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I don't know details of your marriage. But I do know it's never one persons fault. I hope you don't continue to blame yourself. It takes both partners to work on it and sometimes one isn't willing to but the other is. Sometimes, like I was in a situation with an abusive ex, I would constantly blame myself. It took a long time to look back and see what had really happened. I'm not comparing to your pain. I'm just saying we can grieve for a long time without realizing it may be best you aren't together anymore. Hugs to you. I'm sorry you're missing the ocean.and where you used to live and had expected to remain. That's very hard!
I only got to see the ocean once, a year ago in Belize for a trip. I never wanted to leave! It's darn cold here. I walked so much through so much sand I was in less pain after 3 weeks there. It's hard to motivate myself in the winter, I don't know if that is also not helping you now. I feel for you @seabird
I only got to see the ocean once, a year ago in Belize for a trip. I never wanted to leave! It's darn cold here. I walked so much through so much sand I was in less pain after 3 weeks there. It's hard to motivate myself in the winter, I don't know if that is also not helping you now. I feel for you @seabird
Yeah, it's cold; an ice storm happened here a couple days ago, even the poor birds got killed, the whole city paused, and I guess everything got to me. This is the fourth year in which I skipped summer and winter seems to be non-stop. I was going back and forth from the US to Australia and it just ended up like that.
Everything you said was really touching. Thank you I don't know you but what you said helps. I'm finally to the point where, at one level I know it wasn't my fault, the truth is sifting in slowly.
It means I've got to face the pain and disappointment of all of it, face on, directly. I'm an intense person I guess that is where the painting comes from. but it's hard
I hope you get back to the warm sand and ocean again too.
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Everything you said was really touching. Thank you I don't know you but what you said helps. I'm finally to the point where, at one level I know it wasn't my fault, the truth is sifting in slowly.
It means I've got to face the pain and disappointment of all of it, face on, directly. I'm an intense person I guess that is where the painting comes from. but it's hard
I hope you get back to the warm sand and ocean again too.
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it is ok to let stuff out here. and you are venting or seeking support not just whining. when my pain is bad i mention it here because it helps even though i have said it over 100 times. it helps when we can put it out there and get it off our chest. please feel free to post all that you can lol
mike....
mike....
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