BPD Support Thread

[Witty_Sarcasm]

Many don't like it. But BPs take it to the next level because they really can't stand being with themselves the most. And having to fend for themselves without anyone else to lean on.

I guess lately, thinking of my suicide has been more comforting than ever. So I'm not as sad as I was before.

 

[bag_of_struggles]

Hi! I don’t have BPD but just a question for the thread.

Im best friends with someone with BPD, what’s the best way to help or just be there for them?

 

[Aurelia]

I guess lately, thinking of my suicide has been more comforting than ever. So I'm not as sad as I was before.

You know what's made me stop thinking about dying most of all? Actually seeing people dying, especially from this pandemic. There's nothing glamorous about it, and when your life is truly in danger, then you realize just how much you want to live.

 

[LOSTINSIGHT]

Hi! I don’t have BPD but just a question for the thread.

Im best friends with someone with BPD, what’s the best way to help or just be there for them?

Are they getting the adequate help from a professional?,1% is the label and 99% is the help needed for it.
BPD spectrum is not something to say having with out deep understanding. Dr fox on YouTube is very knowledgeable.
I didn't even know I was on the spectrum most of my life.
Peace.

 

[Pebble mouse]

BPD is such a horrific condition to have. Thank god for the survival instinct. Without it I wouldn't be here anymore. I have changed my mind is at the last minute a couple of times when I made an attempt. I still have come close to death twice (on one occasion I was on a ventilator in an ICU). My emotional lability and reactivity is much better than it was thankfully. My admission this time last year was the first in a decade. Life generally has improved greatly and, it's now a year with no self harm

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

You know what's made me stop thinking about dying most of all? Actually seeing people dying, especially from this pandemic. There's nothing glamorous about it, and when your life is truly in danger, then you realize just how much you want to live.

I just think I'm seriously fucked up because I think of different ways to do it and I'm practically enjoying it.

 

[Aurelia]

I just think I'm seriously fucked up because I think of different ways to do it and I'm practically enjoying it.

You're not fucked up. You're lonely.

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

You're not fucked up. You're lonely.

I wish that wasn't my automatic thought though just because I'm lonely. I need to find a way to reroute my thoughts.

 

[Aurelia]

I wish that wasn't my automatic thought though just because I'm lonely. I need to find a way to reroute my thoughts.

Loneliness is a bitch. Humans are social creatures...even the socially avoidant ones. We all want at least one person's company. it's not easy to deal with when one doesn't have it.

 

[LOSTINSIGHT]

Does anyone in hindsight see a certain mindset of behaviour and thought patterns that became worse over time ?
Thanks.

 

[Aurelia]

Does anyone in hindsight see a certain mindset of behaviour and thought patterns that became worse over time ?
Thanks.

They can under certain circumstances. For example, the fear of abandonment/being alone could get worse if you're constantly worrying about it happening.

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

Why do I blame myself every time someone leaves my life, even if it has nothing to do with me? It just seems easier to take the blame somehow.

 

[Innocent Forever]

Why do I blame myself every time someone leaves my life, even if it has nothing to do with me? It just seems easier to take the blame somehow.

It gives control...

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

People keep cutting me off, and that makes me want to cut everyone else off so it saves me from further hurt.

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

I actually admitted on Facebook that the thought of being completely alone makes me feel suicidal. I feel I may regret that, but I really need the support right now.

 

[JDot]

I actually admitted on Facebook that the thought of being completely alone makes me feel suicidal. I feel I may regret that, but I really need the support right now.

I hate that you're hurting. Just know we're here for you.

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

I hate that you're hurting. Just know we're here for you.

Thank you, that means a lot to me. I just feel weak about admitting I'm not doing well.

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

I have to start telling people I'm BPD from the get go. I know that no one wants to deal with my shit willingly.

 

[Witty_Sarcasm]

Sometimes I wish it was just depression, or anxiety, or something else. At least that could be treated effectively. But this shit is part of my personality, and it's never going away, no matter how much I may want it to.

 

[Pebble mouse]

Sometimes I wish it was just depression, or anxiety, or something else. At least that could be treated effectively. But this shit is part of my

Don't give up on hope, @Witty⭐️Sarcasm ⭐️. Most borderlines DO tend to improve as they age. I'm now in my mid-forties and there is a world of difference between me in my twenties and me now.