Im on my last semester, and im always on my last semester. what remains to finish is a recital and my thesis. I feel so tired doing things I dont like, which is my music composition the recital. It is just a music composition is something that has to be honest from the person itself, but my lecturer keeps forcing me to do things that doesnt make sense, and i dont really like it. Im an idealist. Its really hard to force myself to do this non sense, so i keep procrastinating. My family, no one understands. They just keep asking when will i graduate and compare me to other people. I feel like im being pressurized from every side. I m so pissed and envy seeing other people happiness, I just hope everyone can feel what Im feeling. I want to escape from this world and start a new life or if there s no way to escape I want to end this kind of life im so tired
Im super tired with univ life
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Hey Riuna, it's lovely to meet you. My name is Luoma! I firstly just want to say I'm so terribly sorry your life has been this was so far.
I've just started university and I can say with full confidence I hate it. My parents forced me into this major and every single assignment I do feels like knives in my heart because I'm just SO uninterested. It's painful, I know how you feel. And much like you, I question, do I REALLY need to do this? What on earth is the point of this stupid assignment? But, sometimes we have to remember that all things have a purpose. Even if you feel as if the assignment is useless, it can sometimes teach you things, whether it's course content or just lessons in life. My suggestion is to reward yourself when studying in order keep working. For example, when you finish a little bit, treat yourself with a candy or something.
I ALSO know what it's like to be under pressure. My parents adopted me just so they could have a kid who would succeed, not because they loved me. So I'm stuck in this world where I have to constantly fight to succeed and if I don't, I will feel as if I failed my chance at life.
But, the reality of this situation is different for both of us. We are not put onto this world with a purpose we HAVE to fufill. We were not made to make other people happy. We have to make OURSELVES happy. You shouldn't be compared to other people because you are unique and other people have different circumstances. Anybody who compares you to someone else is 1000% dead wrong, okay?
There is a future for you, I promise. I'd just say force yourself to finish this semester and see where you go from there. If your parents are a huge source of pressure try to cut contact with them and remember, you are an adult so you CAN do your own thing. Legally, they can't force you to do anything. You can take control of your own life and be the person you want to be. Consider it the first new page in your new book of life!
Best wishes to you. -hugs- Everything will turn out okay
I've just started university and I can say with full confidence I hate it. My parents forced me into this major and every single assignment I do feels like knives in my heart because I'm just SO uninterested. It's painful, I know how you feel. And much like you, I question, do I REALLY need to do this? What on earth is the point of this stupid assignment? But, sometimes we have to remember that all things have a purpose. Even if you feel as if the assignment is useless, it can sometimes teach you things, whether it's course content or just lessons in life. My suggestion is to reward yourself when studying in order keep working. For example, when you finish a little bit, treat yourself with a candy or something.
I ALSO know what it's like to be under pressure. My parents adopted me just so they could have a kid who would succeed, not because they loved me. So I'm stuck in this world where I have to constantly fight to succeed and if I don't, I will feel as if I failed my chance at life.
But, the reality of this situation is different for both of us. We are not put onto this world with a purpose we HAVE to fufill. We were not made to make other people happy. We have to make OURSELVES happy. You shouldn't be compared to other people because you are unique and other people have different circumstances. Anybody who compares you to someone else is 1000% dead wrong, okay?
There is a future for you, I promise. I'd just say force yourself to finish this semester and see where you go from there. If your parents are a huge source of pressure try to cut contact with them and remember, you are an adult so you CAN do your own thing. Legally, they can't force you to do anything. You can take control of your own life and be the person you want to be. Consider it the first new page in your new book of life!
Best wishes to you. -hugs- Everything will turn out okay
Welcome to SF. It has been a while since I was in school, but I certainly remember the pressures and having to do all these things I did not want to do. But somehow you just have to muddle through them and think of the greater degree of freedom you will have once you graduate. You sound like you are so close. I am sorry your family compares you so much with other people. When will we learn that everyone of us is different. We each have different gifts. Different ways to shine. Please keep at it. Graduation is close.
Hi Riuna, I think this piece of article may help, I found it enlightening to an extent: http://thoughtcatalog.com/georgia-frances/2017/02/what-its-like-to-be-23-with-a-useless-degree/
Hi Riuna. I finished University last year, I didn't do music... but I may be able to relate to the bit about pressure from your lecturer to do things you don't want to do.
In my experience, I used my lecturers apparent displeasure of me, as motivation to finish, fast, but to a guaranteed-acceptable standards. I wouldn't entirely say that I had any pleasure doing it, particularly towards the end... but I finished, about a week before the deadline. Handing it in was a huge weight off my shoulder, where as I suspect if I hadn't finished I may still have been harbouring some pressure.
Don't give up, and whatever you do, do NOT stop being an idealist!!!
Moderators, please delete this if it's deemed inappropriate advice.
In my experience, I used my lecturers apparent displeasure of me, as motivation to finish, fast, but to a guaranteed-acceptable standards. I wouldn't entirely say that I had any pleasure doing it, particularly towards the end... but I finished, about a week before the deadline. Handing it in was a huge weight off my shoulder, where as I suspect if I hadn't finished I may still have been harbouring some pressure.
Don't give up, and whatever you do, do NOT stop being an idealist!!!
Moderators, please delete this if it's deemed inappropriate advice.