It's part of what I'm working on. I don't really know how to think differently though. I can try to catch myself when it's a conscious thought and point myself in a different direction, but ultimately it doesn't feel like a choice - it's such an engrained thing, it's in my gut, the feeling of it.
But It is within your control to change that. Like I said, it won't feel right. It will feel forced and unnatural. People who grew up in dysfunctional homes don't feel right when learning to act 'healthy'. It's just strange to you coz it's not what you're used to.