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I could only date someone that has picture evidence they have dated someone with a smaller penis

RedTerminator13

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I do not trust anybody that says they've been with someone smaller 4-5 inches vs 6-7 and enjoyed it more. I hate dating, I hate pornography, I hate how men have it so much harder than women just because of stupid genetics. Why couldn't everyone just have a generic size, the world would be a much better place and that is a fact.

I don't think anyone truly understands how it feels to be lonely due to your genetics. I cannot count the amount of times I've talked to someone where we've connected but we would never date or hookup due to my penis size or how I looked. There is always a rationalization in someone's head where they ask themselves, is he the best I can get right now and what will other people think. If you have any doubts over what I'm saying, just sign up for dating accounts, talk to women, date, sign up on fetlife, search up amateur porn, look into femdom, etc, the facts are there

I am finally on the path to improving my life but I don't think I'll ever be ready and comfortable entering a sexual relationship ever again in my life and for me that is heartbreaking as a main purpose in life is to raise a family and have offspring so your family grows.
 

Aurelia

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I'm sorry, but you think men have it harder than women? Women are constantly berated and criticized because of their appearance. Bust size, ass size, waist size, etc. The media portrays us as walking sex objects and expects us to live up to it in the real world. Hence, why we become anorexic and get plastic surgery.

Your penis isn't the problem here. Your thought process and self-esteem is.
 

RedTerminator13

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I'm sorry, but you think men have it harder than women? Women are constantly berated and criticized because of their appearance. Bust size, ass size, waist size, etc. The media portrays us as walking sex objects and expects us to live up to it in the real world. Hence, why we become anorexic and get plastic surgery.

Your penis isn't the problem here. Your thought process and self-esteem is.
Most guys nowadays would accept a girl that is average in every way but he'd know she truly loves him back, especially with divorce court rights and other factors. It may be hard/close to impossible for someone to lose weight but it is medically impossible to improve your penis size. Most guys just want someone that takes pride in themselves and weight is a part of that but I feel that is the norm for everyone, not just men.

I think there was a time where yes females were the one's being solely objectified, I don't disagree with that, but men are now if not more being objectified as sex objects as well. The world has changed for younger men. I will leave you with one thought, look at the suicide rate globally vs men and women and ask yourself why there is the discrepancy, across all age groups and countries, understand this reality and how it relates to what I'm saying
 

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Please don't talk about how women have it, you don't know a single thing about it if you think the size of your penis is a comparable struggle. Anyway. I really don't want to get angry, so let's talk about you and your issues.

main purpose in life is to raise a family and have offspring so your family grows.
That certainly does not require any particular size.
 

Auri

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I think there was a time where yes females were the one's being solely objectified, I don't disagree with that, but men are now if not more being objectified as sex objects as well. The world has changed for younger men. I will leave you with one thought, look at the suicide rate globally vs men and women and ask yourself why there is the discrepancy, across all age groups and countries, understand this reality and how it relates to what I'm saying
Oh boy. The suicide rate difference has nothing to do with some gender being more objectified or anything sexual for that matter. It's mostly because men do not tend to express their feelings and seek therapy, and they tend to do reckless things more impulsively, like suicide. It's much more complicated. Don't project your own insecurities on statistics. I can recommend you some books about the objectification of men and women if you wish, because you don't seem to know much about it.

However, is there any reason for comparing them in this thread? Is that your point? Or do you want help about your situation? This sounds more like you're angry at women.
 

Aurelia

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Most guys just want someone that takes pride in themselves
And don't you think that it's also the same vice versa? Maybe you should think about that.

Also, I wasn't saying that men have it easy. Both sexes (and everyone in between) certainly have their own individual issues in society. But when it comes to looks, like @Auri said, you have no idea just how difficult we have it, thanks to media and bullshit stereotypes. But again, the solution for you is not a bigger penis size. It's a new outlook.
 

RedTerminator13

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Oh boy. The suicide rate difference has nothing to do with some gender being more objectified or anything sexual for that matter. It's mostly because men do not tend to express their feelings and seek therapy, and they tend to do reckless things more impulsively, like suicide. It's much more complicated. Don't project your own insecurities on statistics. I can recommend you some books about the objectification of men and women if you wish, because you don't seem to know much about it.

However, is there any reason for comparing them in this thread? Is that your point? Or do you want help about your situation? This sounds more like you're angry at women.
I am just trying to say that there are a lot of factors regarding men committing suicide and a lot has to do with personal relations with women and how attractive they are to the opposite sex. I am not trying to understand how women have it, I am just trying to shed light that nowadays, more than ever, there is sexual shaming of men in dating. Just because I feel this way and it has to do with how women view men and their penise's doesn't change the reality our society has become hyper sexualized. Most men want this to change as well as they have committed to no fap and watching less porn, huge growing communities online. I am saying that these communities are bringing men and woman closer into actually developing healthy relationships but the vast majority are still hyper sexualized for both sexes.

Is there an issue with me trying to deal with this in my life? Please read some of my other posts as well, it is something I've struggled with for some time
 
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The fact that you think that an 'enjoyable' experience in bed has anything at all to do with the size of someone's penis demonstrates how very little you understand about sex or pleasure or women in general. Having been to bed with people with a range of penis sizes and indeed a couple with no penis whatsoever I can say with absolute certainty that penis size is completely irrelevant.

Maybe you would have more luck with women if you thought of them as people to have a relationship with instead of hookups for sex.
 

Aurelia

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I am just trying to say that there are a lot of factors regarding men committing suicide and a lot has to do with personal relations with women and how attractive they are to the opposite sex. I am not eying to understand how women have it, I am just trying to shed light that nowadays, more than ever, there is sexual shaking of men in dating.
Then perhaps you're dating the wrong types of women because that completely depends on personal preference. I don't happen to like buff, pretty boys, for instance. And I certainly don't care about the size of their dicks.
 

Auri

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I am just trying to say that there are a lot of factors regarding men committing suicide and a lot has to do with personal relations with women and how attractive they are to the opposite sex. I am not eying to understand how women have it, I am just trying to shed light that nowadays, more than ever, there is sexual shaking of men in dating.
Well, I don't exactly agree with your point, but whether I agree or not does not matter. Focus on your issue, ask for advice, get help rather than generalizing your issues and fighting over that. It won't help you.

I came here to sincerely help, you're not the first one to be worried about your penis size on the forum, and I can empathize. But you didn't make it easy from the start with these theories and actually subtly objectifying women at the same time.

Look, people have sex without penises. Women have sex without penises. Men and women can. So if it's about enjoyment, it's also not it.
 

RedTerminator13

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The fact that you think that an 'enjoyable' experience in bed has anything at all to do with the size of someone's penis demonstrates how very little you understand about sex or pleasure or women in general. Having been to bed with people with a range of penis sizes and indeed a couple with no penis whatsoever I can say with absolute certainty that penis size is completely irrelevant.

Maybe you would have more luck with women if you thought of them as people to have a relationship with instead of hookups for sex.
I have never looked at woman as just a
hookup, the reason for my thinking is I've actually been shamed after having sex with someone due to my penis size. I have also shared a site called fetlife and other communities online on reddit or other forums where ppl do not enjoy a small penis, this is a popular opinion. I am not saying all, but there is a overwhelming majority
 

Auri

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Just because I feel this way and it has to do with how women view men and their penise's doesn't change the reality our society has become hyper sexualized.
Which women? You got three respectable women (ok, at least two if I'm not one) here telling you they don't care about your penis, but the way you talk about us is pretty upsetting.

Why not just imagine for a second that your issue may actually be somewhere else and we're right? Why not help yourself?
 

Auri

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I've actually been shamed after having sex with someone due to my penis size.
See, and this is the episode that made you so angry at all women. I am sorry this happened to you, it is not fun to be humiliated that way, but don't undermine other people's experiences and generalize about women because you've been treated unfairly.
 

RedTerminator13

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Which women? You got three respectable women (ok, at least two if I'm not one) here telling you they don't care about your penis, but the way you talk about us is pretty upsetting.

Why not just imagine for a second that your issue may actually be somewhere else and we're right? Why not help yourself?
I am saying in my past relationships where I've had sex. I understand you do not care but it is not a view a lot of men can believe so how can we bridge this gap, because genuine desire is something real and unfortunately it can involve someone's penis size.

I am not saying I'm right or women are evil, I'm just simply saying there are large communities that exist that fetishize men and women and I personally feel like shit regarding this reality
 

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You got three respectable women (ok, at least two if I'm not one) here telling you they don't care about your penis
Make that four. I find your opinion that women have it easier insulting and offensive, I'm female and trust me, I do not have it easy nor do I care about the size of a possible boyfriend's penis size. I would much prefer to explore his mind than his body and enjoy time together without worrying about things that don't matter such as penis size.
 

Aurelia

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I have never looked at woman as just a
hookup, the reason for my thinking is I've actually been shamed after having sex with someone due to my penis size. I have also shared a site called fetlife and other communities online on reddit or other forums where ppl do not enjoy a small penis, this is a popular opinion. I am not saying all, but there is a overwhelming majority
So just because you've come across some small-minded women online who probably don't know their brain from their vagina, you think that they're part of a majority? No.

And it's understandable that you're traumatized if you've been shamed before. But again, most of us are not like that. And I'm sorry that happened to you. However, many women just want someone who respects and listens to them, and makes them feel like they're the only woman in the world who matters. And like you said earlier, a little confidence helps too.
 

RedTerminator13

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So just because you've come across some small-minded women online who probably don't know their brain from their vagina, you think that they're part of a majority? No.

And it's understandable that you're traumatized if you've been shamed before. But again, most of us are not like that. And I'm sorry that happened to you. However, many women just want someone who respects and listens to them, and makes them feel like they're the only woman in the world who matters. And like you said earlier, a little confidence helps too.
Yes, as dumb as it sounds yes. Also as I said though personal, real life experiences. I actually struggle performing during sex, it is a really emasculating feeling.

I am also trying to highlight that for men below the ages of 30, it really does seem like a doomsday scenario and most of us have given up. If men give up in dating and interacting with women due to thoughts like mine, how are we going to have healthy families in the future and most importantly, good and strong fathers
 

Auri

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I understand you do not care but it is not a view a lot of men can believe so how can we bridge this gap, because genuine desire is something real and unfortunately it can involve someone's penis size.
First, find decent people to get your opinions from. I mean, I cannot say that our opinion represents the whole female world because of course superficiality exists, no-brainers exist, etc., but there is certainly better than them and it is far from rare. If you don't believe that, then you do have a view of women that is quite restricted to the circles on the internet you've been hanging out in.

Second, I think "bridging this gap" won't happen this way, but by more men getting more confident about their small size. If you promote the idea that having a small penis is so horrible, other men will keep believing that. Seek help for your self-esteem. What do you actually have to offer? Sexually, yes, if that is something that matters to you, but also what else can you offer, I mean, personality-wise, etc. ? Any (decent) woman will always always prefer a good personality to any kind of penis/no penis at all. And I'm sure despite this thread, you do have plenty of better things to offer.
 

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