Sorry to here that @AvidFan. I see your in the UK. Is there any home improvement grants going at the moment or low rate loans. Citizens advice might be able to help if you give them a call - https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/
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Thanks for this. I've researched it relentessly, there may be something but only for people on benefits and only in selected areas (I checked and not in mine - of course!). They used to do a scheme where the council would pay for the work but you had to pay it back if you sold the house within x amount of years (as people would buy houses to do up, claim the grant and then sell the house on for profit!). Trust people with no morals to ruin it for people who needed it. With all the cuts there's pretty much nothing around unless you're looking at loft insulation or improving accessibility. 😟
Maybe someone here knows, exactly how important is drinking water when you have a UTI? I used to find that a few antibiotics always cured mine regardless of whether I drank water or not (usually within 2 days), but now that I'm on a biologic injection which weakens my immune system, I can't seem to get rid of this one after several courses of antibiotics. I haven't drank much water though, until now. Perhaps it's much more important than I previously thought to help flush it out? Especially in my situation?
Yeah. Thanks for saying this.
The shock & surprise from something utterly changing our lives for the wors was processed in the only way I could see: I'm broken. Because, I used to feel robust, eager to challenge myself in new ways. I'm not purposely wallowing in grief: I had too much confidence in myself before this situation happened. Maybe some of us internalize our trauma(s) to a greater degree than others. That sounds like gobblygook but it's probably from being abused as a child and that pattern of thought being kind of pre-loaded.
The shock & surprise from something utterly changing our lives for the wors was processed in the only way I could see: I'm broken. Because, I used to feel robust, eager to challenge myself in new ways. I'm not purposely wallowing in grief: I had too much confidence in myself before this situation happened. Maybe some of us internalize our trauma(s) to a greater degree than others. That sounds like gobblygook but it's probably from being abused as a child and that pattern of thought being kind of pre-loaded.
All I can offer is my grandmother's solid common-sense advice: when we are sick with an infection, drinking plenty of water or an electrolyte solution - is even more important than usual. General rule of thumb is one should need to pee approximately once an hour. If you've finished your antibiotics and you are still sick, let your MD's office know as soon as you can. I'm not a doctor.
What you described is real. I know that when I was trapped in the counter therapeutic detention center, I regressed to learned helplessness, and now I am overflowing with the anger that I wish I had access to on the spot.
I read somewhere about how being hard on ourselves is going to hamper our healing and long term hurt our resilience in general. Oops on me. I’m trying to say that you could maybe just experiment with self compassion. Let me know if you would like sources.
I read somewhere about how being hard on ourselves is going to hamper our healing and long term hurt our resilience in general. Oops on me. I’m trying to say that you could maybe just experiment with self compassion. Let me know if you would like sources.
I’m having a hard day and it’s hard to keep away from the trap of nihilism, i.e., the attitude that nothing matters anyway, because death is the end and there’s nothing after that.
I don’t really believe this. Not in a new age “love and light” way, but based on logical reasoning that begins with observable, repeatable phenomena. I’m not sure what happens to an individual as far as a center of subjective experience. Nonetheless I believe that the feeling that we are different and separate from the rest of the world, and other people “out there,” is useful, but false in reality.
I don’t really believe this. Not in a new age “love and light” way, but based on logical reasoning that begins with observable, repeatable phenomena. I’m not sure what happens to an individual as far as a center of subjective experience. Nonetheless I believe that the feeling that we are different and separate from the rest of the world, and other people “out there,” is useful, but false in reality.
That's what I've been doing, basically. Today, at least. And it seems that helps subside the pain at the very least, so it's seemingly still worth doing even if just for that purpose. If I knew that, I definitely would have forced myself to do it sooner, but I found going every hour to be annoying and decided to be stubborn. But not now, not anymore, now that I know that. I haven't finished the antibiotics yet, no, but I noticed it seemed to feel better yesterday and then got worse this morning so I was concerned. But the reason is probably because I was drinking coffee and avoiding water.
Awake. I'd just started getting my sleep back on track but with today's stress no chance. I've ended up researching methods because I can't sleep. I did go to sleep for 5 minutes and then dreamt someone was banging on the door and that was it. I'm not doing anything with the methods, I know it would work, was just double checking it would be peaceful. I'm worried it's becoming inevitable. All for the sake of £10k or so. Surely a life is worth more than that. Try telling the absolute fuckers who are making my life hell right now (work shit on top of the roof shit). Sorry for rambling I don't want to worry anyone I'll still be here tomorrow if only for my SF friends 🤗❤️
Here’s a guided meditation with Tara Brach. She is part of the New England academics who did much of the work that put mindfulness on the map in the west. I have been listening to her talks for years, and she is legit. In fact, I think that she and Jack Kornfield are tied for best mindfulness teachers alive in the west.
Another I would recommend is Kristin Neff. She has a book called Self-Compassion, which is the outcome of her social science studies in this area. I will try to find one of her talks as well. The ones I have found so far are just ads to sign up for a service where you can pay to watch talks, etc.
Slimy af if you ask me. There are many predators, or just plain greed motivated individuals in this space. Not to mention well-meaning self declared “teachers” who don’t understand what they claim to. In other words, you have to be discerning, and IMHO, the second someone wants to charge money, they are suspect. The way this is taught in Buddhism is that the teachings are offered as a gift to others. The audience is welcome to donate freely what they are moved to give to encourage more teachings. This is called Dana, and anyone who doesn’t practice Dana is either a charlatan, or has not understood enough to set themselves up as a teacher.
Another I would recommend is Kristin Neff. She has a book called Self-Compassion, which is the outcome of her social science studies in this area. I will try to find one of her talks as well. The ones I have found so far are just ads to sign up for a service where you can pay to watch talks, etc.
Slimy af if you ask me. There are many predators, or just plain greed motivated individuals in this space. Not to mention well-meaning self declared “teachers” who don’t understand what they claim to. In other words, you have to be discerning, and IMHO, the second someone wants to charge money, they are suspect. The way this is taught in Buddhism is that the teachings are offered as a gift to others. The audience is welcome to donate freely what they are moved to give to encourage more teachings. This is called Dana, and anyone who doesn’t practice Dana is either a charlatan, or has not understood enough to set themselves up as a teacher.
isn't it just lovely to get old lol. my wife and i talked about issues both good and bad. we find that we are blessed and now the good is more than the bad. i'm lucky to get my meds at a very reasonable price and since we moved into a large 2 bedroom very clean apartment we have been so much better. we no longer worry about money, we aren't well off but way more comfortable. i am lucky to be born in the u.s.. life can suck but as long as there is good as well i'm ok. i hope you can continue to find good things in your life until gods invites you to go home. you are a special person that i'm sure that god loves and is very proud of you
mike....
mike....