Are you over 60?

[Livelife]

exactly

how do you make it?

I mean I just want to die

Oof....my apologies for the overdue response....I'm just seeing it.....
I really don't "make it" in any real sense...my now usual state of mind is pretty much the same as yours, and it's from the time I open my eyes in the morning. I wish I had something positive and viable to share with you. Exercising, nature walking, working out at the Y, meditating, busy work....nothing changes. It really has to do with being overwhelmingly alone now in life.

 

[Waves]

I remember seeing seniors at work and wishing they would retire. Now I am a senior and I get it. I wish had known them what I know now. I would treat them so differently. It seems to be developmental. Seniors are reminders of things the young want to avoid. I am slower. My skin is not tight anymore. I am hard of hearing. I find it hard to change and adopt to technology. I am vulnerable to scans. I can’t lift things anymore. I am not worthless but I am not worthy. There is a difference and it is what it is. But we could change our attitieard seniors but not our reflexive aversion to reminders of . .elderly.

 

[dandelions]

I remember seeing seniors at work and wishing they would retire. Now I am a senior and I get it. I wish had known them what I know now. I would treat them so differently. It seems to be developmental. Seniors are reminders of things the young want to avoid. I am slower. My skin is not tight anymore. I am hard of hearing. I find it hard to change and adopt to technology. I am vulnerable to scans. I can’t lift things anymore. I am not worthless but I am not worthy. There is a difference and it is what it is. But we could change our attitieard seniors but not our reflexive aversion to reminders of . .elderly.

ah Waves you are reminding me - as I struggled up the stairs from the subway on a few occasions and there were people behind me tsuh-ing me - and I was discovering that old people don't really walk up stairs slowly just to disrespect and inconvenience the young but there's a bit of pain in the body too...

 

[Waves]

ah Waves you are reminding me - as I struggled up the stairs from the subway on a few occasions and there were people behind me tsuh-ing me - and I was discovering that old people don't really walk up stairs slowly just to disrespect and inconvenience the young but there's a bit of pain in the body too...

you made me smile with your reply. Yes do people really think we don’t care that we have 29 cars tailgating us on a windy two lane road because we follow the 30 mph speed limit because we are slower with reflexes on a windy road?

 

[dandelions]

you made me smile with your reply. Yes do people really think we don’t care that we have 29 cars tailgating us on a windy two lane road because we follow the 30 mph speed limit because we are slower with reflexes on a windy road?

remarkably where I live we have an exception to the rule. an often 10 lane street affectionately known as the Boulevard of Death that just happens to run through a rather large community consisting predominantly of the elderly who live on the north side and shop on the south side. ( do you get where I'm going with this?) well, iron fences across the lane dividing islands didn't change a thing. the well hidden speed cameras had little effect as well. forget about the ever increasing death toll, but somehow nowadays, nearly everyone stays within the 25mph speed limit the full 7.5 miles. go figure!

 

[Silbers]

Are you over 60? If yes does life get harder with finances, security, depression, anxiety and loneliness?

Thank you

I'm 59

 

[Brit]

I'm not quite there, but I can easily relate ... I had normal vision until I reached 50, when long-sightedness set in - During the last 4-years, I have become more dependent on specs, especially for reading and computer work. I clearly remember being so irritated when older-colleagues were continuously looking for their glasses, especially if I handed them something to read, etc. Now, it's me, forever loosing/searching for my specs. Sometimes they're actually on my head, and ONCE I was actually wearing them - A younger colleague pointed it out, "they're on your face!" Good grief

 

[Waves]

I'm 67 and for me life has definitely become harder. But I think that it depends upon whether or not you are financially stable and in good health. Although my mental health, with the exception of what's going on now, is good it's my physical health that isn't. Having a house rather than renting brings with it it's own set of problems and responsibilities. We've lived here for 7 years and have replaced the water heater once and also done maintenance on it twice. The good thing is that there is no yard work during late fall, winter and early spring.

The biggest problem is financial. It's hard to live on a fixed income which isn't very much.

I think that if a person makes the right decisions early in life and has a great deal of luck in the decisions they make, life after 60 doesn't necessarily have to be harder than the years before 60.

One of the biggest problems is loneliness and having to rely on other people for transportation to medical appointments under certain circumstances,.

If you can maintain your mental and physical health after 60 then the years after 60 don't have to be any worse than the years before 60.

Hi KittyKat
Thank you for your wisdom. How have you been?

 

[Waves]

Hello

I am interested in chatting with someone over 60 about life and daily things. It helps to talk to someone who can relate to similar age related life issues. If you would like to chat please message me. Thank you

 

[Always Unloved]

Yes, definitely over 60 because I was born in July 1952. Luckily I always have enough money all the time. No, not a millionaire but living comfortably. If you don't squander, then your finances will remain secure. One thing about money is that you have to keep on your toes all the time because just one misstep and you might lose everything.

So no financial woes. Instead, my woes are my health and loneliness. Constantly deteriorating health is expected at our age of course. So I always pray that I can go on to the next life before I get too debilitated and helpless. My greatest fear is Alzheimer's disease. Because the only other survivor in my immediate family is my 95-year old Mother who has that Alzheimer's whom I had to finally commit to a nursing home. What makes it so difficult for me emotionally is that her dementia has made her forget who I am. Before her dementia, she and I were very close and we used to go on many excursions together. What's so difficult is when she stares blankly at me and does not say hello and does not even say a single word, then it's as though her soul is already gone. Her physical body is alive but her soul is gone. So much as I hate to say it I have cut down on my visits to her because it's much too painful to visit her and get no response at all. I hope you folks can understand me. I'm sorry.

I’m 65 and my mother had Alzheimer’s also. It is my greatest fear as well. I can very much relate with you on the body and illnesses as we get older.

 

[KM76710]

I’m 65 and my mother had Alzheimer’s also. It is my greatest fear as well. I can very much relate with you on the body and illnesses as we get older.

Welcome to the site and glad you are here with us. I hope that you keep posting and getting to know the members and various sections of the forum because there is a good to explore and a great place to find friends.

 

[Livelife]

I'm doing some deep reminiscing today and thinking of things that most years younger don't know of.
Like knowing expressions such as "It's the bee's knees" which was actually before my time but my grandfather said it a lot and then "It's the same old 6's and 7's" and one of my father's favorites: "It takes 62 muscles to frown and only 26 to smile" (numbers vary depending upon who you remember this from but it's always many more to frown, so it left a mark on me so to speak by me usually always having a smile on my face because I didn't want early wrinkles) And I know who was US president going back many decades and only having black and white tv and rotary avocado telephones with mile long cords. And hula hooping and playing jacks and climbing fences and trees kept us busy for hours as kids. I could go on. I can still hula hoop and play jacks and practice yoga and climb a tree if I had to. I look in the mirror and don't see what I used to think 66 year olds looked like. Except I know many others younger see me as an "old" person. It's a sometimes interesting age to be.

 

[Lady Wolfshead]

When replying to a post here, I found this line for services for isolated seniors in the USA:

https://socialworklicensemap.com/blog/social-isolation-resources-older-adults/

 

[Winslow]

When replying to a post here, I found this line for services for isolated seniors in the USA:

https://socialworklicensemap.com/blog/social-isolation-resources-older-adults/

Thank you for those resources. But to my dismay, I can not find any here in Hawaii. Do you know of any?

 

[Lady Wolfshead]

Thank you for those resources. But to my dismay, I can not find any here in Hawaii. Do you know of any?

I'm in Canada and just using google. If you're on Oahu there's this: (doesn't look like you have to be Catholic)

https://www.catholiccharitieshawaii.org/phone-a-friend/

I just googled "isolated seniors Hawaii" - some links came up that I couldn't click on perhaps because I'm in Canada.

Hope you can find something. More and more places have these lines for seniors to connect with each other or with volunteers. You could try 211 as well. I would think many cities might have seniors' centres that offer exercise classes as well.

 

[Always Unloved]

Hello

I am interested in chatting with someone over 60 about life and daily things. It helps to talk to someone who can relate to similar age related life issues. If you would like to chat please message me. Thank you[/QUOTE

I’m 65 soon to be 66 and my mind is young but I’m old in body. I have a lung disease , mental illness, osteoarthritis and osteoporosis. I’m not working at the moment but am looking for work.

 

[Waves]

Hello. Nice to me you. Aging is not fun is it? What kind of work would you like? I work. I don’t cope well with the ageism in society. Even seniors are biased towards peers. It is ridiculous. How do you cope?

 

[Livelife]

@Waves
I don't cope well with ageism in society either. It becomes more evident to me every passing year and being alone I feel enhances it. Your point of seniors being biased towards peers is well noted and it's disheartening along with the ridiculous. I see it all around me.[/QUOTE]

 

[FFurry]

@Waves
I don't cope well with ageism in society either. It becomes more evident to me every passing year and being alone I feel enhances it. Your point of seniors being biased towards peers is well noted and it's disheartening along with the ridiculous. I see it all around me.

Yep, especially in the tech industry, where it's pretty much out in the open. It's even codified in some corporate slogans, like "We don't respect tradition, only innovation."

I suppose age doesn't prevent us from innovating, but that's the stereotype and thus the officially codified ageism.

 

[Waves]

Yep, especially in the tech industry, where it's pretty much out in the open. It's even codified in some corporate slogans, like "We don't respect tradition, only innovation."

I suppose age doesn't prevent us from innovating, but that's the stereotype and thus the officially codified ageism.

Wow. It is codified. That is so mean and hurtful