How Are You Feeling Right Now?

[LumberJack]

I was very upset yesterday. I hope it's ok to write this, but my daughter took my credit card and charged like $300 worth of door dash, parking, and clothes. I couldn't get a hold of her on the phone so I texted her things like, "who does that?!, are you out of your mind?!" She's done this to my fiance and her father. Im going to have to have a talk with her that this is totally not cool.

It’s okay to write about this, but what she did is inexcusable, especially given that this is not the first time. It sounds like she either doesn’t understand or doesn’t care about taking large amounts of money without permission.

I know this is a different scenario but I have had my card info stolen 3 times. It is a huge pain. Is there any way you can make it so she physically cannot use your card? The repetition here suggests that talking to her without something tangible also happening is unlikely to succeed.

 

[SillyOldBear]

lucky, i have mild to moderate shingle. it's on my right side back and stomach. i saw pics that are really bad including the face. so i consider myself lucky

mike

Damn it Mike! Cut it out. No more infections for you. I have heard that shingles can be brutal and hard to get rid of even for a somewhat healthy person. Sending hugs.

 

[LumberJack]

Truly feel like an outsider in this world atm. Truly just want to isolate myself.

Damn. I know that feeling. I’m really hoping for it to get better for you.

FWIW, I’m pretty sure that the feeling is not true.

 

[Windhover]

@Lane that's shocking. I'm sorry she did that to you - it's a breach of trust that hurts. I hope you can call the bank and tell them to cancel that card. It won't take away the charges of course but in case she wrote down your numbers and pin, it'll put a stop to her using it. They will re-issue you a card, and unfortunately I guess from now on keep it with you.

 

[Harmony]

Damn. I know that feeling. I’m really hoping for it to get better for you.

FWIW, I’m pretty sure that the feeling is not true.

Thanks, LJ. Sorry you've experienced it as well.

 

[Lane]

@Lane that's shocking. I'm sorry she did that to you - it's a breach of trust that hurts. I hope you can call the bank and tell them to cancel that card. It won't take away the charges of course but in case she wrote down your numbers and pin, it'll put a stop to her using it. They will re-issue you a card, and unfortunately I guess from now on keep it with you.

Thank you, Avid and LumberJack for your replies. I cancelled the card. She gave me back the old one with $200 back. I had a talk with her and told her this is actually a crime and how could she do that to her mother who puts a roof over her head, rent free. I also asked if her boyfriend knew, bcz its not fair to him, he should know what hes getting into. Thats all I could do and hopefully it doesn't become part of her permanent character. I hope you all are doing as well as possible today.

 

[AvidFan]

I am doing OK. Had an early start today and got an unexpected email written, as well as researching a couple of letters/emails I need to write to local authorities to get help from them. Got on with some work, ate OK, booked my doctor review - just getting things done instead of procrastinating really. Then at some point all the obligations stop later in the day and I can relax. Going for a walk with a friend at teatime which will be nice, though it's someone I sometimes run out of things to say with!

 

[LumberJack]

I’m having a distressing level of intrusive thoughts this morning. Oh well, I’m going to keep it to one level. I feel bad - but I’m not going to magnify that by feeling bad about the fact that I’m feeling bad.

 

[Windhover]

Three's been some improvelment in how things are going. It's small, but that's probably good, more likely to be reliable.

I hope everyone has a decent day, or at least not a bad one.

 

[AvidFan]

In absolute chaos now. 2 weeks of nothing then suddenly this builder chap can come after 5. I'm meeting friend for walk at 6 so said I'd be in 5-6. He said he'll come at 6... Meanwhile my hip has turned into an absolute bastard after being functional all weekend - 15,000 steps Saturday, 8000 steps yesterday. Today took it easy but it's twanging and twingeing walking around the the house so I don't know if I'm even capable of going for this walk - well I'm capable but don't know what damage I'm doing to myself as I apparently have "mild OA" and this is behaving like a need a hip replacement... Some days but not others....

 

[DarkNightshade]

I feel like curling up into a ball in a corner of my room and disappearing into the void. I don't want to see anyone. I want to be left alone in my corner.

 

[LumberJack]

In absolute chaos now. 2 weeks of nothing then suddenly this builder chap can come after 5. I'm meeting friend for walk at 6 so said I'd be in 5-6. He said he'll come at 6... Meanwhile my hip has turned into an absolute bastard after being functional all weekend - 15,000 steps Saturday, 8000 steps yesterday. Today took it easy but it's twanging and twingeing walking around the the house so I don't know if I'm even capable of going for this walk - well I'm capable but don't know what damage I'm doing to myself as I apparently have "mild OA" and this is behaving like a need a hip replacement... Some days but not others....

Sorry to hear that. IMHO as long as you’re walking/running with proper form and stretching before and after, you should at least not be making anything worse (?). I am fascinated by the fact that the best alignment with running is also how I’ve been instructed re: meditation posture. I guess it’s because both are trying to keep the breath as efficient as possible.

How do they assess mild OA? I would expect an x-ray but there’s always stuff I don’t know about. Either way, I hope they find out what will help with the pain that comes and goes. Hip replacement is no joke; I have had it explained to me because I will need that soon. It sounds terrible but I guess the recovery is harder the further in age one is.

 

[AvidFan]

Sorry to hear that. IMHO as long as you’re walking/running with proper form and stretching before and after, you should at least not be making anything worse (?). I am fascinated by the fact that the best alignment with running is also how I’ve been instructed re: meditation posture. I guess it’s because both are trying to keep the breath as efficient as possible.

How do they assess mild OA? I would expect an x-ray but there’s always stuff I don’t know about. Either way, I hope they find out what will help with the pain that comes and goes. Hip replacement is no joke; I have had it explained to me because I will need that soon. It sounds terrible but I guess the recovery is harder the further in age one is.

Thanks - off on the walk and took it easy. And did over 10,000 steps, totalling 15000 for the day, and the hip behaved like a normal hip despite the uneven terrain and clambering over fallen trees. It was silent. Then I got a twinge walking through the living room when I got in 🤣

Yeah the hip is functionally fine, but I've been told I have a sensitised nerve in that area, which could explain it all. Yeah they just said Mild OA from an x ray but all that shows is a bit of a gap where there's some minor cartilage wear - I'd expect this at my age, I don't think it would explain what is a functional and very intermittently painful hip 🫠 The thing is I've got a specialist who is seeing the whole picture and a general doctor who wants a simple explanation they can code into their system 🤷

 

[PrincessPure]

I’m an overly emotional should and it’s killing me slowly. Might as well never make friends.

 

[ClassicsFan]

Worn down.

 

[full]

Restless

 

[LumberJack]

Thanks - off on the walk and took it easy. And did over 10,000 steps, totalling 15000 for the day, and the hip behaved like a normal hip despite the uneven terrain and clambering over fallen trees. It was silent. Then I got a twinge walking through the living room when I got in 🤣

Yeah the hip is functionally fine, but I've been told I have a sensitised nerve in that area, which could explain it all. Yeah they just said Mild OA from an x ray but all that shows is a bit of a gap where there's some minor cartilage wear - I'd expect this at my age, I don't think it would explain what is a functional and very intermittently painful hip 🫠 The thing is I've got a specialist who is seeing the whole picture and a general doctor who wants a simple explanation they can code into their system 🤷

I am proud of myself if I get 15K steps in half a week. I need to get out there more. And I have picked up that the heat in Western Europe is as bad as it is here in the SW USA*, which makes it very hard. Worst part is my skin. This is just my own experience, but stretching is about the best thing I can do for my chronic pain, even though my injury was cartilage + bursitis in the beginning. TENS unit is nice but the adhesive gets irritating if I use it frequently.

Thank baby Jeebus that you have the specialist. Geeze these transactional doctors - I get it; they are the same over here. Part of why the healthcare system is broken overall. Doctors overloaded means they are just trying to churn through appts as quickly as possible so that they can also haggle with insurance companies and write up the notes that are required. I understand the insurance piece is less complicated in single payer systems, but it still sounds like there's more need for doctors than doctors to fill the need.

* - the definition of the SW region of the USA is disputed. Geographically, I am basically in the dead center between east and west over the N. American continent, but climate-wise, we are much more similar to the SW than midwest. I've heard people in AZ say that CO is actually in the midwest, but I don't think they've spent a lot of time in, e.g., Ohio and then gone to Colorado. Culturally we are pathologically connected to the "cowboy" mythos, so I think that's where the SW comparison begins to look apt.

 

[AvidFan]

Stressed. I was quite relaxed and doing OK when I had a meeting at 3pm, some compliance issues came up along with a scheduling bottleneck. And somehow ended up looking at the second week in September trying to reconcile multiple competing priorities. My house, health, work, birthday and a supposed trip away to enjoy said birthday all competing for attention and leaving no room for manoeuvre at all. The house especially terrifying going into autumn with the weather not likely to be great. Head feels like it might explode. I was supposed to start a paid project but feel totally frazzled now. Might try a walk to clear my head.

 

[LumberJack]

I woke up an hour ago and had a med mgt appointment for 30 min. I'm noticing I feel generally OK. Since I felt like garbage yesterday, this is a huge improvement - even if I'm still carrying a noticeable weight of sadness. I think I dreamed about horses last night. This would not be surprising given that I watched about 30 min of YT vids on equine body language. I wish I knew what this sudden obsession meant, but it seems to get me out of the house and isn't causing any negative impacts, so I'm going to roll with it for now.

I already feel like I could use a nap, though. This ****ing whipsaw sleep pattern is no fun. I'm in hypersomnia now, trying to catch up from the heavy insomnia last week. I'm dealing with a plethora of issues, from physical health to financial and career problems. I think that for now I'm going to get the most benefit from focusing on food and hydration, because everything else falls over when those are not being handled appropriately

 

[AvidFan]

I feel exhausted and like there is no point trying any more, it just leads to more exhaustion and disappointment. I won't do anything. I'll try to eat and go to bed try to hope I feel different tomorrow. Just so fucking tired.