least 60% confident that reading this at bedtime is a recipe for nightmares, that is, as long as you do manage to nod off....

Sleep well! *hiding *shy
 
i am more alone than usual today. I hoped to do something today. something for me. Something to feel less empty.
It seems like it would be a relief to be heard. To interact with a human. let go of the disappointment I feel. I hear the voice that says I shouldn’t waste time or money. I would bother others, embarrass myself, embarrass my family.
I hoped to go somewhere and smile, laugh. maybe see someone else smile & laugh. I want to know that there is life beyond my sadness. It feels impossible. I Just cry.
I wanted to get a meal outside of my home. Carry out or something. I can’t even make that happen…. I am wasting money on food, fuel, etc.
I spent an hour do this post. I question everything too much. Every word. I will post this. Then leave the forum, afraid - even when I know there is compassion & kindness here. I am sorry.
 

AvidFan

Retired Cat Staff
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i am more alone than usual today. I hoped to do something today. something for me. Something to feel less empty.
It seems like it would be a relief to be heard. To interact with a human. let go of the disappointment I feel. I hear the voice that says I shouldn’t waste time or money. I would bother others, embarrass myself, embarrass my family.
I hoped to go somewhere and smile, laugh. maybe see someone else smile & laugh. I want to know that there is life beyond my sadness. It feels impossible. I Just cry.
I wanted to get a meal outside of my home. Carry out or something. I can’t even make that happen…. I am wasting money on food, fuel, etc.
I spent an hour do this post. I question everything too much. Every word. I will post this. Then leave the forum, afraid - even when I know there is compassion & kindness here. I am sorry.
No need to be sorry. I'm sorry you're afraid and alone and hope posting helped in some small way. Sounds like things are rough for you at the moment *sadhug
 

AvidFan

Retired Cat Staff
SF Supporter
IIRC you have anxiety that makes it very hard for you to get any amount of sleep. I hope you're not reading The Stand by Stephen King. It's from a USA perspective and I devoured it when I was younger. Thing is, this story is eerily, almost preternaturally, echoed by the current political situation at the national level. I am at least 60% confident that reading this at bedtime is a recipe for nightmares, that is, as long as you do manage to nod off....

Sleep well! *hiding*shy
Thanks. It's not The Stand though have read it twice. Ironically when a student or unemployed I would read Stephen King until 5am then sleep like a baby. There's certainly a dark man and other nightmares out there though! I'm reading one of those long rambling self published amazon epics where they get paid per page or something. 1000 pages to tell a 250 page story. Great for trying to get sleepy 😂
 

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