That's the main problem. Love has been an overused, abused and misused term that nowadays, it hardly means anything at all.
Romance is different from love. Passion is different from love. You can love without romance. You can romance without love.
You love your children, your parents, your husband/wife/gf/bf/partner... You do not romance your children or your parents or [HOPEFULLY] any other member of your family with at least 3rd degree of consanguinity.
Love is unconditional and eternal. Unconditional means unconditional. Again... cut off my ears, take all my money, abuse me, kill everyone important to me and i love you anyway. THAT is unconditional. Anything less than that is CONDITIONAL, therefore, not love.
Admittedly, I cannot say I will ever feel that way for someone except MAYBE my future children (I will be unable to know that for sure because I still don't have children). If someone hurts my family, I am out the door. If someone hurts me, I am out the door.
I have been actually called a "romantic" when I told some people how I view love. They say it's too idealistic because we are human beings and innate in every human being is the need to belong and be respected. And I said, LOVE should be stronger than all those emotions. Heck, it should be stronger than our need to eat and drink, right? It should be stronger than anything.
Just because people are not capable of LOVING (loving in how i define it) doesn't mean love's true meaning will change.
That is why I said i don't think humans know how to love (except maybe parent to child) because we always have conditions, boundaries, limitations... because WE LOVE OURSELVES FIRST. and when our limitations, boundaries or conditions are challenged, that's when prove to ourselves, it's us first. we love ourselves first. and that's not bad, i think.
Sure we feel something for other people. We care for them, trust them, wish them well, respect them, etc. but that doesn't mean we love them. I don't know what that is called but UNLESS THAT IS UNCONDITIONAL, that's not love.
Don't get me wrong, I do hope someone out there is capable of it. I like happy endings... that's why I am still around.