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BPD Support Thread

Witty_Sarcasm

Witty_Sarcasm

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#581
I want to buy a Himalayan salt lamp that changes 8 colors. You should see how many color changing lamps I already have. When my nephew turned them all on at once, it was like a disco in here. But I get obsessed with particular things and need to buy a lot of them.
 
sourpatchmime

sourpatchmime

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#583
#583
Hello. I have been diagnosed with BPD for almost 20 years now, but I still have no idea how to deal with being romantically involved with someone in a healthy way. Rejection kills me and I just wanted to see if anyone has any tips on how to be both available to the notion of romantic feelings but in a safe way? I am 34 and after the latest attempt I am at my wit's end.
 
Gwyrdd

Gwyrdd

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#585
#585
@sourpatchmime I was going to ask if you were bpd while replying to you last post. Because it sounded extremely similar to us.

Post here whenever you think you need to be understood. From experience talking to other borderlines feels very validating.
 
sourpatchmime

sourpatchmime

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#588
#588
I just don't know how to deal with people saying one thing and then turning around and saying the opposite the day after. It is so scary that no matter how hard you try to understand and even give them your honest emotions, you can never really understand them or know if they are honest. it just scares me more than anything else.
 
Witty_Sarcasm

Witty_Sarcasm

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sourpatchmime said:
I just don't know how to deal with people saying one thing and then turning around and saying the opposite the day after. It is so scary that no matter how hard you try to understand and even give them your honest emotions, you can never really understand them or know if they are honest. it just scares me more than anything else.
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It can be scary...people have hurt me a lot and it's hard to know who is trustworthy. I feel like being BPD adds another layer to that. I don't have the answers but you aren't alone in feeling this way.
 
sourpatchmime

sourpatchmime

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#591
#591
I just have these walls around my feelings, especially intimacy and romance. They keep just growing stronger and stronger as I get older. After this last thing I can feel that I am getting unable to feel good things for others. I am not really looking for any answers, maybe I am just venting to someone else in hopes that I can get some understanding. BDP can be hell, I have gotten much better with friendships, I just can't deal with romance and intimacy of that nature.
 
Gwyrdd

Gwyrdd

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#592
#592
Vent away. We definitely get it. I haven't read a si gke post on this thread that I didn't relate to in some way. BPD may have variations but in a lot of ways its very unibtl
 
Gwyrdd

Gwyrdd

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#597
#597
sourpatchmime said:
Do you have walls to protect yourself from intimacy and romance? Because of fear of rejection and being tricked?
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Well, my boyfriend is... well it's complicated but he's sexually unavailable and currently in a different country until his dad dies. So you could say my openness to intimacy is still kinda low considering I picked the one guy I had no sexual prospect with as of rn.
 
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