Hello,
Here's a quick run down of how our relationship has progressed;
We met on Match and instantly hit it off, he has one son from a previous relationship and I have one daughter from a previous relationship. He is my first real relationship ever. We've been together for two years and we got engaged this past November. Since our engagement, I keep thinking about the time he asked me how many people I've slept with. At that time, we were very early on in our relationship and I lied telling him a much smaller number than how many people I've actually slept with. At that point, I didn't want him to break up with me which is why I lied and I also felt like it was no one's business what I've done in my past just like it's not really my business what he's done in his past. He spent 13 years with one woman while I, spent MANY years as a single woman. Most of the time, I ran from relationships to avoid getting hurt again which is an issue that I've come to terms with. I am in my early 30's and he is too. We obviously came from different backgrounds and this is why I don't feel like either one of us should judge one another but I keep wondering if I keep this hidden from him will this destroy our relationship years down the road? I talked to my best friend about this and she told me not to tell him and she also thinks that I am way overthinking this whole situation which, I very well could be. The idea of marriage is a nice idea but it's scary because I know many people who ended up in nasty divorces and I do not want to end up another statistic over something like this. What are your opinions and am I wrong for worrying over this?
Here's a quick run down of how our relationship has progressed;
We met on Match and instantly hit it off, he has one son from a previous relationship and I have one daughter from a previous relationship. He is my first real relationship ever. We've been together for two years and we got engaged this past November. Since our engagement, I keep thinking about the time he asked me how many people I've slept with. At that time, we were very early on in our relationship and I lied telling him a much smaller number than how many people I've actually slept with. At that point, I didn't want him to break up with me which is why I lied and I also felt like it was no one's business what I've done in my past just like it's not really my business what he's done in his past. He spent 13 years with one woman while I, spent MANY years as a single woman. Most of the time, I ran from relationships to avoid getting hurt again which is an issue that I've come to terms with. I am in my early 30's and he is too. We obviously came from different backgrounds and this is why I don't feel like either one of us should judge one another but I keep wondering if I keep this hidden from him will this destroy our relationship years down the road? I talked to my best friend about this and she told me not to tell him and she also thinks that I am way overthinking this whole situation which, I very well could be. The idea of marriage is a nice idea but it's scary because I know many people who ended up in nasty divorces and I do not want to end up another statistic over something like this. What are your opinions and am I wrong for worrying over this?