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Today my therapist and I talked about how I came to have such a low opinion of myself (self-hate). She said because of how I was treated as a child by family and others, their negative comments and treatment became internalized into negative self-talk and perpetuate my self-hatred.
I'm trying to figure out how to change, how to 'love' myself. How do I convince my HEART what they taught me was wrong? My HEAD knows, but it doesn't seem to help me.
I was going to list all the negatives taught me, but it was so depressing I tried to list as positives, or what I need to LEARN:
-I'm worthy of nice things & nice people in my life.
-I'm valuable just because I'm human, I don't have to earn it.
-My feelings are important too.
-When something goes wrong it isn't automatically my fault.
-I don't need to be ashamed of who I am.
-It's ok to be proud of myself if I do something good.
-I didn't do anything to deserve the abuse.
-Not everyone is physically and verbally abusive, so don't be so afraid of people. I'm an adult now and I can take care of myself.
- I'm not a burden, I'm a blessing.
-I'm not stupid (can't yet say as a positive)
-I'm not unattractive (can't yet say as a positive)
Children don't come into the world hating themselves. They learn it. I was hoping people would share who taught them to hate themselves AND what do you do to fight the hate and even, love yourself.
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I'm trying to figure out how to change, how to 'love' myself. How do I convince my HEART what they taught me was wrong? My HEAD knows, but it doesn't seem to help me.
I was going to list all the negatives taught me, but it was so depressing I tried to list as positives, or what I need to LEARN:
-I'm worthy of nice things & nice people in my life.
-I'm valuable just because I'm human, I don't have to earn it.
-My feelings are important too.
-When something goes wrong it isn't automatically my fault.
-I don't need to be ashamed of who I am.
-It's ok to be proud of myself if I do something good.
-I didn't do anything to deserve the abuse.
-Not everyone is physically and verbally abusive, so don't be so afraid of people. I'm an adult now and I can take care of myself.
- I'm not a burden, I'm a blessing.
-I'm not stupid (can't yet say as a positive)
-I'm not unattractive (can't yet say as a positive)
Children don't come into the world hating themselves. They learn it. I was hoping people would share who taught them to hate themselves AND what do you do to fight the hate and even, love yourself.
Sent from my iPhone
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