Jim's Cafe - 21st Feb 2021

[Livelife]

Hey, Dante. Thanks for the invite.

1. The usual. Being a homebody, living like a recluse, trying to heal my mental/psychological issues with help from the friends I've made here. Doing my best to avoid the worst parts of my depression. Some days are good, some are bad, some are okay, others are terrible. But I do my best. That's all any of us can ask of ourselves.

2. Nothing. I was social distancing before the pandemic, so what's been going on hasn't really affected my lifestyle much. I'm not in contact with any member of my family, I have no friends other than the ones I have here.

3. The sounds of the 1970s. My favorite decade of music. Classic Rock at its peak. Queen, Led-Zeppelin, Aerosmith, The Rolling Stones. This kind of music has gone extinct. Why? It was so great.

4. Only need one. I wish I had been born female into a loving family.

5. Many people. MANY people. @Lara_C, @Sunspots, @Livelife, @sinking_ship, @Snake on the Moon, @JMG. Just to name a few, like I said, MANY people have helped me. Thank you all for helping me through some very difficult times. I appreciate you all

Thank you Autumn, I am happy to see when you are here and appreciate your sharing. And yes to the 70's....nothing like it before or since

 

[Autumn1973]

Thank you Autumn, I am happy to see when you are here and appreciate your sharing. And yes to the 70's....nothing like it before or since

The feelings are mutual So glad you're a part of this family. Very thankful for what you contribute. Also happy to hear you appreciate the music of the 70s as much as I do. You rock!

 

[Livelife]

The feelings are mutual So glad you're a part of this family. Very thankful for what you contribute. Also happy to hear you appreciate the music of the 70s as much as I do. You rock!

you've made my day, thank you And no doubt we could have a lot of fun listening to and talking about that decade of music.

 

[Autumn1973]

you've made my day, thank you And no doubt we could have a lot of fun listening to and talking about that decade of music.

Yes we could. Are you as passionate a fan of Queen as I am? Do you think Queen and Led-Zeppelin are the greatest bands of all time?

 

[Autumn1973]

Wow, think this is the first time I was ever tagged in one of these kinds of q's! It's quite a nice and shocking feeling I must say. Definitely never met anyone who came close to appreciating me even half as much as you do so tysm dear friend! I think I retract what I said about not singling someone out, I will single someone out for this q as well and say that yes there is absolutely a very special someone who has really made a difference for me here and who I appreciate and am so grateful for - you! I had utterly lost all hope that it was even possible to find a person who was able to feel appreciation to me in a real and sincere way, was definitely starting to doubt whether I even deserved to find such a person so to say this really means a lot to me...there's just no words that could even begin to express it. I hope you know how much your acknowledgement and appreciation means to me though, so happy right now I just don't even know what to say or do.


Tysm Sunspots that is kind of you, I am feeling a lot better now (not just physically either) Hope you are well too

Big, Big, Big Hugs Unlimited Big Hugs So you will always have Big Hugs available when you want or need them, my friend.

 

[Livelife]

Yes we could. Are you as passionate a fan of Queen as I am? Do you think Queen and Led-Zeppelin are the greatest bands of all time?

you're psychic, didn't know that, Lol. They are at the top....I never got to see Queen to my chagrin but I did see Led Zeppelin 5 times

 

[Autumn1973]

Wow! Five times! That is awesome! Would love to go back in time to see Zeppelin and Queen. These kinds of bands don't exist anymore. No more bands that take chances with songs like "Bohemian Rhapsody" or "Stairway to Heaven." It's really sad. Not nearly as many songs that try to connect with people on a deeper level (I think The Beatles did this better than any other band in history). Songs like "My Life," "Yesterday," "Hey Jude," just to name a few.

 

[Livelife]

Wow! Five times! That is awesome! Would love to go back in time to see Zeppelin and Queen. These kinds of bands don't exist anymore. No more bands that take chances with songs like "Bohemian Rhapsody" or "Stairway to Heaven." It's really sad. Not nearly as many songs that try to connect with people on a deeper level (I think The Beatles did this better than any other band in history). Songs like "My Life," "Yesterday," "Hey Jude," just to name a few.

The depth, the content, the music and lyrics had substance, Spirit, magic back then....took you on a journey.......and The Beatles and what they created in such a short period of time....Hey Jude, Let it Be, In My Life, Here Comes the Sun, The Long and Winding Road.....etc.

 

[Autumn1973]

The depth, the content, the music and lyrics had substance, Spirit, magic back then....took you on a journey.......and The Beatles and what they created in such a short period of time....Hey Jude, Let it Be, In My Life, Here Comes the Sun, The Long and Winding Road.....etc.

"While my Guitar Gently Weeps," "Something." Yeah, they accomplished so much more in a short period of time than most bands do over the course of decades. Then after The Beatles broke up, John Lennon went on to write "Imagine."

 

[MisterBGone]

I think the correct answer, is: (Guns N' Roses) j/k..

 

[johnDoen]

Jim's Cafe
Welcome once again to Jim's Cafe! I know I usually leave it until there hasnt been a cafe for a while and then I scold you all for letting it happen *sf_wink but this time I kinda felt like putting something up. This isnt going to be my usual "maximum effort" attempt with multiple tables, especially since, well, the "today we are celebrating..." list is kinda weak for the 21st, mainly whales, nest boxes and various bread products, so today Im just going to have the 1 table, and you can all participate.

Fun Facts
1) The pain of rejection is REAL, brain scans have shown people who have been rejected socially show the same patterns of brain activity to those experiencing physical pain, so dont let anyone tell you you aren't hurting.
2) It takes time for the brain to develop empathy, so before a certain age we are all testable sociopaths
3) We make most of our decisions unconsciously and justify them afterwards, this has been tested by people being asked to justify their answers to a questionnaire and being given a questionnaire with different answers to the ones they filled out, and they go right ahead and argue for those answers without thinking about it.
4) Memories are seriously unreliable, they degrade over time and our minds are constantly filling in the gaps by simply making it up, this mechanism is so strong that if you are suitably convinced that an event happened which didn't actually happen, your mind will often MAKE a memory from scratch to fit. (This makes witness testimony hilariously unreliable too)

Activities
Yes, today we are having some exciting activities that I expect you ALL to participate in.
1) Pick someone on SF (Try not to pick someone who someone else picked) Tag them and say something good about them, not just "oh your great" something specifically about them.
2) Look at yourself and do the same thing, say something great to yourself and mean it, because you deserve it. (You do deserve it, no arguing).
3) If you're like me and stick to the "Latest Posts" section of the forum all too much, go exploring, find a corner of the forum you never visited before and see if there is anything that is worth posting in.

Questions
1) What have you been up to?
2) What's the FIRST thing you plan to do when all this pandemic crap is over, the shops are open again and hugging isn't frowned upon?
3) If you could bring back any trend, be it fashion, music, slang, anything, what would it be and why?
4) Oh would you look at that, a Genie's lamp. What are your 3 wishes?
5) Who on SF has really helped you? (Tagging them in your response is encouraged)

Tags
As ever, I am going to cheat and slowly copy these from a previous Cafe. Please tag anyone I missed, and if you would like to be removed from my list, please PM me.
@Aurelia @FlamingoWrangler @HappyKitty @johnDoen @Kiwi2016 @cymbele @extraterrestrialone @Sunday16

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Activities

Pick someone on SF (Try not to pick someone who someone else picked) Tag them and say something good about them, not just "oh your great" something specifically about them.
- @may71, @MisterBGone, @Walker and @Holding my breath, for sending me helps. You are all patient and supportive.

Most of the time, I cannot even remember what kinds of help do I need or whom I suppose to ask. Then, there is a fear of change and whatever it means to be a man kind of thing.

Look at yourself and do the same thing, say something great to yourself and mean it, because you deserve it. (You do deserve it, no arguing).
- All names in one (I have a lot of aliases, especially online), you are who you are, as through suffering comes compassion. May God be with you, regardless of how you feel of Him in this moment of living

(The stuffs I say to myself, if it's positive, is similar to the one above, quite formal, ancient and sometimes I forgot what it means)

If you're like me and stick to the "Latest Posts" section of the forum all too much, go exploring, find a corner of the forum you never visited before and see if there is anything that is worth posting in.
- You can sometimes find my replies in the Faith section. I made them during the time when my faith was less confusing.

Questions

What have you been up to?
- Let be somewhat more cheerful here, at least in this reply. I'm thinking of getting back into drawing again. It's almost a year now. The damage of self-harm often makes it harder to properly hold a pencil and works drain me quite a lot of time and energy. Then, there is still a need to somehow get myself to exercising and find it exciting.

Basically, all the stuff I suppose to do but didn't.

What's the FIRST thing you plan to do when all this pandemic crap is over, the shops are open again and hugging isn't frowned upon?
- Traveling to different parts of my country and having a passport for traveling abroad.

If you could bring back any trend, be it fashion, music, slang, anything, what would it be and why?
- Hippies, like during the 60s. They seem to be more carefree and happier than most of us nowadays.

Oh would you look at that, a Genie's lamp. What are your 3 wishes?
- Robin Williams (he voiced Genie in the original Alladin), access to Mister Roger's Neighborhood series with full English subtitles in every episode (it's probably too much to ask for free or subtitles in my native language), and freedom to the genie.

(If there is no rule on wishing, whatsoever. I mean my first wish is about bringing someone back to life)

Who on SF has really helped you? (Tagging them in your response is encouraged)
- @may71 and @MisterBGone.

 

[JMG]

Thanks @JMG -And I feel the same way about You, too!!! I definitely would not be saying & doing those things if I did not feel and believe them to be true. . . I'm a "nice," guy~ (but Not THAT-) 'Nice_!' (; heh heh heh

Yw and wow tysm MBG that really means a lot to me that you think the same about me! It's far nicer than I feel I deserve but I appreciate it more than I could ever say anyway!

thank you @JMG it means a lot to me.

Ysw Mike, thank you again too for being so nice!

Big, Big, Big Hugs Unlimited Big Hugs So you will always have Big Hugs available when you want or need them, my friend.

Aw tysm Autumn that's so sweet and kind of you! Glad I didn't overwhelm you with all I wrote

 

[RCee]

@RCee is funny and knows how to pick the perfect Twitter gifs lol.

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you are wise to acknowledge the master

 

[Blue Star]

I learned from the best.

 

[RCee]

I learned from the best.

Hahaha ok ok I stop , i can do this all day! Haha 😆 you know that best of all 😂 😂

 

[Blue Star]

View attachment 43082 Hahaha ok ok I stop , i can do this all day! Haha 😆 you know that best of all 😂 😂

 

[dandelions]

* tiptoes in *,
hello?!
* well, the coffee pot is hot and full so i guess the café is still open *.
hey @Dante sorry i’m really only just arriving now.
* pours cup of coffee and sips *.

* takes seat at favorite table even though its nighttime *.

lately i’ve been having a little difficulty with being able to engage in conversation etc. so that may be why i’ve not been in for a couple days. but i did read your intro a couple days ago and it did stick in my mind. so when just before, i was lying in bed unable to fall back asleep, caught in thought about how disappointing and disastrous my new intensive therapy program has been going for me, my thoughts went to one “fun fact” above that i’ve heard before as well that i guess indirectly related to my thoughts. that fact is

4) Memories are seriously unreliable, they degrade over time and our minds are constantly filling in the gaps by simply making it up, this mechanism is so strong that if you are suitably convinced that an event happened which didn't actually happen, your mind will often MAKE a memory from scratch to fit. (This makes witness testimony hilariously unreliable too)

and i do have a little problem with this. to me it makes me think it is being suggested that what a person remembers is not real, or maybe even fictitious. there have been movies made about this concept! but as i think about it, it occurs to me that in a given situation with real people in it, where things happen, a crucial part of the incident is what goes on in the brains of those participants. unfortunately no one external to the individual is aware of those parts because they can’t be seen. then later in studies it comes to appear that the mind was only making up parts as if they were not real and thus should be considered as not real. i’ve engaged in extensive conversation with two or more others here on SF (so here i go with the tags, not exactly as you might have envisioned but tags just the same.. @Lara_C @Human Ex Machinae ) in a thread that may now be so old its locked and i don’t remember the title i gave it anyway, where it was discussed the issues in apparent existence that make knowing if anything is real at all really does come into question even for the supposedly “sane”.

this coffee is good. i’m getting a croissant. brb.

back.

it all seems to tumble into quantum physics, mechanics and the like, (and my own personal take on “spirituality”), and esoteric discussion that becomes way more fascinating than my mind tends to have capacity for, yet i still ponder. but that i ponder should not be taken as an admission that the fact in question here is correct. i strongly dispute it!

my point is that within the brain, this situation i mentioned is still happening and happening in a universe that is as unreliable as the thoughts about it in any given brain are. it is necessary to create connectors in the mind so that the event can be grasped, understood and retained. i suggest that those connectors are as real as the event itself. now with this point out on the table, i will stop because this is the café and its empty kind of, right now, and maybe no one would want to talk about this at length anyway. also i’m going to go and get more coffee and some of those tasty snacks and ponder some more...

i might get sleepy and go back to bed, but if i can, i will try to tackle the rest of the facts and Qs while hoping someone else who can’t sleep also happens by and engages in conversation with me.

in the meantime, in just a few more hours...
🌞🌞🌞 - in fact, or surrogate, or fantasy, or alternate, and maybe even esoteric - for all!!!

 

[MisterBGone]

I often have to change the word art things in your quote as they would become "view attachment" in this reply.

Activities

Pick someone on SF (Try not to pick someone who someone else picked) Tag them and say something good about them, not just "oh your great" something specifically about them.
- @may71, @MisterBGone, @Walker and @Holding my breath, for sending me helps. You are all patient and supportive.

Most of the time, I cannot even remember what kinds of help do I need or whom I suppose to ask. Then, there is a fear of change and whatever it means to be a man kind of thing.

Look at yourself and do the same thing, say something great to yourself and mean it, because you deserve it. (You do deserve it, no arguing).
- All names in one (I have a lot of aliases, especially online), you are who you are, as through suffering comes compassion. May God be with you, regardless of how you feel of Him in this moment of living

(The stuffs I say to myself, if it's positive, is similar to the one above, quite formal, ancient and sometimes I forgot what it means)

If you're like me and stick to the "Latest Posts" section of the forum all too much, go exploring, find a corner of the forum you never visited before and see if there is anything that is worth posting in.
- You can sometimes find my replies in the Faith section. I made them during the time when my faith was less confusing.

Questions

What have you been up to?
- Let be somewhat more cheerful here, at least in this reply. I'm thinking of getting back into drawing again. It's almost a year now. The damage of self-harm often makes it harder to properly hold a pencil and works drain me quite a lot of time and energy. Then, there is still a need to somehow get myself to exercising and find it exciting.

Basically, all the stuff I suppose to do but didn't.

What's the FIRST thing you plan to do when all this pandemic crap is over, the shops are open again and hugging isn't frowned upon?
- Traveling to different parts of my country and having a passport for traveling abroad.

If you could bring back any trend, be it fashion, music, slang, anything, what would it be and why?
- Hippies, like during the 60s. They seem to be more carefree and happier than most of us nowadays.

Oh would you look at that, a Genie's lamp. What are your 3 wishes?
- Robin Williams (he voiced Genie in the original Alladin), access to Mister Roger's Neighborhood series with full English subtitles in every episode (it's probably too much to ask for free or subtitles in my native language), and freedom to the genie.

(If there is no rule on wishing, whatsoever. I mean my first wish is about bringing someone back to life)

Who on SF has really helped you? (Tagging them in your response is encouraged)
- @may71 and @MisterBGone.

Well, thanks a ton! @johnDoen --(though, I don't know that I am worthy & deserving of such praise?)

I really do think that you are the man! : ) Yes, yes - I do... :^) Now, at your position and place in Life, I can only shudder to think of how & where I was; what I was doing & etc. But I was certainly no where near as deep a thinker, nor well spoken, and versed in crafting such well composed 'thoughts,' & then setting them (down) "pen to paper~!" So, bravo-

Also, I hope you're able to tackle or take on the art of Drawing again! I think that-that would be incredible, particularly since it is already an acquired skill: or one in which you've already taken the trouble to learn & develop. So, therefore, as you suggest (for obvious practical reasons) it may take a minute to 'get back in it,' I think that once you do -- you'll be incredibly happy and thankful that you did! Just take it slow, don't push it, and let things come (back) to you naturally; or organically.

I think it was a little over a year ago (Nov) when I'd picked up the guitar again for the first time in a bout ~a year and a half- And, as expected (for this was hardly 'the first!') it was a little slow going // walk before you run, kind-of-a-thing; but then. . . before you know it? Like "magic," (or something, Maybe!) it's suddenly rushing back into your system and coursing through your soul & your veins in such a way that almost breathes new life into you. I think this began to occur around weeks 3-4! And so then, by the Holidays~ I'd say, anyway...

I had started to hit my groove: and then enter into a "prime," so to speak of playing/performing (for myself) that extended and only got better up until / and to, or through--the Spring & then Summer. Before peaking sometime therein, and then falling (or beginning to) back down to Earth somewhere around the Fall. It now sounds not very terribly good, or great to my ear; but that just may be that I need a little break, or something - as things may have begun to "stale?" I don't know! But my point is that this progression, or something similar can and will most likely happen to or for you, as well. If you just let it. . : )

You know, as sad as it is, and as hard as it may be to believe, I have never even seen Alladin? Though i believe we played the song in high school band (I could be wrong, there were so many simliar or like it, I think--from around that time!). . . :^) I wish I had, and probably could/should/or will~ at some point in the future as I find him (Mr Williams) to be a tremendous talent, that is both extraordinary AND rare- ;^)

If I can ask -& you may feel no pressure to respond (by any means, ok?)... but just curious, as to who it would be, that you'd like to bring back to life (if you could?).

It's also "Okay," to not necessarily always know what kind of help you'll need at a given moment, or in a given time. And MOST PEOPLE - Don't Love 'change~!' ; ) so, don't sweat it.. I'd say this in fact makes you quite rather "normal," in my book!

Funny story, in elementary school during the like late '80s, our teacher, who was on the older side, butch hair cut, sounded like a drill sergeant; but only with a warm heart seemingly filled with gold. . . Would always shout very distinct phrases at us, that would only reveal their humor to us years later (as we were to young to comprehend, or understand!). But one was: "You HIPPIE- from the '60s!!!" Keep in mind this was the '80s. And we were all like Ten!

 

[KM76710]

View attachment 43082 Hahaha ok ok I stop , i can do this all day! Haha 😆 you know that best of all 😂 😂

Darth Maul was by far my favorite character, so delightfully wicked but in a fun way, But Palpatine was next for me.

Although the true heart, soul and backbone of the Star Wars 'verse was the brilliantly deceptive Jar Jar Binks. LOL

 

[Autumn1973]

I think the correct answer, is: (Guns N' Roses) j/k..

"November Rain." Another example of an epic masterpiece.