Putting myself first

Discussion in 'I Have a Question...' started by Rockclimbinggirl, Jun 6, 2016.

  1. Rockclimbinggirl

    Rockclimbinggirl SF climber Staff Member Safety & Support

    I feel bad when I put my own wellbeing first.

    I am trying to be more compassionate to myself and see myself like I would a friend.

    Does anyone else do this? How do you deal with it?
     
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  2. Brian777

    Brian777 Safety and Support Forum Pro SF Supporter

    Hey Rocky, yes I do the same thing, it's hard to put yourself first when all your life you've been told that it's selfish. I trying but it's become a habit to see everyone else is okay, before thinking of myself. I guess we have to keep trying.
    We do, after all, deserve at least the same compassion we offer others. Good luck
    Brian
     
  3. Witty_Sarcasm

    Witty_Sarcasm Writer, Musician, Fun Lover, Magic Maker

    Yes, that's hard for me to do because I am used to putting others first. I like to make other people happy, but sometimes you just need to worry about your own happiness.
     
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  4. SillyOldBear

    SillyOldBear Teddy Bear Fanatic Staff Member Safety & Support

    Witty, just remember that if you don't take care of yourself, you won't be able to help anyone else. One of the first rules of caregiving is to take time for yourself. A husband taking care of a seriously ill wife would not be able to care for her if he did not take care of himself. He would wear himself out and possibly fail when his wife needed him most. Self-care is extremely important.
     
  5. Witty_Sarcasm

    Witty_Sarcasm Writer, Musician, Fun Lover, Magic Maker

    Thank you, I will keep your words in mind and start trying to take care of myself before I try to help anyone else.
     
  6. SillyOldBear

    SillyOldBear Teddy Bear Fanatic Staff Member Safety & Support

    Great Witty! Just keep in mind that if you are not healthy, you will not be able to help anyone. So in a very real way the world does truly revolve around you.
     
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