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[Human Ex Machinae]

@Dante Never mind, you're angry, and that's ok. I've been there, like 5 minutes ago. Anger can be good and cleansing. Sorry if I was being judgemental. That's the absolute last thing I should ever do.

 

[Dante]

Do you see any real, basic, fundamental differences between you and that person driving behind you?

Im not sure where you are going with this, but not really, beyond my awareness of the fact that we both suck, what's your point? From the beginning here I have made sure to tar myself with the same brush as the rest of the species.

Idiots (not you) running amok.

Are you genuinely telling me that I should be so solipsistic that I shouldnt care when someone is about to cause me bodily harm because that would be caring about others?

 

[Dante]

High interval training? Burn a thousand calories and you won't have the energy to care about that stuff, that is completely out of your control.

Sorry, but exercise is out of the question, the pain in my side I have had for 18 months (Im sure i complained about it earlier) is triggered by movement, I tried exercising last week, 20 pushups and 20 sit-ups had me essentially useless for the rest of the day from the pain.

 

[Dante]

@Dante Never mind, you're angry, and that's ok. I've been there, like 5 minutes ago. Anger can be good and cleansing. Sorry if I was being judgemental. That's the absolute last thing I should ever do.

Im not arguing with you because im angry, its because I dont even understand the basis for your arguments, how is being angry at someone screwing up my day a sign that I care too much about others especially when I am equally angry at myself for also screwing up my day? Im only pressing the point because I still dont see any basis for it, the idea that I will magically not worry about the idiot who almost totalled my car if I become exclusively self-absorbed is nonsensical to me.

 

[Human Ex Machinae]

Im not arguing with you because im angry, its because I dont even understand the basis for your arguments, how is being angry at someone screwing up my day a sign that I care too much about others especially when I am equally angry at myself for also screwing up my day? Im only pressing the point because I still dont see any basis for it, the idea that I will magically not worry about the idiot who almost totalled my car if I become exclusively self-absorbed is nonsensical to me.

This is stuff you're trying to work out right now. You're a smart person, and from what I've read so far, a fundamentally good one. You'll get there.

 

[BarryW]

You're beginning to see a pattern right? I put in the work to fix myself and nothing changes.

Thanks for taking the time to explain what you meant so elaborately.

Can you think of one of your behavioral patterns that you have been able to change?

 

[Dante]

Thanks for taking the time to explain what you meant so elaborately.

Can you think of one of your behavioral patterns that you have been able to change?

I have made some headway towards tact, and if I put in the effort I have been told by some that I can even be charming, but under pressure my social skills fall apart, also, though I have not managed to stay far away from depression I have managed to avoid dipping in too deeply. Any successes I have had are partial successes.

 

[BarryW]

Keep adding on to that list of partial successes (by having more in the future). You may be able to feel less powerless about your external frustration factors that way.