Try not to do that (if you can) in the future. . . I undestand "why," you feel you have to - (I've done it. More than I'd care to share!); in the end though, all I think it really serves to do is to oppress ourselves. -or mayb e i'm jsut talking to my self?? ; ) peace_.
Me deciding to be absent in their lives turned out to be the right thing to do. I know they care and i know they understand, life happens and for me this is how it should be.