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BPD Support Thread
- Thread starter Aurelia
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I’m sorry that you feel this way. I’ll be honest, even though I’m chatting with people on the forum and posting on this thread I still don’t feel like I fit in. I am always analysing myself and what I’ve written and I get worried if someone doesn’t reply to what I’ve said. At the end of the day though, I think what’s important is that you’ve put yourself out there and it’s really good that you’re posting stuff. I’m more than happy to talk to you about anything or be a listening ear.
Dedicated to everyone in pain.
Lyrics:
This song is not for the living
This song is for the dead
With my face against the floor,
I can't see who knocked me out of the way.
I don't want to get back up, but I have to, so it might as well be today.
Nothing appeals to me, no one feels like me; I'm too busy being calm to disappear.
I'm in no shape to be alone, contrary to the shit that you might hear.
So walk with me, walk with me...don't let this symbolism kill your heart.
Walk with me, walk with me...just like we should have done right from the start.
Walk with me, walk with me...don't let this fucking world tear you apart!
Lyrics:
This song is not for the living
This song is for the dead
With my face against the floor,
I can't see who knocked me out of the way.
I don't want to get back up, but I have to, so it might as well be today.
Nothing appeals to me, no one feels like me; I'm too busy being calm to disappear.
I'm in no shape to be alone, contrary to the shit that you might hear.
So walk with me, walk with me...don't let this symbolism kill your heart.
Walk with me, walk with me...just like we should have done right from the start.
Walk with me, walk with me...don't let this fucking world tear you apart!
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Why do you bring this up? I have many narcissistic tendencies. It's the main reason I'm here.
It is very hard to see in yourself though - hard to become self-aware. I basically had to drive everyone in my life away to realize I was the issue.
What also sucks is that we tend to be charming and nice.
For me it was apparent to my wife but not to me. Until now.
It is very hard to see in yourself though - hard to become self-aware. I basically had to drive everyone in my life away to realize I was the issue.
What also sucks is that we tend to be charming and nice.
For me it was apparent to my wife but not to me. Until now.
Hey @anona I hope what I said did not cause any offence. I was thinking a lot about the way I act and have acted in the past and I think it’s quite common for people with bpd to have narcissistic traits too. It’s strange though because I’m very self aware but it’s only something that has just recently occurred to me so maybe it’s just traits more than anything else.
Oh good I’m glad about that and thank you, it seems to be a bit of a contradiction for me because I feel like I care for others deeply but sometimes I wonder if I’m doing it ultimately for myself to make myself feel good. Like I feel like everything seems to revolve around me even though I’m not aware that I’m doing that. It’s just things like that. I’m sorry if that’s confusing, I’m struggle a lot with self image.
Yeah I struggled with that. I thought a narcissist was just someone who was vain. But we do make everything about us. My problem is I overreacted when something wasn't ideal - like everything was some personal attack.
My therapist gave this analogy. She said it might sound corny but I found it very accurate. She said think of driving in a car - you see the world outside but it's not affecting you. You can just process everything. But with narcissism it's like there are no windows - you're constantly being bombarded with everything you see. Everything is about you somehow.
Maybe different people react different ways but I did with anger.
My therapist gave this analogy. She said it might sound corny but I found it very accurate. She said think of driving in a car - you see the world outside but it's not affecting you. You can just process everything. But with narcissism it's like there are no windows - you're constantly being bombarded with everything you see. Everything is about you somehow.
Maybe different people react different ways but I did with anger.
That’s a really good analogy, and yeah I do seem to make everything about me a lot of the time. Like if a couple that I know splits up, I’ll sometimes immediately think “oh was it because of me?”and there is absolutely no reason for it to be because of me, but it’s like a knee jerk reaction for me to respond that way. But then again that could be the bpd.
That's pretty incredible that you do realize it, even if it may have taken you a while to do so. The textbook narcissist sees nothing wrong with his/her behavior. So perhaps, your self-awareness is actually a sign that you may be a very low-grade narcissist, or perhaps not one at all. And it's not just the self-awareness, because many narcissists do tend to be, not only charming, but very intelligent as well, it's also the fact that you say that's the main reason you're here...this indicates that you're seeking some sort of help for yourself. Another thing that narcissists don't tend to do/accept.